Fiancée going to Ibiza minus her engagement ring

[Amibeingcheated]

My fiancée is going to Ibiza without me and plans to leave her engagement ring at home to keep it safe.
is this a reasonable thing to do?
AIBU ~ it’s fine she is just keeping it safe
IANBU ~ don’t trust her

I actually think she's just playing it safe IMO.

I never take mine on hol

I would take my wedding ring

I don’t wear my engagement or wedding ring for swimming etc and presumably she will be doing that in Ibiza. It’s just because I don’t want to damage it. If I were going abroad I wouldn’t wear it as I would end up losing it taking it on and off all the time.

She’s being very sensible.

Trip to Ibiza - one less thing to lose! I would definitely leave an expensive/meaningful piece of jewellery at home!

If you are this untrusting then split now. Holidays and pricey engagement rings can be unrelaxing- will I lose it? Will I damage it? Will I get mugged for it? Assuming you're a man I'm guessing you've never thought about any of this crap but it's daily life for women.

Your username implies you don't trust the woman you plan to marry?

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Atylyk-Moissanite-Engagement-Sterling-Solitaire/dp/B09KRJD9GG/ref=sr_1_9?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.S2K-XsqjQeTSpkwpVPSoAdFA293Ntdlo8ZMzse0sSCnJRs-yeJkh0PBFuEiGcLC3WTux4_WPpDlXbroZL7CUZw3tlrqlagLp5DIOw-o-f7VpuKaCEAjcC3LEXWyoEq4sSaJx-9QsQdM7g1y4UVjFNr-9ydkyden2XXBPrI6C5W4tl6G-4e6wGHXyNZZymvzYnWWJK-2ahjwHpKQVY2pfin3AlxZU0nb6cPT9kSunr5hr6eewwZOLhe3yMu-c0A3iSybRmLVD-B4SGMlTj_wNoB-PBmurrfHJtJet0GjHlG4.uFMr9CviijvgCaVUBgGPLjA99ei6PxB90hmmQ_k3vd0&dib_tag=se&keywords=diamond+engagement+rings&qid=1715952005&sr=8-9

Under £25.

If she wants to cheat then she will cheat, regardless of the engagement ring. You either trust her or you dont.

Dear god, I suggest you call it off now if you suspect she’s going to cheat on you in Ibiza!
Your username says it all 🙄

I can't blame her for leaving it at home, and if you don't trust her then why are you getting married?
I frequently leave my wedding ring off (if I'm going to look around a particularly dirty / hands-on site with work etc) and my wife doesn't assume I'm out there with my kit off.

I wear my wedding ring everywhere but usually leave my engagement ring at home when on holiday, it's a pretty standard thing to do. It's my most expensive piece of jewellery and I'd hate to lose it.Certainly mothing to be suspicious of (and you need to deal with your jealousy and distrust of her because it will destroy your relationship).

Buy her a little silver ring or a fake if you’re worried about it, or maybe tattoo her with your name and address.. but frankly why are you marrying someone you don’t trust?

LTB 😊

An engagement ring means nothing. I hope you break up though as you clearly have trust issues.

This.

but I actually feel odd without my rings so I’d just wear a cheap one in place of it for the holiday

She’s just keeping it safe. In my experience, removing your rings isn’t a thing for women like it is for men. A man might remove his ring if he wanted to play away, because, on the whole, women would prefer not to shag attached men. Men on the other hand don’t really care and probably wouldn’t even notice a ring. Massively sweeping generalisation obviously, but true of my experience.

Been married decades, always leave expensive jewellery at home, attempted mugging for my bag years ago in Tenerife, break in Minorca, they got husbands wallet, thankfully I'd thrown my clothes over my purse that night. Still spent time with a friend back home cancelling husbands cards for us.

If she was going to cheat she'd hardly tell you she was leaving the ring at home- she'd just take it off (and TBH some random bloke in Ibiza probably doesn't care whether she's wearing a ring or not).

Your actual problem is lack of trust.

Leaving the ring seems sensible rather than scheming.

I don't wear any jewellery when I travel.

She doesnt need to go to Ibiza to cheat. I've know someone who had a 2 minute drunken bunkup down an alleyway which ended their marriage. She doesn't need to travel for it. If she's going to do it she will.

I never worry about where my H is, who he's with or what he's doing. I trust him until he gives me a reason not to trust him. In the meantime there no point worrying about something I have no control over.

If she was going to cheat wouldn't she just wait until she left to take the ring off? Think for 10 seconds about it and you'll realize this is ridiculous. It's not even remotely suspicious.

I always suspect that people who make baseless cheating accusations are projecting. Maybe don't get married if you aren't ready to be fully committed to a single person.

Is leaving your engagement ring at home so you don't lose it on a holiday a reasonable thing to do? Yes. Absolutely. If she was planning to cheat on you, she could have stashed it elsewhere and not told you.

Is your girlfriend going to cheat on you? Who knows.

If she's never given you any reason to doubt her but this alone is making you question her integrity then the poor girl is in for a rough ride. And I say this as a guy.

Then again, you were smart enough to doubt yourself enough to ask for advice so maybe you're alright.

I always take my wedding ring (which is cheap) and never take my engagement ring (which was expensive) anywhere I might lose it. I go to a lot of dodgy places!

Are there any other reasons to be worried?