AIBU for paying child caused damage out of wedding gift money?

[Toffifee1]

Let me start by saying i will absolutely always offer or even insist to pay for damage that my child (or I, I‘m clumsy) caused. But this one i thought was unnecessary.

My DC accidentally broke a plate - a regular, plain, rented plate, nothing fancy, no family heirloom - at a wedding. I apologised and cleaned it up. I did not offer to replace it because it was just a plate at a wedding venue, i thought those damages were kind of included.

Additional info: I know the groom was trying to safe every penny in advance of the wedding while the bride wanted everything extravagant and chic and the pair asked for money as gifts. The wedding was at an expensive instagram-worthy location(castle) but they saved money on everything regarding the guests like low budget food(not even enough) and few drinks.

The groom asked me to replace the plate in front of all the other guests. I was honestly a bit taken aback as i still had the envelope with enough money to more than cover my meal in my purse.
So i reached into my purse, took the envelope, took one of the two 100£ notes out and handed it to him saying „This should cover it, you can give me the change later.“

So basically everyone including the groom realised that i just reduced his gift money. Was i being unreasonable?

No not at all. They don’t sound like very good hosts, or even that they were trying to host at all. I don’t understand why people bother inviting people to something where they consider the guests with contempt.

I think you're a fucking hero for doing that. I wouldn't have had the balls.

I think he had a nerve . The occasional broken plate or glass is to be expected at a wedding.

Ha. I would pay to have seen his face.

Dickhead. The plate probably cost £2. Please keep the change from the note and only gift them the second note.

Surely the wedding venue can cover a broken cheap rented plate. They tend to be very bad quality so easily broken and cheap to replace. Not sure why the groom asked you for money for it?

I like your style!

You are awesome.

Well done you! Please tell me you kept the change?

Excellent move. Keep the change.

Well maybe the venue would factor in broken plates, or maybe the couple should be liable as it is their contract with the venue, or maybe you should pay. I'd have not made it so obvious I was using their gift money but the groom could always have handled it with a bit more discretion.

Had the venue actually even asked for payment to replace it or did the groom decide it needed paying for?

Accidents happen and a broken everyday plate isn't a big deal in catering.

Bet everyone was very cautious and hugged their glasses for their drinks after that.

WTF? They bulk buy that sort of stuff as it gets broken all the time. Good for you OP.

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So the posh Castle didn't ask for the money, the groom did???

I hope you didn't had over the other £100.

What are £100 notes then?

ETA: Clarified that they have them in Scotland and NI (and I guess it could have been a typo for 100€?)

How horrible for the groom to try and embarrass you in front of the guests -
Was it definitely not said as a joke?

If he was saying it seriously then I think you handled it perfectly.

There's no such thing as £100 bank notes.

We have them in Scotland. HTH.

Perfect response!

Not that it matters, but I presume this wasn't in the UK if you have £100 notes?

I'm humbled by your awesomeness.

Why were you gifting someone £200???

Good for you! The pair of them sound like idiots but at least they have found each other.

I’m sorry… when did the UK become England?
There are places other than England. And we have £100 notes.

YANBU, and their wedding sounds shit. What is the point of a having a wedding if you're stingy about food and drink. Just elope if you don't care about guest enjoyment

Good on you! If it was a special plate, then I could understand his annoyance but come on!

Ah, another poster has cleared this up, thanks.

I never knew Scotland had £100 notes.