Should I send this text? Or is it desperate?

[Sugarandmoresugar10]

I had a first date with someone yesterday after work, it's someone I've already met as a friend of a friend, and we've always got on very well/I felt chemistry.
The date was about 2 hours, a drink and very quick bite to eat. Conversation flowed super well, we had a good laugh. I wasn't sure if I felt attracted to him if I'm honest, but I have felt that attraction previously so I'm willing to give it a try.

So he made comments about wanting to do it again, I agreed, and I sent a casual, good to see you, hope you got back ok. The convo naturally ended .

Wondering if I should hint at meeting him again? There are a ton of films coming out that we were both talking about that are out this month.
Should I text something like 'It'd be cool to see one of those films we talked about soon'

So to imply I want to see him, but it still lets him arrange details?
Or is that chasing/desperate?
I'm pretty paranoid now tbh, but I'm also paranoid that he got a vibe I didn't find him that attractive, even if I do like him.

its beggie and desperate

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Or if you don't want to say you're meeting friends, just a screenshot of the film with

🤩 shall we???

Wow I'm really interested in this. Where did you get that figure from? Are the stats available? I wonder where the figures are coming from since I didn't tell MN my age

Good God.

Scared off? They're humans, not foxes during a hunt.

Begging? They're humans being asked to the pictures, not the Aristocracy hurrying past a Victorian slum.

Desperate? We're humans, not drowning kittens.

FFS.

If you want to go to a place with a person, ask them. If you've misunderstood the imaginary rules of an invented game and he treats you a certain way because you spoke to him like an adult, it wasn't worth it in the first place.

Are marriages and LTRs all built on some pseudo rules about who sends a text and how or are we going to pursue respect, love and equality at some point?

This 100%. Just make it sound really casual. It's just as hard for men to do the asking!

Would you like to go to see the new Planet of the Apes film with me this weekend ?

Nonsense.

@Sugarandmoresugar10 send the message, suggest after Tuesday if that is genuinely the first night you are free but for goodness sake stop over thinking it. No game playing.

Prove your claimed facts.

I'm conducting a straw poll and it doesn't look good for @Shelllyfish and her facts.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5072111-facts-are-the-average-age-for-an-aibu-poster-is-60-75

Well that's quite amusing. Common sense would make me question that stat, followed by the straw poll I just linked to. I guess at a push it could be like the number of people on a census who say their religion is jedi or they speak Klingon.

Do you know much about reading data, particularly about questioning how robust the "evidence" is?

Dense is an interesting word to throw about.

I don't get this. You've already messaged afterwards so the ball's in his court now. You'd seem desperate to me.

If he's interested and genuine he'll be pleased you suggested something. If he's not interested, he'll tell you/fob you off, and at least you'll know. If he is interested only if you play silly games and pretend not to be, or because you're a challenge, he'll be put off, and that's a good thing, as why would you want a man like that?

I agree.

Personally, I wouldn't chase a man.

Let him do the 'heavy lifting'.

So many things don’t go anywhere because of hesitation of both parties. There is nothing to lose, just send the thing and suggest a few possible dates when you are available.

The worst that can happen is he ghosts you/says no. Presumably you're in the early stages of getting to know one another, so it would make sense to know sooner rather than later whether you're wasting your time. The type of guy who's put off by a girl he likes asking her out is emotionally immature and not long term relationship material imo. He's more likely to fuck about in relationships.

if you've been messaging daily anyway it would be out of the norm not to, if there's a film out you discussed seeing check the times and ask him. Stop playing games, he will not think you're desperate.

I'm not sure why you're bothering, you said in your first body that you weren't sure if you were attracted to him. I'd be pissed off if a guy chased me for dates only to admit further down the line that he was never attracted to me.

*body = post!

I personally think you should hold off messaging him. If a man is interested in you, you would know about it and not be questioning it.

I would send the message. Your response after the date was very friend zoney, he probably suspects you don't fancy him. I agree in principle generally men should do more of the chasing, but they don't want to go out with someone who doesn't want to go out with them.

NB if your post date text had been more enthusiastic I would have said to leave it.