SiL and friend keep commenting on my age.

[SpringOnionChicken]

I am in a group of friends (some nicer than others!) and one of them keeps commenting on my age. I’m the oldest, and we range from late 40’s to early 50’s. I’m 4 years older than her. She says things like;

Oh, God you’re so old
Not sure I want to hang out with elderly people

Then there is my SiL who constantly refers to the fact I am 5 years older than her. Things like;

You are much older than me
I’m much younger than you
Well, that’s because you are a lot older than me, I’m only 48, and you are 53

This has been going on a long time, and usually I don’t care but recently it’s pissing me off, because I feel they’ve dug deep, had to think long and hard, and this is the only thing they’ve been able to come up with as a stick to prod me with. The friend said it quite maliciously TBH.

Getting down to their level, my SIL has the misfortune of ageing terribly and has had to drop loads of money on cosmetic surgery to fix it. She’s also never run for a bus, and is very unfit. I’ve been asked a few times if my SIL is my DH’s older sister (he’s 5 years older) and if she is older than me. Friend is also not looking so great. Sorry to stoop to their level of year 8 schoolyard.

My age is not an issue to me. I’m grateful I’m fit and healthy and I don’t need any tweakments. I just think these comments are petty, and am thinking of nipping them in the bud with some comebacks.

AIBU? If no, please give me some ideas to shut them up.

We're none of us as young as we were.
Ah, but I'm young at heart.
What's a few years between friends.
Am I really I didn't realise.
But I've still got it haven't I.
The other day someone said I didn't look a day over 40.
My heart health is 10 years younger.
Look who's talking about getting old, with a laugh.
Aren't I lucky to have such natural youthful looks.

Clearly insecure, jealous and just unpleasant! Make the sugggested comments back or if possible don't see them as much. Xx

Hahaha ‘never run for a bus’ just tell her that I like that one

Sounds like they’re insecure as you look good for your age.
literally the only people I ever joke about age with are one male friend that I grew up with. I’m two months older and he always makes a joke about how old I am, but it’s been a running joke for years and as there’s only 2 months we know it’s a joke.
And my older brothers, but that’s what little sisters are meant to do! And believe me they give me enough stick about other things!

doing it the way these have been doing just comes across as them being bitchy and insecure.

Say to them, 'why are you projecting your own insecurities onto me? Are you really feeling so old and hideous that you have to take it out on someone else?'

Y u hanging around with people who obviously don’t like u?

Get some decent friends. Arrange an active outing with some of your friends and leave the arseholes our.

People who say things like that are clearly unhappy in their own skin, probably some jealousy going on.

You say ‘Yes, I am older, and WISER…’

I had to drop a "friend" who kept asking me if she looked young for her age and I always replied "yes" until I found out the bitch was only doing it because someone told her she looked much younger than me. She was secretly revelling in it! What kind of Freind does that?

😂😂😂

This 100%!!!!

I would ask them what they mean by their comments. Tell them " my age doesn't bother me at all but it clearly bothers you for some weird reason. One day you might reach my grand old age, if you're lucky!"

This happened to a friend of mine. She said "wow Sue, you seem to be obsessed with my age, you mention it every time I see you". It never got mentioned again.

I’d say, “Why do you keep going in and on about my age? I’m happy and comfortable with it but you don’t seem to be. What’s the issue?” I know it would probably create more drama but I’d be absolutely sick of putting up with this competitive bitchy rudeness dozens of times! You’ve been nice so far but they need telling to do one!