3 ‘baby mums’…. Instant red flag??

[Lilysienna1]

As the title says…. Would you continue talking with a man you’ve met (in person) if he told you he has 5 children with 3 women? (Youngest is a one year old, oldest is 16.)

From what he has said, the relationship he has with the mothers of his children is amicable, and he has all 5 of them (3 with 1 mum, then one each with the other 2) every other weekend and pays child support for all 5.

Bearing in mind, I have 3 children with my ex, so I feel like a hypocrite for even wondering if there is something just a bit off… that with 3 women things didn’t work out, that he has had the last 2 children fairly early into each relationship and that the youngest is only 1, and that relationship ended 6 months ago…. Red flag or second date…

Wouldn’t appeal to me personally!

Wouldn’t touch him with the shitty end of a 10ft barge pole 🚩

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IMO

Fuck no.

Er no 👎

Loveliest man I ever dated had three children with two different mum's, similar age spread to what you're saying and youngest only two whereas oldest was 15. Both women were very troubled, one was an alcoholic and the other was very poorly with an eating disorder. He had the children all the time, lovely proper gent and hard worker, very humble. He'd been very unlucky.

3 exs to deal with?! No way.

children aside, what a logistical nightmare

No way

I wouldn't touch him with somebody else's bargepole to be frank.

I see no future. That's too many schedules to juggle. As a stepmum it's hard enough with just one ex to cope with.

Hell no.

8 children between the 2 of you? Fuck no

Red flag whether it was a man or a woman. Sod that.

Nope

And honestly, at the risk of overshooting the question, I wouldn't contemplate dating anyone who already had children. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Well if it's good enough for Carrie Johnson...

Kidding. No.

Even on the (very slight) off chance that he's a great partner who has just had very bad luck with women, who would want to deal with the logistics of that?

No he sounds like a bad sort

It's not just the multiple women that are red flags but the fact his youngest is only one and only having the DC every other weekend rather than showing a proper commitment to his children.

When I read the post title I thought immediate red flag NO but I do think the age range of 1-16 puts a different slant on it.

However, I agree with @Nicebloomers that it would be a logistical nightmare.

I think go on the second date and you might get a few decent shags but don’t commit to anything long term…and don’t become 4th baby mum.

My BIL has
2 kids with an ex , they were young and childhood sweethearts but fell out of love
Met someone's else a few years later and had 2 more. His ex cheated and fell pregnant by someone else.
So 4 kids. 2 women.
4 years later met his now wife who had 2 dcs and they have 1 together. Been married 6 years.
Has his Dcs around 40% of the time. Pays maintenance, does school runs , activities and all the extra stuff.

He's not a bad person. Owns his own company, a nice house and loving wife

Yes, instant red flag.

I'd be giving him a wide berth to be honest.

What sort of life will he be able to afford with you if he’s paying for 5 kids? He’s literally housebound till 2039. I’d run a mile.