Fiancée going to Ibiza minus her engagement ring

[Amibeingcheated]

My fiancée is going to Ibiza without me and plans to leave her engagement ring at home to keep it safe.
is this a reasonable thing to do?
AIBU ~ it’s fine she is just keeping it safe
IANBU ~ don’t trust her

She would hardly tell you she was leaving it at home if that was the plan would she? Plus - like a man would care she was engaged!

They don't care if you're married either

My parents haven't worn wedding / engagement rings for 30 odd years it didn't suddenly make them cheat

The fact you think she will is a reason not to get married in the first place.

Doesn't matter what we think - YOU don't trust her - says it all really. Hope she has the best time in Ibiza and has a think about her future with you.

If she was planning on cheating I reckon she'd take it and stash it in the hotel safe. Unless it is a double bluff. Does she have previous cause for suspicion? What are her mates like? Is the ring expensive? Does it come off particularly easily, i.e. in a pool?

I saw a video on line recently. Chap with metal detector on a beach. In a verfeweeks he had found 5 seriously expensive rings with valuable stones. Your fiancée is a sensible girl.

Men on the pull don’t give a shit if you’re engaged or married. I’m fact they often like it as a) the challenge b) no strings attached bunk up.

Shit. If anyone's looking for me, I'll be in Ibiza with a metal detector.

This can't be real.

If it is real, and you trust her this little before you're even married, walk away now, your fiancee will be better off.

I wonder if this is a MRA thread because of the Thailand one. If it is, that's different.

Thank you everyone
it’s for real but more of a concern than belief she will cheat.
it just stuck me as odd and wanted to get some female opinions.

Sun lotion and engagement rings don't mix. If you're that worried get yourself off to Swarovski and get something bling and fake but be prepared to have quite an upset fiancee when she realises you don't trust her at all

Do you wear an engagement ring yourself? Or do you think it's only she who needs to appear 'off the market'?

I think OP is being unreasonable, but surely the response to this is - did she buy him one?

I never bring any of my good jewellery on holidays not to mind say an expensive engagement ring. I buy stuff in Primark so it is no big deal if it gets lost or stolen.

Leaving a ring behind is not problem. Chastity belt on the other hand…

Out of interest, do you wear an engagement ring? I've long felt they're a symbol of ownership, although most here would argue otherwise, that seems to be how you see it?

Firstly, if she thought it would hamper her cheating she'd take it off when she got there rather than arouse your suspicions.
Secondly, do you think wearing an engagement ring would put guys off from cheating with her? It would be casual sex in Ibiza, they wouldn't care if she was celebrating her silver wedding if she didn't.

Like others have said if it was to cheat, she would just take it off there and a lot of people aren’t put off by engagement rings anyway. I think she’s genuinely trying to keep it safe as it could easily be lost in the sea/pool, because of suncream etc.

I always leave mine at home. I know I'd lose it, taking it on and off all the time, don't want it getting gunked up with sunscreen. I leave my wedding ring on because my finger is now fat and I can't get it off but it is pretty indestructible.

You may need to rethink getting married.

It's a ring, not a lock on her knickers or a magic talisman that renders her faithful.

What exactly is your concern?

If she was going to cheat surely she could just take it with her on holiday but not wear it when she goes out? And I doubt she would mention it to you at all if that were the case. It really does sound like she’s just worried about losing it.

DW only wears her engagement ring on special occassions.

My engagement ring was expensive, so I wouldn’t take it abroad. I don’t wear a lot of jewellery day to day but it’s all expensive so when I go on holiday I take some cheap stuff. I know someone who had a QVC diamonique ring that was relatively similar to her own ring so she’d wear that instead.

Unless she has proper insurance it wouldn’t be covered under a travel policy which has quite a low item limit.

At least be honest with yourself 🙄

I don't even wear my wedding ring in general, never mind the engagement right. They're put away. Funnily enough this doesn't strike my husband as odd.

It's not like they're some stop you cheating forcefield and if you're thinking like that then you may as well end it.