Should I send this text? Or is it desperate?

[Sugarandmoresugar10]

I had a first date with someone yesterday after work, it's someone I've already met as a friend of a friend, and we've always got on very well/I felt chemistry.
The date was about 2 hours, a drink and very quick bite to eat. Conversation flowed super well, we had a good laugh. I wasn't sure if I felt attracted to him if I'm honest, but I have felt that attraction previously so I'm willing to give it a try.

So he made comments about wanting to do it again, I agreed, and I sent a casual, good to see you, hope you got back ok. The convo naturally ended .

Wondering if I should hint at meeting him again? There are a ton of films coming out that we were both talking about that are out this month.
Should I text something like 'It'd be cool to see one of those films we talked about soon'

So to imply I want to see him, but it still lets him arrange details?
Or is that chasing/desperate?
I'm pretty paranoid now tbh, but I'm also paranoid that he got a vibe I didn't find him that attractive, even if I do like him.

Would it scare him off if I did send something like that?

If you want to see him again send it.

I personally wouldn’t. If he’s interested he will contact you I think.

He's not telepathic, send the text.

You're right. I mean he seemed like he wanted to meet again, but apparently women should never ask men out in the early stages or even text first, from what I've read :(

How come? Just out of interest. Do you think it'll put him off ?

Bollocks. I wouldn't be married now if that were true!

If he was put off by you mentioning a film, I then he wouldn't be right for anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️ just send it, what's the worst that can happen

I think it’s fine to send that text. If it scares him off then obviously it’s not meant to be but hopefully he’ll be chuffed that you’ve shown interest and respond positively. Good luck.

Just send him a cheery text.

Thank you. There's just so much on here about men loving the chase, and I'm scared this is making it too easy.

The problem with "men should x and women should y" is that not everyone read the rulebook.

If you want something communicate it, no one is a mind-reader. If they are put off by a text saying you'd like to see them then they have major issues and you dodged a bullet.

By gum! I'm 52 and even I think this is old fashioned 😂
Just text him. If he likes you, he'll be thrilled. It's not like you're asking yo set a wedding date.

The people who make dating rules, are the people who go on lots of dates. They go on lots of dates because they're not in a relationship. If you want a relationship be who you are and do what feels right to you, if he likes you for you that's good.

No, not necessarily. I think it’s personal to each person what puts them off and what doesn’t. In my experience though if a man’s interested you’ll know. I know it’s social conditioning and not necessarily fair, but if he’s keen he will message you. Give it some time and see x

It’s 2024 - if you want to see him again, tell him!

If he doesn’t reciprocate, too bad, on to the next one.

I admit I was fully expecting everyone to tell me not to send anything 🤣

That is a rubbish and stupid stereotype. If you like someone and want to see them again, just ask him clearly, without beating around the bush. He could be equally nervous too. Just go for it.

Haha me neither

Life's too short for game playing. Obviously nobody wants to appear desperate or chase someone who isn't interested, but if you can't say "I had a great time last night. Let me know if you fancy catching a film soon, there are a few coming out that look really good" without fear of him being scared off or feeling like you've lost some kind of power in the dynamic, he's not the one. I wouldn't want a relationship with someone that featured that kind of silliness and immaturity.

Any man that's playing 'games' isn't worth bothering about.

I’d have to send the text rather than forever waiting, life’s too short.

I wouldn't text. If he wants you he will come to you. If you text and he doesn't respond then you lose power and will feel like shit. Don't do it is my advice.

I don't mind if he's not interested in general, I just mind if he's not interested because I chased, if that makes sense.

Send the text. What have you got to lose?
You send it, he does want to see the film with you, you go together.
You send it, he doesn’t want to see the film with you, you don’t go, you don’t see him again. No harm done and you know where you stand.