Is he paying enough?

[Havett]

Ex earns over double what I earn. He’s on 85k.

Cms calculates this as 860 a month. He pays 1,000. Nursery is 1,200.

I feel like he should pay more given his high salary. I know legally cms says 860 and he’s already paying more. But he does zero for dd. Literally nothing. Would you ask for more given he’s earning so much

A lot more than what I get for two kids

@LittleMousewithcloggson
Good sounds a lot like my friend, who was always very fair.

That's a bit harsh to be fair,she's has not stopped him from seeing the child he has made the decision not too.but he has a responsibility to provide for the child that doesn't stop beacuse he won't see his daughter.

I think the op is being very reasonable childcare costs are absolutely extortionate she's not living the life of Riley she's a single mum doing her best to make sure her child is provided for

Yes, fair enough. But that's not the case here. This dad does not put his DC first, he doesn't even see her.

when you say he “does nothing” do you mean he literally has zero contact with her in any sense whatsoever?

@greenbeansrock he has seen her four afternoons in 10 months and since then stopped completely

He should pay all the nursery fees and half your household expenses including rent/mortgage. He should also pay for all his child’s ancillary costs clothing, shoes, text books etc etc etc until the child finishes education. He’s getting an amazing deal, he pays only £1000 a month and has no childcare responsibilities. He’s not paying you, he’s paying for his child. Conversely, he should take on 50/50 childcare responsibility in exchange for a 50/50 financial arrangement.

To all you lovely hardworking single mums out there, stop letting these men tell you they “can’t afford it”. They have the money, and it’s easy for them to get it when they dont have childcare commitments. Men are very resourceful, they can get the money if they have to. Xx