3 ‘baby mums’…. Instant red flag??

[Lilysienna1]

As the title says…. Would you continue talking with a man you’ve met (in person) if he told you he has 5 children with 3 women? (Youngest is a one year old, oldest is 16.)

From what he has said, the relationship he has with the mothers of his children is amicable, and he has all 5 of them (3 with 1 mum, then one each with the other 2) every other weekend and pays child support for all 5.

Bearing in mind, I have 3 children with my ex, so I feel like a hypocrite for even wondering if there is something just a bit off… that with 3 women things didn’t work out, that he has had the last 2 children fairly early into each relationship and that the youngest is only 1, and that relationship ended 6 months ago…. Red flag or second date…

What's the age gap between your kids ?

My thoughts exactly

It’s not just a question of how nice/responsible/financially viable he is. You are demonstrating to your children the values you believe in and would ideally like them to adhere to. Not only this, but how would they feel about potentially becoming a part of such a chaotic set up? Unless they are very young, they will know who you are dating and subject to everyone else’s judgements around this, unfair as that might be.
Raise your bar, at least for the sake of your own children.

I have 3 children with 3 men , fist was born when I was 19 to a long term boyfriend who washed his hands of being a dad soon after he was born . Second I had 15 years after as I was mid 30s , had a good career , stable life etc so had IUI with a donor as altough I had a few relationships none was the one I wanted a child with . Then just before it turned 38 I meet someone , love of my life , amazing guy , amazing dad to his 2 kids , divorced 8 years ago as his wife cheated but maintains a civil relationship due to his kids . We decided to have one child together .
together now 5 years .
I guess it helps none of 2 previous kids have contact with their dad so I had no exes to deal with