AIBU for paying child caused damage out of wedding gift money?

[Toffifee1]

Let me start by saying i will absolutely always offer or even insist to pay for damage that my child (or I, I‘m clumsy) caused. But this one i thought was unnecessary.

My DC accidentally broke a plate - a regular, plain, rented plate, nothing fancy, no family heirloom - at a wedding. I apologised and cleaned it up. I did not offer to replace it because it was just a plate at a wedding venue, i thought those damages were kind of included.

Additional info: I know the groom was trying to safe every penny in advance of the wedding while the bride wanted everything extravagant and chic and the pair asked for money as gifts. The wedding was at an expensive instagram-worthy location(castle) but they saved money on everything regarding the guests like low budget food(not even enough) and few drinks.

The groom asked me to replace the plate in front of all the other guests. I was honestly a bit taken aback as i still had the envelope with enough money to more than cover my meal in my purse.
So i reached into my purse, took the envelope, took one of the two 100£ notes out and handed it to him saying „This should cover it, you can give me the change later.“

So basically everyone including the groom realised that i just reduced his gift money. Was i being unreasonable?

Yes there are 100 pound bank notes. here in Scotland. As I've said before, Mumsnet is pretty ignorant about Scotland isn't it.

Anyone - how was the groom related to OP?

I wonder what would have happened if the child had knocked over the plastic cup with a bit of Rola Cola in it😂

A child in my DSs class (when aged about 6) pulled 5 x £100 out his pocket and said look what I got for my birthday. Am in Scotland and this was a few years back.

I mean probably double douche. You and him.

but really, also probably the only cash you had on you.

overall it was absolutely classless for him to ask in front of people. And you could’ve just said ‘I wouldn’t dream of not’.

super funny. I love that that’s probably the scandal of the wedding!

edit:recently married - those crappy plates are about 20£ Each to replace to the rental company. And some will add a re-bundle fee. yes they are super crap and probably only actually cost the rental place 2£. Just for info, it doesn’t change anything. Also glad the grooms mom called him out. Stressed plus hangry didn’t mix for you two. But also I’m totally with you, a wedding reception is thrown to celebrate the marriage with friends/family. It’s ALL about the guest experience - not the venue.

I applaud you, he sounds like a right . Well done you

We have 3 £100 notes.

One is Pink (Clydesdale)
One is Blue (Bank of Scotland)
One is Brown (Royal Bank of Scotland)

DHs cousin.

It was the only cash i had and the groom later called and told us that they didn‘t have to pay anything for the broken plate.

The naffing cheap, cheap skate.
Your choice, but I'd wash my hands off that lot.

Tell him to stick the tenner up his

Haha legend!!!

Absolutely love this!!!

I think it didn’t happen.

You’re not the AH! Well done u x

🤭

…and i wish it didnt happen.

Absolute fucking hero! I want your balls 😂superstar

When I lived in Scotland you rarely saw a £100 note as like the £50 note, before they when plastic, they were easy to fake and small shops couldn't take the hit of a fake one. I worked at B&Q and of course lots of builders were paid cash in hand (naughty) so B&Q took £50 and £100 notes

Being paid in cash doesn’t mean they don’t pay tax. I paid everyone in cash when I bought my new hours and ripped it apart. All my receipts had the VAT and everything included, all properly documented.

I also do a job we’re I get paid in cash or card, whatever the customer wants. I record and pay tax on all of it.

Because OP can afford it I’d say 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tenner?
It was £100!! 😆