didn't stop my ex he's a dad of 11
we were together 22 years met at 17 and 18
each others only
romantically and physically(i was even his first kiss) had 2 kids(planed and very much wanted if it makes a difference, son 2 was fertility treatment) who were 16 and 10 at the time
we were together 5 years before son 1 came along
happy for years and even trying for a 3rd baby
he went out one night in nov 20 for McDonalds at 10pm and never came home
next morning after me and his parents being frantic
he tells his mum he's now engaged to our friend Phyllis(not real name obviously)who we were all very close too
she had a fiancée Dave(they were only together 6 months)
(not dad to any kids)they were trying for a baby as well
with in hours Dave got thrown out at 3 am
ex and P got engaged(she asked), they slept together and are trying for a baby
all with in roughly a 12 hour period
and without my knowledge that morning took his name off our claim and transferred it to hers
we were both on benefits and carers allowance as both sons are disabled and home educated as need 24/7 care so a joint claim
i was so happy the bills and money was in my name as he would have made us homeless
now she already had 7 kids by 7 different men(all before we became friends)6 all born 10 months after each other
so had a new-born went with another man x6
no dads involved and all under her name
6 of these have either autism or ADHD(the amount per month she was getting was thousands as each child was on high rate DLA)
both were adamant they wasn't an affair, Phyliss and Dave had a row and Dave had left
P rung ex to talk and he went to visit her(i had no idea all this was going on)P then declared her feelings for ex and it went from there
he literally decided to give his whole life up in that moment
few months later they married in early 21,how in a pandemic i never know but a registry office did it
just them, kids and oldest son(just turned 18)was the witness
she was already pregnant with child 8 and a week or so later ex put his name on all the kids birth certificates
now i knew that had to be illegal as he's not the dad but i didn't get involved
let any legal repercussions catch them up but it had been a few years
so with in months technically ex became a dad of 10(baby was born late sept 21)
AND she's pregnant again so soon 11
ex doesn't bother with my kids since the day he left,(kids were
so disgusted by his behaviour they didn't want to know and has never met the new baby)
hes also so busy with her kids he hasn't asked
i get my info from his mother
before that he was a 24/7 carer-parent
great dad and great partner
so there is people out there that will put up with this kind of behaviour and accept all type of baggage