Should I send this text? Or is it desperate?

[Sugarandmoresugar10]

I had a first date with someone yesterday after work, it's someone I've already met as a friend of a friend, and we've always got on very well/I felt chemistry.
The date was about 2 hours, a drink and very quick bite to eat. Conversation flowed super well, we had a good laugh. I wasn't sure if I felt attracted to him if I'm honest, but I have felt that attraction previously so I'm willing to give it a try.

So he made comments about wanting to do it again, I agreed, and I sent a casual, good to see you, hope you got back ok. The convo naturally ended .

Wondering if I should hint at meeting him again? There are a ton of films coming out that we were both talking about that are out this month.
Should I text something like 'It'd be cool to see one of those films we talked about soon'

So to imply I want to see him, but it still lets him arrange details?
Or is that chasing/desperate?
I'm pretty paranoid now tbh, but I'm also paranoid that he got a vibe I didn't find him that attractive, even if I do like him.

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I'm to old to beat around the bushes these days and I've found being open and honest pays dividends. If you like him, find him attractive and want to see him again, tell him that! You'll soon know where you stand.

Oh, and last time I did that, the man was significantly younger (30s whereas I'm mid 40s) and said it was refreshing not to be played with! It didn't work out but it made everything easier and comfortable!

If he likes you, he will text you. Men are quite simple straight forward that way. They also get scared by anything they see as desperation. Even though that’s not what it is.

It's just weird how it'd be seen as desperate if I sent that, but not as desperate if he sent it?

I think you should text, but only because he’s someone you already know/have met before/already have a bit of a relationship with. Now it needs to get to the next stage so either one of you needs to get it there. He might be feeling a bit unsure about how to do so or doesn’t want to rock the boat!

If you’d met him online and this was the first time you’d met in person, I would’ve said he needs to text first, otherwise he’s not that interested.

Suggesting you see a film to a bloke who's already made noises about seeing you again is NOT "chasing".
Tch. These young people today. I dunno. 😂🤷‍♀️

Why not be more direct and just ask him if he wants to go somewhere on an actual date? Instead of just "would be nice to go out again"

Start as you mean to go on. If you want clear, direct communication in a relationship, don't start with games. Communicate honestly and openly and the relationship will be so much less scary and painful.

Yea good point, is it different because we already know each other?

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Send the text. If a man is that insecure that he is put off by a woman initiating a date then he isn’t worth your time and effort!!

I’d be fairly direct with a question and a suggestion. ‘Would you like to meet again? We could catch a film.’

If he says no, then you know. If he says yes, then suggest a or b. ‘We could see X on Sunday, or Y next weekend.’

Just text him and ask him on a date to see the movie you want to see. Don’t go with ‘it would be nice to see a movie’. Be direct but pleasant - men hate games.
I made the first move with DH, we’ve been married 24 years!

One of the things that made me fall for my partner really quickly was just how open and honest we could be, even after the first date. It was a great start and refreshing after so many years of terrible dates and second guessing myself!

It would be cool... would put me off.

x film is on on Tuesday at seven. Would you like to go with me? Is far more grown up a direct.

Thankfully it’s not the 1950’s 🙄

i don’t know, you texted him once already. When you did he answered? If so then your text if fine. Otherwise I would wait

I'd definitely text him.
I think it's easier as you already know him, so you wouldn't appear desperate at all
Something like.. " I've just had a look at the cinema listings and I'd quite like to see( whatever). Would you like to come with me?"

Text him if you want but I wouldn’t immediately if your date was only yesterday. You may not be into the ‘texting every day’ territory yet.

Text him but give it a couple of days.

Why would you want to date someone who would be put off by you asking to see a film with him?

Hi X, That film we spoke about is coming out next week. Do you fancy going?

I’m not a natural chaser so I’d keep it light.

We were talking every day prior to the first meet up, not sure if that makes any difference?
True, though I worry most men would be like this :(

It’s nothing to do with him being put off or not if she does, it’s personal choice, and in my experience, if a man’s interested you bloody well know about it. I don’t know why you felt the need to eye roll at me 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Btw, if he says no, for me that means no. I won't be asking again.
But apparently if a woman says no, that's attractive to men and will make them work harder? :/