Fiancée going to Ibiza minus her engagement ring

[Amibeingcheated]

My fiancée is going to Ibiza without me and plans to leave her engagement ring at home to keep it safe.
is this a reasonable thing to do?
AIBU ~ it’s fine she is just keeping it safe
IANBU ~ don’t trust her

Same!

I never take my rings off , unless I'm cleaning them (rarely!), neither does my dh. Why would someone take their rings off?

If cheating was her plan then she wouldn’t make it obvious. She would either just wear the ring and cheat because men don’t give a shit about that or take it off and leave it in the hotel room. You are being unreasonable. She values the ring you gave her and would be devastated if she lost it.

Is this a genuine question? Let's see... Because we want to. Because we like not having them on all the time. Because we partake in activities that may make wearing a ring cumbersome or dangerous.

Very sensible, my bil lost his wedding ring in the sea on holiday. You don't feel it come off in the water.

I think loads of reasons - slippery when putting conditioner on so take it off in the bath/shower, when putting on hand cream, to fake tan or sunbathe, baking, some cooking, swimming, some exercising, DIY, some sports and many more.

She could have taken it with her and then taken it off on the plane, if she was up to no good.

The fact that she was upfront about it is a good indication that she just doesn’t want to lose it.

This wouldn’t worry me.

In for the reverse thread and the mental gymnastics

If you don't trust her then yeah she should take the ring off and not marry you

Cos they're worried about damaging them or losing them or I guess if they're very expensive being targeted by muggers.

My mum always took her rings off when doing the washing up or gardening or swimming. I used to wear mine all the time, but mostly cos I couldn't get them off after I'd fattened up a bit. 😂

I didn't clock that!

If you don't know her well enough by now to KNOW she is committed to the relationship and wouldn't cheat on you then you need to reconsider your wedding plans as it doesn't bode well for either of you.

Marriages do work long term unless both parties are committed to each other and know it is mutual.

No. It’s a name change and was just an easy option.
I am really relaxed and just intrigued.

Right..

So you want her to have a badge or mark labelled "taken"?

Do you wear a badge or mark labelled "taken".

Women in general do not take jewellery of significant value on holiday. Wedding rings are the only rings I've ever taken on holiday and not even that sometimes.

Perhaps you need to learn more about women and not marry someone you don't know.

I'm obv the only One who finds weird then

I don't take my wedding or engagement rings off ever

Been on many holidays and never been an issue with sun sea swim sand suncream etx

Only read the OP's posts, but did she volunteer the info, or was she asked ?

Perfectly resonable. Some people dont like taking expensive sentimetal jewellery abroad. If there is lots of beach or swimming it would probably just end up being off all the time and maybe she is worried about misplacing it. At least if its at home she doesnt have to worry her whole holiday.

I have a silicone wedding band to wear in situations I dont want to wear my engagement and wedding rings - gym, swimming, beach. Its a permanent feature at the moment as my fingers are too fat ( im too fat).

I went on a hen do to Marbella and didn’t take my engagement ring as I didn’t want to lose it! 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

I wouldn't take my engagement ring on holiday to keep it safe

Do you really honestly think she's planning to travel miles to shag around for a week?

Women leave rings at home because the are expensive.

A ring is supposed to be a token of love, not a sign to other men that she already has an owner.

I think you should sow her this thread so she can reconsider marrying someone so possessive, insecure and mistrusting.

One of my friends was mugged for their wedding ring while standing outside a hotel for a smoke late at night. They were understandably distraught and the replacement they have now never really filled that gap for them. So this sounds potentially quite sensible. You either trust her or you don't, and I can't imagine having a ring on will make a lot of difference to the guys who might try hitting on her.

I never take nice jewellery away. I just wear a cheap ring on that finger.

I think it's also a worry about losing them or being stolen.