AIBU for paying child caused damage out of wedding gift money?

[Toffifee1]

Let me start by saying i will absolutely always offer or even insist to pay for damage that my child (or I, I‘m clumsy) caused. But this one i thought was unnecessary.

My DC accidentally broke a plate - a regular, plain, rented plate, nothing fancy, no family heirloom - at a wedding. I apologised and cleaned it up. I did not offer to replace it because it was just a plate at a wedding venue, i thought those damages were kind of included.

Additional info: I know the groom was trying to safe every penny in advance of the wedding while the bride wanted everything extravagant and chic and the pair asked for money as gifts. The wedding was at an expensive instagram-worthy location(castle) but they saved money on everything regarding the guests like low budget food(not even enough) and few drinks.

The groom asked me to replace the plate in front of all the other guests. I was honestly a bit taken aback as i still had the envelope with enough money to more than cover my meal in my purse.
So i reached into my purse, took the envelope, took one of the two 100£ notes out and handed it to him saying „This should cover it, you can give me the change later.“

So basically everyone including the groom realised that i just reduced his gift money. Was i being unreasonable?

There are few places in England that will accept ANY Scottish note, even though it reads sterling on the cash, which is the same currency btw.
Why is that? It has bamboozled me for years
Sorry to digress from topic.😂

@Didshejustsaythatoutloud I think it's because there are so many different Scottish bank notes that it's hard to know what are fake and what are real when you don't see them often . England just have one fiver, one tenner etc

Not unreasonable. I would have done the same, but I think I would have been a little sly and not let them see m do it. Then I'd have kept the bloody change halving the gift.

Did they have staff removing the plates from the tables as you used them ? What would have happened if they had dropped a few on the way to the kitchen …..it happens….. he sounds a right weirdo , I would of loved to have been a fly on the wall, cheeky bloke

There are - my Scottish aunty gave me one for my 21st birthday.

You smacked the clown right between the eyes with your ten pound left hook

Good on you, dear!!😂😂

I know you say you didn’t have much choice. But this was handled brilliantly. Idk if I’d give the extra £100. Maybe for their kids when they’re born (but the risk is they’ll have more than one so it would be better to be for a piece of equipment) or at their 1 year anniversary.

You said she has secured her visa. Where is she from op?

LOL 😂 OP, YOU ARE AMAZING. I wish I had the balls to do that, honestly 👏🏼

I can’t believe he asked you to pay for that plate in front of others (or at all!), that’s such bad hosting. Honestly.

Me too. I love it, Actually. 😂

While we asked for no gifts or money, some friends still gifted us cash. Typically, it was around that mark $200-$250

The food situation reminds me of a wedding I went to in 2002, they had booked a local hotel, £40 a head for the sit-down meal & £15 each for the evening do, there was so little food we ended up leaving early enough to call at the chippy on the way home, we were starving. At my wedding we booked the local country club, meal was £10 a head & £8 for the evening do, there was so much food in the evening we sent anyone who wanted it home with a doggy bag.

I'd have said, "Of course. Please send me an invoice."

Bingo, there’s always an ‘I assume they’re childless’ comment because someone who is a parent would never be upset by this

Great response. He was completely graceless to say that to you. I am sure breakages like that are parr for the course and all factored in my the caterers. How embarrassing for you and your family to be put on the spot like that. I would have felt so embarrassed and angry. You gesture was a great up yours. He caught you off guard and you made an instinctive response. With a cooler head you might not have done that, but he threw you (his fault) and you did, so all is good.

Good for you! These event plates are bought in bulk and often get broken. It was just a catering plate and little ones often break stuff by accident.

I wouldn't give them the rest of the gift either.

Brilliant = Proud of you

Touche darling!

I'm imaging it delivered with a toss of the perfectly coiffured hair and curled lip worthy of Alexis Carrington.

Poor guy who belittles the woman in front of everyone is just stressed, #bekind.

Nasty woman who responds to him is "spiteful".

I see you

We had replace some of the carpet in our wedding venue after someone had an accident. Groom was a dick.

I would have only gifted him the change and kept the other note myself. How rude

Not a very classy venue if you are charging for breakages, you would expect something of that in this kind of industry. Also, yes groom is a twat

You shouldn’t feel bad at all, you stood your ground and I’m glad he apologised. Mental health problems are not a license to be a dick.

Had your child been generally misbehaving before hand?
Was this the only incident?
sounds as though the groom was wound up already to react like that?
If none of the above you did exactly the right thing.

Bloody hell - you have £100 notes in Scot,and. My local shops won't even take £50s - are £100s wide,y accepted?

I thought they'd been withdrawn in NI - or is that just paper ones?