Should I send this text? Or is it desperate?

[Sugarandmoresugar10]

I had a first date with someone yesterday after work, it's someone I've already met as a friend of a friend, and we've always got on very well/I felt chemistry.
The date was about 2 hours, a drink and very quick bite to eat. Conversation flowed super well, we had a good laugh. I wasn't sure if I felt attracted to him if I'm honest, but I have felt that attraction previously so I'm willing to give it a try.

So he made comments about wanting to do it again, I agreed, and I sent a casual, good to see you, hope you got back ok. The convo naturally ended .

Wondering if I should hint at meeting him again? There are a ton of films coming out that we were both talking about that are out this month.
Should I text something like 'It'd be cool to see one of those films we talked about soon'

So to imply I want to see him, but it still lets him arrange details?
Or is that chasing/desperate?
I'm pretty paranoid now tbh, but I'm also paranoid that he got a vibe I didn't find him that attractive, even if I do like him.

Fair enough. But, what was the context? Is this 'lady' (we're women fyi) a friend or someone you are dating, or someone trying to date you? If a friend, male or female, asked me to do something socially that I wasn't interested in then I'd do as you have done. If it was a man I fancied I would still say no but suggest that we did something different.

She was a maybe. Simple as that.

Fair enough, but expect to be treated like that (curt and brusk) then yourself also.

My experience has been that if guys don’t enjoy a particular activity but want to see you again, they generally come up with an alternative to do like dinner before/drink after etc

Well exactly ‘would you like to go see live music?’

’No it’s not my thing but fancy drinks and dinner instead?’

Rather than a hard ‘no’! That means you don’t want to see her!

From my experience the environment you are in, when you meet someone you don't know for long, can have a crucial influence on the outcome.

I thought about going but was too lacy. However, I am sure I would have end up with a pint in the corner for two hours and no progress.

But you are right, I also could have called her the next day and ask if she has any plans yet, but because it was a "maybe" situation form both of us, I would not made an alternative offer straight away, because it would have made it to obvious.

However, like someone said earlier, it is not a good idea to overanalyse things; better to do what feels right.

If a man is interested they will contact you. End of.

Also 'anything you chase in life runs away'.

Don't send it.

Totally agree with this 100 per cent.

Totally agree with this too.

Send the text. Fear is temporary, regret is permanent. Send a light non committal text asking if he'd like to see a movie. It's not the 1600's. Women can show they're interested without being cast as desperate or a slut. If he's not interested he just won't reply. If he is he'll be thrilled that you are too. Texting takes so much pressure off. Just do it.

I think we moved on over a week ago, the OP messaged the guy and got back to us to say he said no (not in so many words though).

In your last text exchange if you were the last person to text then no, I wouldn’t be texting first.

Please read the full thread!! It’s been two weeks since OP started the thread, sent a text and got a reply.