Accidentally stirred the pot and don’t know how to make things right

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Friend 1 messaged me a couple of weeks ago something she shouldn’t have commented on about Friend 2. Something she know Friend 2 wouldn’t of liked.

I have been having a long chat with Friend 2 and stupidly said Friend 1 had been chatting to me about that last week. She then wants the whole details, I feel awful and send her our messages as she wanted to know and now she is raging with Friend 1.

I feel like a total idiot and stirred the pot. Now I feel like they are going to fall out because of me, and that Friend 1 is going to fall out with me because I sent our texts to Friend 2.

What have I done! Why did I do this! Someone help me rectify this please

Wow.

Yes I absolutely understand the initial putting foot in it.

But to share messages someone send you in confidence?

If I was friend 1 it wouldn't be a case of falling out with you, I'm not a child. I would be absolutely devastated at your betrayal.

If I was friend 2 I would never trust you again.

The only possible chance of salvaging this is to give Friend 1 the heads up so she can prepare.

Then you both start begging Friend 2 for forgiveness. You also beg Friend 1 for forgiveness.

I cannot believe you sent the texts.

You didn’t stir the pot, you flung it and threw the contents all over yourself and both of your friends.

Yeah you are really are a bitchy spoon.

Me too. I’d play nice for awhile and act grateful then I’d bin her off fast. No one would trust anyone who did something like that. Actually sending the messages so she could proper stick the knife in.

Accidental - yeah sure, and i was born yesterday. You wanted the drama, now own it. Don't be surprised if they both drop you as a friend.

This

I can't see where "accidentally" comes into it. You did it deliberately and if I was friend 1 I would be furious with you, but she's obviously not a fan of friend 2,and you're just a bitchy shit-stirrer.

OP- which part exactly was your accident??? How old are you? You sound 13!

It’s all the I accidentally told her, I accidentally sent them. She begged me. I’m so silly nonsense.

it’s very clear you did it deliberately and knowing what you were doing. It was bitchy and horrible. And the friend you shared with will deep down think very poorly of you.

but the not owning it and pretending it was an accident is the worst of it.

You ‘accidentally’ mentioned that friend one was messaging about friend 2 to friend 2?

How is that an accident?

Then you say ‘I am an idiot for sending them’ as well as ‘I knew it would cause an argument’.

Fact is you shit in both friends. Friend one by betraying her trust. Friend 2 by running to her.

If a friend told me someone was talking shit about me, to then, I would be wondering why the person felt so comfortable talking shit to my friend. It would make me wary of my friend.

If I were Friend 2 I’d drop you so fast. If I were Friend 1 I’d drop you even faster!

Why would you ever share messages?

That's no accident. You clearly enjoy an argy bargie

Well at least you won't have to worry about having so many friends in future...

Or ever being told something again.

Play silly games, win silly prizes…

Fuck around and find out, as they say 😬

Look on the bright side, at least its 2 less Christmas presents to buy this year!!

Confess, apologise, admit that you’re ashamed and embarrassed of your behaviour. DO NOT try and put the blame on the other friend, the last thing you want is them comparing notes on you being two faced again.

Bull shit did you do any of this accidentally. You deliberately shit stirred - probably loving the drama - and now you’re shitting yourself because you’ve been caught out that you can’t be trusted.

Sharing private messages is fucking disgusting behaviour. If I was either of your friends, you’d be history.

You SENT her all the messages from the conversation you had with friend 1? Yeesh.

All you can do is think about the repercussions the next time something like this begins to arise. You can make the decision to not sent the chat history.

Agree, this is good advice.

Have t rtft but it doesn't sound like it was accidental tbh

Agree. With friends like that who needs enemies!

You knew what you were doing so why are you worried all if a sudden? Is there some other reason you want to ruin their friendship?