Is there a trend of 50 year olds leaving long term partners?

[CantBelieveNaive]

Is this really a trend? I saw it on a female quotient post today and judging by my 50 year old friends who can afford it, they are leaving them instead of looking forward to. Retirement of waiting on them.
Am even considering myself!
Are you? 👑👢👢

I'm 39 and single, this is making me wonder if it's even worth looking again 😁

I’m not sure if it’s a specific thing for 50 year olds but I think lack of oestrogen as women get older can often make us less likely to put up with shit relationships whereas we might have had rose tinted glasses on before.

I reckon a lot of women who stay for the kids, get to 50ish, their kids go off to uni/gain independence and they're finally free to leave.

Menopause...

I went through a phase of detesting my dh and wanting to just run away and live alone in menopause.
It's quite common

It’s also usually the time the kids have grown up and are adults

I separated from my ex DH when I was 50, and a couple of my friends have also recently split. But I also know lots of couple who are still together. 🤷‍♀️

I think it’s a mixture of what @NuffSaidSam and @Pigeonqueen said - menopausal intolerance of shit plus desire to live for yourself when kids grown up.
I’m keeping my DH, I really like him but Im more vocal and less tolerant nowadays so can certainly see how it might be different for some people.

I separated from my ex-DH when I was in my early fifties. It felt like DS was growing up and getting more independent while ex-DH was becoming more of a needy man child. I couldn’t bear the thought of having to carry the mental load forever more so left. I now have my own flat and the only person I have to take care of is myself. It’s bliss.

Interesting points.

Not to mention that without child care / chauffeuring restraints, this demographic can now focus on improving their working life / earning potential which again adds to potential ‘freedom’

I see it a lot in work, but with the men leaving their wives.

It's mainly because they've been having an affair with a younger woman at work.

It's happened about 3 times in my office alone (and I live in a very small town). These men have grown up kids and then they start all over again and have to go through all of the newborn baby shit again!!

Yep 54 and split up last year, I looked forward to the next 20 years and thought NO thank you. Kids are still at home but old enough to understand and cope.

Did you get over it? I’m at this stage even though he’s a good husband and nice guy. But things that didn’t bother me about him before really wind me up and I feel bad. I fantasize about living on my own. I’m 50.

This is pretty much my plan…….

I’m 53 and have been with DH 25 years. DC’s are 16 and 24. I often look at him snoring on the sofa and think is this it? Is this the rest of my life? It probably will be to be fair as I don’t dislike him enough to disrupt my whole life by leaving him!
But then there are days when I watch him sleep and think ahh he’s not too bad 😂😂

I’m 53 and have been on HRT for 6 months. The feelings of rage and wanting to stab him with a bread knife have subsided somewhat now 😀

Yes. We had an absolutely horrible year where I just couldn't stand him and was raging every day.
I felt taken for granted and I was angry all the time

We worked through it but it was very difficult. Lots of talking and trying to explain to DH how I was feeling.
I carved out more independence which I never really did before but I found I liked being more solitary and doing stuff alone more.
DH has developed his own hobbies and interests too.
We've reached a balance of doing stuff and spending time together when we want while giving each other space to do our own thing when we want as well.

I did go through that hard year just wanting to pack a suitcase and run away though.
I'm on HRT and the rage has calmed now.
Apparently it happens to a lot of women. My sister is currently going through the rage herself. I says to her to hang in there for a year and then see how she feels.

I am 53 and my husband 54. No plans to leave. I have always been intolerant and irritable so my husband is used to it ;-)

It is a shit age. Parents getting unwell and kids leaving home. I am glad my husband is around to share the crapness of it all.

He is a good guy though and I have ensured we have always shared everything 50:50 so I don’t have the years of built-up resentment that some of my friends have.

I wonder if being at home much more in 2020 and 2021, even if you had to go to a place of work that was not your home, has had an impact.

I think about this on a daily basis. Oldest DC has his own place and youngest will be leaving in about 14 months after Uni.

i like my DH and DC on an individual basis and they are all “good about the house”. But I’m so over being the problem solver /putter awayery/ general dogsbody that I wonder what life would be alike if I was only looking out for myself.

Best thing I ever did!
Bloody albatross.
I was 48.

It was my plan too but I just couldn't stand it anymore and bailed at 45 with the kids still in school.

Haven't regretted it for a second.

I am now 50, been single since 2016. The longer I am on my own, the harder it is to think of being in a relationship

Together 16 yrs, no DC together.
Hit mid 50's, DM passed away, I started feeling life's too short and realised that I don't need to put up with his selfish bullshit anymore, I own my own house, a good job and have a decent pension.
It's liberating.
I see those memes about zero fucks given, that basically sums me up.

Already done it. ExH was abusive. Life is immeasurably better as a singleton. I'm never going there again. Seven years and counting. Live your life your way.

Didn’t have a long term partner but I’m 52 and love living on my own. DD is 11 and now moaning about exH terrible food and the smell of cigarettes and his dirty house.
Reckon she’ll not put up with him much longer.