Accidentally stirred the pot and don’t know how to make things right

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Friend 1 messaged me a couple of weeks ago something she shouldn’t have commented on about Friend 2. Something she know Friend 2 wouldn’t of liked.

I have been having a long chat with Friend 2 and stupidly said Friend 1 had been chatting to me about that last week. She then wants the whole details, I feel awful and send her our messages as she wanted to know and now she is raging with Friend 1.

I feel like a total idiot and stirred the pot. Now I feel like they are going to fall out because of me, and that Friend 1 is going to fall out with me because I sent our texts to Friend 2.

What have I done! Why did I do this! Someone help me rectify this please

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Not sure you can really, depends what it's about. Did you comment on her lifestyle, parenting, finances, partner?

you need to just hold your hands up admit you've done wrong and apologise

Oh jheez what a mess!
Unfortunately I don’t know if you can rectify it. You’re in the middle which is the worst place to be and you’ll be seen as the bad guy

In what way was deliberately sharing messages an accident? Everything you did was deliberate, and now the obvious shitstorm has kicked off. Im not sure what else you can say.

Why the hell would you do that?

Argh nightmare.

Refuse to get anymore drawn in.

How was that accidental? You can apologise and hope for the best but that's about it.

I know, I sent the messages knowing full well it would lead to an argument. I’m an idiot. What I accidentally done was mention me and Friend 1 was talking about it the other day and thenFriend 2 was asking why was we mentioning it and basically begged me for the messages so I sent them. I don’t know why I did it. I can’t believe I did it

Really bad form to share messages.

You and friend 1 aren't good friends.

Own it.

Well, not only will they fall out with each other but you will have no friendship with friend 1 either. What a shit show.

You need to contact friend 1 before friend 2 gets the chance. Come clean, apologise, grovel and hope she forgives you for breaking her trust.

I think you might just have lost both of them, with friend 2 being upset that you didn’t shut friend 1 down immediately and that you hid it from her. Sincere apologies to both of them are the only way to go.

Why did you make it even worse by letting her see the text messages? Okay you said something you shouldn’t have but to make a further mess instead of just (white) lying and claiming you’d accidentally deleted the messages ..

This is the sort of thing I expect to see of 12 year olds.
I just do not know how anyone can be so troublemaking as to let one person know what another person has said about them.

And these are your friends?
Wow. How do you behave towards people you don’t count as friends?

Understandable that you put your foot in it, happens to the best of us, feels more intentional that you continued to stir the pot by sending messages? Either way, it’s done now.

I don’t think it’s fair to cause a shit storm and then wash your hands of it. Meet up all three of you and hash it out.

Sorry, which part of this was accidental? You were told something by Friend 1 in confidence, something you knew would upset Friend 2. So you told Friend 2 about it and passed on private messages for good measure. Now you've got cold feet because you've done something shitty and are going to have to face the person you betrayed.

Hang on while I locate my nanoviolin 🤷🏻‍♀️🎻

Nothing accidental about sending the messages.

Basically you've been shown up to be two faced and spiteful and now your panicking about it.

Own it and apologise but expect the friend to not trust you again

You deliberately cause an issue, absolutely nothing accidental about it. If I was friend 1, I doubt I'd continue to be your friend.

You didn't accidently stir things, you deliberately stirred things.

You'll probably end up with neither of them because friend 1 will, rightly, be pissed off you shared her messages to you, and friend 2 will never trust you because of what you did to friend 1.

My advice would be to concentrate on other friendships, and learn from this shitshow.

You don’t feel awful, because you shit stirred deliberately.

Now you’re shit scared that your friends will see how two-faced you are.

Nothing accidental about that, op.
As well you know.

Actions have consequences. These are people’s feelings and quite frankly you deserve whatever happens and should take it on the chin. What you did was reckless and you knew it.

Come on now. You sent her those messages deliberately because you wanted to cause drama. Saying you don't know why you did is just completely disingenuous, and we weren't born yesterday, either. I think both of these "friendships" are over and done.

Not thinking and mentioning it is one thing, but then going and sending screenshots of your private convo is just shitty behaviour. Could have just briefly mentioned what was said, leaving out the worse parts, if you had to say anything.

I doubt either are going to be your friend now, friend 1 will certainly never trust you again. You have some serious apologising to do.

I agree this was deliberate by you and now you're shitting yourself and trying to back track

You've fucked up

Learn, move on

Cmon now. You didn’t accidentally do anything. What a ridiculous line to take. And all the silly I’m such an idiot why did I do that.

what you did was bitchy and low. You went after friend two and caused as much shit as you could, and she had trusted you.

i hope they both bin you off, as id not wish to be friends with anyone who did that. And even worse you won’t own it.and are claiming it was an accident.