I have no interests or hobbies or passion,

[ifeelquiteboring]

Hi

I have name changed for this because I'm quite embarrassed but as the title says. I literally have 0.

I like to exercise, I'm a mum of 1 but I don't do much other than work be a mum and that is it.

My partner keeps calling me boring because I can't hold a conversation or bring many conversations to the table and asks me what I enjoy or what I find interesting.

I want to find new things find new loves find something that interests me but have no clue where to start.

Is anyone else like this or has anyone been in this position and pulled themselves out? Some how?

I know it's not an AIBU but I don't know where to put it! I feel like I have no substance Part from being good at my job and amazing at being a mother.

“Every night I look up the English language newspaper of another country. Just to see what's going on”

thats actually a brilliant idea!!

When walking with your child in the woods you could record birdsong on birdnet app and identify it, take photos of plants, flowers, mushrooms etc an identify via apps or Google lens. If we think of anything when out, I will google it when I get home and follow it up a bit, I like the random knowledge it gives me. I enjoy subject based history e.g.
History of medicine, or cooking, love the Gregg Wallace factory series for this, it leads me down rabbit holes of info.
It might be a start!

DS is 20 months, I'm pregnant, work 5 days. I have very little to talk about with anyone. I'm mentally and physically exhausted by juggling so much, mainly the latest virus DS brings home and lack of sleep.

Prior to motherhood I had plenty to say and loved going out and socialising, loved long walks, finding a new soft skill to develop but I don't have any inclnation right now.

Survival mode is real in your child rearing years. DH and me are parenting, working or also on our phones and that's fine rn.

Also is your relationship keeping you mentally stimulated? Your partner seems to think you have nothing to offer conversationally, what about your thoughts on him?

I feel like I have no interests either! I do like health and wellness and obsessed with learning about elegance/ femininity which I do on YouTube via following a few people who practice this and give tips. I’m also gender critical and read up in the trans debate and how it impacts women. I feel like both of these interests are either boring or controversial to some people so nobody knows about them. Could you get a pet? When I had Guinea pigs I spent ages reading up on them joined forums etc on how to look after them.

Learn about elegance and femininity? WTAF? NEWSFLASH - you don't learn your femininity, you ARE your femininity!

@DanielGault lol exactly why I don’t talk about it! It’s not so much that I would actually put it into practice but I find it interesting. How to carry yourself , being kind, well spoken etc etc. being feminine and classy means different things to different people.

I follow the Daily Connoisseur on youtube and she talks about this. I've been following her since her blog 18-ish years ago. I also LOVE food youtube vlogs.

@ThereAreNoSloesOnThere I follow that one too! Also Jamila Musayeva and the feminine universe to name 2 (but follow many more). Love food and health podcasts.

You carry yourself however the hell you want fgs! Be a dick, don't be a dick, none of that has anything to do with feminism. Feminity is power. It's nothing to do with ridiculous preconceptions about how we should daintily behave ourselves!

Will look that up, thank you!

Join your local Model Railway or Model Engineering club

Second learning a language. Download Duolingo.

It's only a couple minutes a day but you'll feel like you're achieving something and it may spark further interests.

I have developed a passion for history podcasts as well as podcasts about the supernatural and unexplained.

Don't care much about comments from your partner if there is no support to give you the space to try something new. Raising a child until they reach secondary school age is a job in itself and you have a day job too.
I am the primary earner in my family and spent all waking hours being a mum, planning long term finances, house chores, looking after parents and growing in my career. Now that my daughter is 13+ I have taken up Karate, archery and volunteering with girl guiding in the last 2 years. I feel fit, renewed and making new friendships too. Enjoy the early years of your little one...

You are an amazing mother and keep the house and marriage together. That's a huge amount...
Could you put on the news or BBC iplayer current affairs (whilst multitasking) to get up to date on the news... that's a start

I've listened to some fascinating true crime podcasts. Not everyone's cup of tea.
Also some explorers podcasts, hauntings (there's usually some history thrown in there)
If I see a news article on something that sparks an interest, I might look up some background to it.

If you're interested in lots of different things then it's easier to talk to people as you'll find a connection. Having only one hobby and being focussed on that can make someone pretty dull.

RTE.ie have some really good ones.

When I started reading your post 'I've listened to some true crime podcasts' @AstralSpace I thought for a minute you were going to advise OP to do away with her partner 😄well, it would certainly not be a boring thing to do.

I don't think anyone who describes themselves as "amazing at being a mum" is lacking in confidence!

Does nobody just talk about the news or the weather anymore as a conversation starter?

Oooh! I shall check them out thank you. :)

I tend to agree with him, although I wouldn't put it as harshly.

People with no interests do tend to be not very interesting
There's loads out there to enjoy.

Your dp is a twat clearly. Had this not occurred to you before?
I don't have hobbies. My hobby is mn'ing!

@Oblomov24 😂😂 im
spending the weekend and the following week away from him and I actually feel quite peaceful right now but same as last night my two year old is up still and is showing no signs of tiredness so what time do I have at the minute for anything!! I’m currently watching satisfying videos on YouTube.

i love the uplift this has given me both confidence and food for thought into new avenues!!

i used to dance as a child and teen but again I was always at the back and never picked for performances so I wasn’t very confident!! But hey!

How can you be on your phone in your spare time and not have things to talk about, if you do mindless scrolling, I would try to come off that for a while, it’s a massive waste of time and I think it must be literally killing brain cells. I noticed myself doing mindless scrolling a while ago and when I stopped, I realised how much free time I actually a
have to do other things. I read a lot and I am spending less time on MN now lol.