Fiancée going to Ibiza minus her engagement ring

[Amibeingcheated]

My fiancée is going to Ibiza without me and plans to leave her engagement ring at home to keep it safe.
is this a reasonable thing to do?
AIBU ~ it’s fine she is just keeping it safe
IANBU ~ don’t trust her

I never take my engagement ring or wedding ring to Ibiza or anywhere else that I go on holiday with my friends. They are worth far more than my travel insurance would cover, never mind the sentimental value.

You know, if she wants to cheat, an engagement ring on her finger won’t stop her, right? It’s not as though guys stay away from women with rings on their fingers!

I suggest you start trusting her or your future marriage is doomed.

You're not being unreasonable to ask if it's an unusual thing to do.

The answer is a resounding no, it's not at all unusual. Valuable jewellery and sun holidays don't mix.

I always leave mine at home, in fact barely ever wear it. Makes absolutely no difference to my commitment to DH. It's a ring.

Yes I'd be leaving it at home to

If you don't trust her, do yourself and her a favour and split up.

If it's valuable, it seems sensible to leave behind.

If she was planning on cheating, I doubt she'd have told you she was leaving the damned thing behind - she'd just have taken it off when she got there and stuck it in a hotel safe or something. Don't be such a weirdo.

Do you have a visual reference to being engaged?

The only person I know who took their engagement ring on a beach type holiday spent 2 days trying to find the thing after it fell off. A local metal detectorist actually found it for her in the end. Needless to say she only wears it at home or on special occasions now. It cost stupid money too.

Look if she is planning on sleeping around, she'd not be announcing it by telling you she is leaving the engagement ring at home, she'd take it off on the plane.....

A ring on her finger isn't some magic "faithful" charm.

You either trust her or you don't and if you don't, walk away.

As DP's ring - that his grandfather left him for when he got married (had been handed down at least twice beforehand) - spent all of about 48 hours on his finger before it disappeared on a beach, I don't think I'd be too bothered about a man taking off his wedding ring, either.

I wonder how your finance would feel if she knew how little you think of her? Not only do you think she'd cheat on you, you think she's stupid enough to tell you that she's leaving her ring at home because she's planning to shag around while on holiday.

Are you wearing an engagement ring OP? If not, how do you manage not to cheat without the chastity-belt power of the ring?

I've been married 35 plus yrs engaged a couple before and with dh in excess of 40 yrs .
I mainly don't wear my rings , have wee bursts of thinking oh they're nice let's wear them again .Then forget and shove them in a drawer. I have never taken them on holiday nor would. I'm married I don't need rings to know and act that way .
Dh always wears his
Neither of us gets worked up about them
Honestly get a grip

If she was going to cheat, the less suspicious thing would be to take it and then leave it in the hotel room 🤷🏻‍♀️

How does swimming g damage wedding rings or engagement rings?

I hope she doesn't go ahead with the wedding, you are not worth it. You don't trust her.

Chlorine and saltwater can damage rings depending what they’re made of so a lot of people take them off if they’re in a swimming pool or the sea.

Bit weird that you immediately jumped to thinking she’ll be cheating on you. Not a secure basis to be heading towards marriage.
I left my engagement ring at home when I went on honeymoon 😂 I don’t think DH thought I was giving off the wrong impression 🙃

She's being sensible, if she wanted to do it for nefarious reasons I doubt you would have been made aware of her plan. You can get those cheaper engagement rings dupes that you both could look into, for travel purposes?

I don't take mine on holiday with me even when I'm with my fiancee. I have a long necklace that I wear too which holds sentimentality that I wear daily, that stays home too.

Plus Ibiza is a bit of a boozy holiday so really is just playing it safe. Don't worry.

As someone in an open marriage, I can assure you that if she was planning to cheat there wouldn’t be any need to take her engagement ring off: men don’t generally give a shit about it, even when they do notice I’m wearing mine!

But I take mine off when I’m going clubbing and for sport, it’s just sensible not to risk losing it.

If she doesn't want to wear a ring on holiday she doesn't want to.
She isn't OPs property and doesn't need to wear 'his brand' wherever she goes!
OP if she wants to be with someone else she will taking or not taking the ring means nothing.
If you are asking Mumsnet whether she is planning to have sex with someone else then I don't think you have a great relationship and probably shouldn't get married.

I have never taken my engagement ring on holiday including my honeymoon! ( been married over 18 years).

You have trust issues!

I always leave my engagement ring at home and also any jewellery of any value . Your Fiancée is no fool .

So weird this came up today, my finger has just ballooned up and I’m trying desperately to get my engagement and wedding ring off. It’s bloody claustrophobic!!

If she wants to cheat she will cheat with or without her ring. If she meets some random guy who wants to have sex with her just having met her do you believe he will care if she is wearing a ring.

I hope a girl who is about to go to Ibiza and is leaving her ring behind sees this and sees how little her fiancé thinks of her.