Accidentally stirred the pot and don’t know how to make things right

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Friend 1 messaged me a couple of weeks ago something she shouldn’t have commented on about Friend 2. Something she know Friend 2 wouldn’t of liked.

I have been having a long chat with Friend 2 and stupidly said Friend 1 had been chatting to me about that last week. She then wants the whole details, I feel awful and send her our messages as she wanted to know and now she is raging with Friend 1.

I feel like a total idiot and stirred the pot. Now I feel like they are going to fall out because of me, and that Friend 1 is going to fall out with me because I sent our texts to Friend 2.

What have I done! Why did I do this! Someone help me rectify this please

You accidentally mentioned it

You were then pressured to say more and send messages

The only way to remotely fix this is to ring the other friend and apologise.

Well you’ve definitely lost friend 1 and friend 2 knows you can’t be trusted to keep a secret. What an avoidable mess!

This. Sending screenshots of messages isnt accidental. You've behaved like a total snake in this scenario.

Why did you do it- because you clearly love drama, gossip and shit stirring. The sad thing is, this will cost you two friendships so it wasn't really worth it was it?

The only option left to you now is to admit full responsibility for what you've done and sincerely apologise then let the cards fall where they may. But personally, I would never trust you ever again if I was either of them.

Think you have to wear this one.

Your should have called friend 1 out when she first said the problematic comment. Now you just look two faced.

Blimey op, some friend you are. Own it and grovel! They can’t trust you again now though - friendship would be over it was me, sorry.

Dd2 aged 14 has just had this she has been friend 1 a close friend of hers blabbed everything she confided in her to her to the person in question. Not the first time either. We’ve had long chats about it. Dd2 has ended the friendship in a non dramatic fashion. Distance / invites stopped and she will never tell the blabber anything again.

I would not be surprised if both friends 1 and 2 dropped you. They certainly will not trust you again.
Playground behaviour

Everyone knows you don't share messages, unless you want to talk behind someone's back. Sharing those is passing on the evidence, it's always going to blow back on you. Learn your lesson for next time, say no. Keep conversations private. There's nothing you can do about it now. Be prepared for friend 1 to never talk to you again.

Good to learn these lessons early. Especially when messages are digital- they never really go away. 🌹

OP is not in the middle, she's the catalys

Urgh. My grandmother used to use this as an excuse not to apologise. I hate it.

She IS the bad guy!

What possessed you to do such a thing?

“Accidentally” stirred the pot my arse. You sent screen shots…

All you can do is apologise to both and not blame them if they don’t trust you again for a while.

Your friendship with friend 1 is over. I would never trust a friend again after what you did, no matter how much they apologise. Sending texts is a very teenage thing to do.

Enjoyed the drama of it I guess, some folks are like that. See an opportunity and will stab someone in the back for it.

the other friend trusted her, and made a comments, warranted or otherwise, and the op ran and told the other woman , clearly in depth, then sent her the private messages to prove it for good measure. Hurting both women in the process. Then lied and said it was all an accident and tried to blame the second woman as apparently she begged.

It isnt just them that will fail out. Friend 1 will fall out with you and then probably friend 2 as well now she knows you were talking about her.

You knew what you were doing so own it

yep.

If I were either of them I'd not speak to you again, sorry and all. You've proved you can't be trusted. Learn your lesson and go and find some new friends and don't share information again without permission of the person/people it concerns.

You shared messages????

Wow. Just wow. OP that is awful. Honestly awful high school mean girl shit.

This wasn't accidental, you're THAT person (pretends to be sweetness and light but is a nasty bit of kit), and you're not friends with friend 1.

Own both of those things.

You have probably lost both ‘friends’

How old are you?

I'm guessing 14? 🤣

True!

You can apologise but that’s all.

In that moment you made a choice which broke the trust of one of your friends. You probably will be able to maintain friendship with the other however she will also remember you were not trustworthy even though it benefited her needs at the time.