I have no interests or hobbies or passion,

[ifeelquiteboring]

Hi

I have name changed for this because I'm quite embarrassed but as the title says. I literally have 0.

I like to exercise, I'm a mum of 1 but I don't do much other than work be a mum and that is it.

My partner keeps calling me boring because I can't hold a conversation or bring many conversations to the table and asks me what I enjoy or what I find interesting.

I want to find new things find new loves find something that interests me but have no clue where to start.

Is anyone else like this or has anyone been in this position and pulled themselves out? Some how?

I know it's not an AIBU but I don't know where to put it! I feel like I have no substance Part from being good at my job and amazing at being a mother.

@RadRad

for a few hours this morning I turned my phone totally off but this is what I can be guilty of and I do make plans to stop. I probably could do with getting my laptop out because I don’t come on these kind of apps on there so I can probably get more out of that. I am wanting to make a difference but I need to work on my two year olds sleep routine into the process. I get so touched out at these hours.

You do know that you can do things WITH your children, right? You don't need to wait for your child to sleep to get some me time. We went to a museum yesterday with my partner as our "date morning" and there were plenty of people with small children about. You can also go to a library together, do some crafting or drawing, gentle yoga etc.

i have ended the relationship this morning for anyone that comes back or reads it!!

Heavens what an update! What was the final straw? Sounds like there were many many straws. I;m glad though. you don't need to be with someone who undermines you like that!

💐Sounds to me as though writing down how you were feeling and seeing some of the responses may have clarified how DP was making you feel?

All the best, OP . . . you said in your 1st post that you are good at your job and you are an amazing mum. These are brilliant and I hope you will now be able to take some time for yourself

Hope you get to visit Italy with your DD 😀

I think there are phases in life where interests and hobbies take a bit of a back seat. Adult life can be really busy sometimes!

Personally, I've found I've gone back to activities I enjoyed as a child. I joined a choir because I did that for many years as a kid, and really enjoy it.
When I was young, I used to like copying very detailed pictures from books. I've started doing that again, and my DD thinks I'm now gods gift to art, and likes to do it with me!

That's quite an update!

Best of luck, I hope you find happiness and a supportive partner when you're ready.

OP are you okay? @ifeelquiteboring

@MrsBurtMacklin

im absolutely tired but I haven’t done much for the whole weekend but that’s okay! It’s my birthday at the end of the week and I’ve decided every money gift that I get will be going on myself. We’ve been here before he assumes I’ll go back grovelling but this time I’ve blocked him and I never ever ever do that. I told him he was too boring and too annoying and also a let down to our child so I couldn’t continue. I’m okay I can’t wait for work tomorrow though being stuck at home 3 days ( a week before pay day is always a poor week £££) I just need routine although I’ve loved the extra day with my daughter! We are going on a little UK break in 3 weeks so I’m counting down to that! Thank you for asking. It’s the meaning it and staying away from him but allowing him to see our child that will be the harder part. When I’m not in Contact or seeing him it’s a breeze

Blimey OP, are you ok?

@Oblomov24 @ThereAreNoSloesOnThere

im absolutely fine, I’m tired because my two year old isn’t sleeping. But I'm fine. It’s a very long list of problems. I booked him a city break for his 40th at the end of the year he was crying etc at the time but has been so ungrateful ever since. He decided to send me £50 for my birthday when it isn’t even till the end of the week. He knows as a mother to my 1st that a small gift and a card from my two year old is huge for me but not even sure that’ll come. It just is all about him his needs and wants and this was probably the reason for the post in the first place however I am grateful for the ideas and suggestions and have began YouTubing etc!!

I once tried to listen to Joe rogan and he accused me of copying him like we were in school.

I have kept him blocked he found a way to ask me to ring him this morning I ignored that too. I’ve communicated via email about our child and my feelings on it and left it at that. I will be back at work tomorrow so normal routine takes place and I’m out at the weekend so bring the busy days back I just wish I could have some ME time in the evening. What id do for a bath as hot as I can take it and to sit in it as long as I want but it doesn’t happen when I get toys and a 2 year old with me every time 😂

I will get there!!

Yikes OP. He sounds like a twat. Hope you're okay.

1. your partner being into “scandals and pdiddy” does not make him and interesting person! In fact having an interest does not make you an interesting person. I would hate to be lectured by someone about their interest.

I think being interesting is actually more about being a good conversationalist and I think that is about being good at asking questions. Most people don’t want to hear my opinion, they want to talk about themselves. And I am very good at asking questions.

2. i have NO hobbies. I do some sport but I would never talk about it cause it is too dull. Having a hobby does not make you interesting but it can bring joy to your life, help you make friends, exercise creative parts of your brain etc. Do a hobby for you! Not because it will make you interesting. It won’t.

3. being knowledgeable is a different thing entirely and again does not necessarily make you interesting. I get 90% of my knowledge from podcasts, BBC sounds has loads. I like science and history. I don’t listen to the news because it is too depressing.

so my top tip would be: ask more questions! Here’s some for starter:

”what are you reading at the moment / watching” (and then follow up… is it good? Why do you like it?

”What was interesting that happened to you today?”

”How are your friends/parents/siblings”

”if you won the lottery where would you go/ live/ what would you eat”

”what’s the best book/film/concert/album your ever seen/read”

I was really ungainly as a child but took up dancing in adult life and was stunned when I was picked from a big class for a troupe to dance at a big venue for an international festival. I had to practise twice as hard as anyone else and I was in the back row most of the time but still loved it. You might blossom late as a dancer!

@Oblomov24 @ThereAreNoSloesOnThere

i have kept what’s app open so he can communicate about our child but he sent me the song Eva Cassidy songbird this morning… I absolutely flipped because what relevance has that got to our relationship.