Accidentally stirred the pot and don’t know how to make things right

[pleasehelpagirlout62]

Friend 1 messaged me a couple of weeks ago something she shouldn’t have commented on about Friend 2. Something she know Friend 2 wouldn’t of liked.

I have been having a long chat with Friend 2 and stupidly said Friend 1 had been chatting to me about that last week. She then wants the whole details, I feel awful and send her our messages as she wanted to know and now she is raging with Friend 1.

I feel like a total idiot and stirred the pot. Now I feel like they are going to fall out because of me, and that Friend 1 is going to fall out with me because I sent our texts to Friend 2.

What have I done! Why did I do this! Someone help me rectify this please

So, Friend1 told you something about Friend2. Something Friend2 then told you about herself. You said "Yeah Friend1 was telling me about that"

And now Friend2 is pissed off because Friend1 was talking about something that Friend2 told you anyway.

Are you all 13?

Tell them both to grow up

Doesn’t sound like you’re a good friend to either of these people. Poor friend 2 has been treated terribly

There is no rectifying this unless you bring both together and say I really messed up, I'm so sorry.

You fractured trust on both sides, I'd be prepared for one or both of them to not speak to you again. For whatever reason, whether you felt guilty about the bitching by friend 1 maybe, it's happened now and there's no undoing it.

Your actual no coming back from fuck up was sharing the messages.

WTF.

Never ends well for double agents

This sound right to me

Your soon-to-be former friends - 1 & 2 - are well rid of you and your ‘accidental’ 5hit-stirring.

When you sink so low as to send the messages, there is no coming back from it. That’s deliberate and malicious.

Say sorry, mean it, and hope it works out. That's all you can do at this point.

(and in future, a good rule of thumb is that you never share messages with a third party - friend 2 shouldn't have been asking you for those and you certainly shouldn't have shared them).

This is really horrible and I wouldn't want to be friends with you anymore either cuz you couldn't be trusted

I think you need to look deep inside as to why you did this. Subconsciously you must have an issue with friend 1 and you rocked the boat to call trouble.

Try and figure out what underlying tension is there to cause this. Are you insecure about the friendship ?

Beggars belief that you'd send the messages on and still say it was an accident!

Or she was trying to curry favour with the other friend, so threw the first one under the bus.

You did a shitty thing, you take the consequences. Count your blessings if they don’t both drop you for being two faced.

Ha, this reminds me when DS was about 8 and claimed he "accidentally" climbed up onto a chair to reach the top shelf in the cupboard where the sweets were kept and ate a whole packet of Haribo.
You could try sending a really grovelling message to Friend 1 but I think realistically, you have lost that friendship (and rightly so).

Also, saying this for your own good and not to sound mean but please get some grammar lessons, there is probably something free on youtube.

No way should you have sent the messages from one friend to another. Lesson learned I guess.

So Friend 1 trusted you with something and you forwarded their private messages to Friend 2, I think you realise what sort of person oyu are and both your friends will be better off without you. With 'friends' like you, who needs enemies.

You’re a shit stirrer. You don’t “accidentally” mention something like that and you also don’t forward private messages either. If I was friend 1 neither you nor friend 2 would be featuring as friends in my life again after this, they’ve had a lucky escape.

Why would you do that?!
How old are you?

Are you in secondary school @pleasehelpagirlout62 ? What you did is absolutely out of the bitchy girl bully book!

None of what you did was an accident. You should have kept your mouth shut when it came to whatever Friend 1 said/texted to you as that was probably done expecting a level of confidentiality as a friend. It's not your secret to tell, right?
Then you basically give Friend 2 print outs of what Friend 1 thought/said about your mutual friend?

Would you want to stay friends with someone who did what you did to them?

Shame on you.

You can’t fix this. You’ve messed up. All you can do is hold your hands up if called out. I would say though, keep a low profile for a bit, let it blow over. Least said soonest mended. Keep your nose out of others business in future.

Friend 1 needs to realise that if you don't want things getting back to people, don't say them in the first place. It's all done now, and we are only human, these things happen. I'm not going to judge you because that would be pretending I'm perfect myself. But hopefully both you and Friend 1 will learn not to talk about your other friends behind their back from now on.

You probably just have to wait until it sort of blows over by itself, as things tend to do with time (unless what was said was catastrophic of course).

At least they know who you are now and can decide whether or not to continue the friendship. You'll have to accept whatever their decision is.

A 'friend' did this to me a few years ago. Both ways, in fact. She relayed unpleasant stuff a mutual friend supposedly said about me and she also completely misrepresented/lied about something I'd said, to a group of friends who then ostracised me. I've gritted my teeth and remained polite (but distant) because she lives next door, but I just heard she's sold her house and I've been dancing with joy at the thought of never having to see her face again!

That's some weapons~ grade shit stirring you have done, @pleasehelpagirlout62

What the heck were you thinking of...are you 13?