Fiancée going to Ibiza minus her engagement ring

[Amibeingcheated]

My fiancée is going to Ibiza without me and plans to leave her engagement ring at home to keep it safe.
is this a reasonable thing to do?
AIBU ~ it’s fine she is just keeping it safe
IANBU ~ don’t trust her

Having been a victim of crime in a holiday island I wouldn't be taking my good stuff either it's just not worth it .I even had to have my good cosmetics in the apartment safe . See how a court a court case ruins a holiday .

Wow, imagine the outcry - married man going to Ibiza and leaving his wedding ring at home. He’d be able crucified.
yet this poor guy is getting a hard time

If I was planning to cheat in her shoes, I’d take the ring with me and leave it in the hotel safe. I would not be giving you any signs I was about sleep my way round the white isle.

It’s precious to her and she doesn’t want anything to happen to it. I never take my good stuff abroad. Travel insurance generally wont cover it.

Sorry but if this was a woman saying her man was leaving his ring it would be a whole other bunch of posts and pitchforks would be being sharpened ready for the lynching of the cheating bastard as theres only one reason to take a ring off blah blah blah.

@Amibeingcheated i assume you're a man and if so look at the threads on here where the gender roles are reversed and see what the responses are on them threads.

Personally I don't wear any rings due to my job and my wedding ring sits in its box in a drawer so have no skin in this thread other than to address the double standards.

I lost mine on holiday ( actually think it was stolen on a boat trip) I was devastated and it ruined the holiday., to make matters worse I found I wasn’t covered on insurance . I never take valuable jewellery away now .

I think if a man had a big old rock on his finger and said he wanted to leave it at home to keep it safe, it would be a bit different to whipping off his wedding ring.

@Userjal Women do tend to have more expensive things with them so are more likely to be victim of crime and if you are lucky the criminal is caught which means a day in foreign court which can ruin a holiday as a hotel has to provide an interpreter . It's not much fun .

My DH has a hobby that has to be done at sea. He always leaves his wedding ring at home. Doesn't want to lose it. I think she's being sensible.

If you need to ask an anonymous forum whether your fiancé is cheating on you just because she's left a valuable ring at home, then you shouldn't get married. There is no trust in your relationship.

I don't think that this is true. I used to always leave my engagement ring at home when on holiday or business trips because it is expensive and looks like a diamond. I was worried about losing it or being robbed. I would leave a wedding ring on because it's less flashy and I was less worried about losing it. When I wear an engagement ring and a wedding ring, I'd still leave the engagement ring at home for travel. Never had any intention to cheat, just didn't want to draw attention to myself or lose my ring.

Oh also if she was planning on cheating then surely it makes more sense to take the ring and just swap fingers or leave it in the suitcase.

Yeah, it's ridiculous. You wouldn't announce you're leaving your rings behind if you were planning to shag around.

Oh and just to say whenever I'm admitted to hospital my husband takes my jewellery off me to take home too , he's not daft .

I live in the Dominican Republic and wear my rings everyday, but I own my home , speak conversational spanish etc. So not afraid of being robbed as I walk the area often and I know it well so def have the menopausal , very tanned, not tourist look. However if i go to the beach or in the pools here I always leave my rings at home. When we used to travel here 3-4x a year for 20 years before we moved. My rings went in the safe at home in Canada, as well as husbands wedding band (not expensive but sentimental. I bought a cheapie sterling silver set with a cubic zirconia and wore it for YEARS only on holiday. Husband bought a rubber wedding ring. If they come off in the ocean no big loss. She is being smart. If it bothers you so much buy her a cheapie silver ring. I cannot be without my rings on my ring finger, so for me it was important. remember some fingers swell with the heat and then you have to take off in the room and leave in the safe, and any security staff can override safes.

I think that’s unfair.

There was a thread (and have been multiple threads) about DH’s ‘losing’ their rings, leaving them at home, taking them off etc and OPs have asked if it’s right.

Most of the replies have been negative and saying he’s going to cheat etc and if this is a reverse and it’s the DH going on holiday, then many posters will say he’s BU to leave his wedding ring at home.

OP was just asking for opinions.

If she wanted to act single when she was there she would just take her ring and leave it in the hotel safe.

I wouldn't take any jewellery on holiday.

I'm really of the opinion what's the point in having jewellery if you're not going to wear it? That's what it's for after all

Wow!!!! The double standards on here are CRAZY. If it was a man going to Ibiza without his engagement/wedding ring the replies would be VERY different

I’d leave mine just in case the insurance somehow didn't cover it if I lost it. She could always take it and not wear it. Or wear it and still have plenty of takers. All about the person/relationship/trust between you both. X

If you have to even post this asking if you can trust her then you clearly don’t already trust her without it. FYI a ring doesn’t stop you cheating. I presume she is just being careful but only she will
know.
It sounds like there are trust issues in your relationship and I would seriously reevaluate getting married.
DH doesn’t wear a ring because he finds it uncomfortable and is allergic to some types of metal, never pushed it because I trust him and don’t care. I didn’t wear mine for a long time after giving birth because my fingers were swollen/bugger from weight gain and I got dermatitis from constant handwashing after changing nappies.

You wouldn’t want to wear it if you were reapplying sun cream every hour and then going swimming in the sea though, it could easily slip off and be lost and depending what it’s made of the seawater can damage it. So then she would have to leave it in her hotel room and it could be lost/stolen/forgotten.

Why? Anyone can take a ring with them. Anyone can wear a ring. Wtf has a ring got to do with whether or not an opportunity to cheat is presented to you and whether or not you take it. Clue: Nothing!

I also never take my engagement ring on holiday, and I think I always left it at home when I didn’t wear a wedding ring. It’s terrifying to think of it getting stolen or lost.

Engagement rings are more delicate and pointy than plain bands. But even then, I never take my wedding ring to the beach though.

I remember our jeweller specifically recommending that I don’t wear my antique engagement ring for robust activities (it’s 1920s and the original owner would have had maids!!) and telling us both to be careful on our honeymoon. The cold water shrinks hands and many newly weds lose wedding rings whilst swimming in the sea - especially those not used to wearing jewellery.

Many people have said wedding rings are different. Find me a thread about a man going away without his engagement ring and I'll agree. I can wait.

FWIW DH almost lost his wedding ring on a beach with me and never takes it if away, with or without me.