Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

[Moonfishstar]

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

The thing I don’t like about SOME short men on OLD is that they lie about it. If someone has started off looking for a relationship with a lie, that’s it for me.

I have no problem dating someone who is 5’6” as I am. What I do object to is someone who has lied about their height - or their job or anything else.

Men with short man syndrome may lie about height, where stacked shoes etc.

Whereas a man with good principles - who is brave, kind, reliable and selfless - is very attractive at any height.

It's pin money compared to your wife's income Rishi.

That’s so funny if you’ve gone and made a profile just to say this!

Im sorry Rishi - you aren’t the perfect man of whom I spoke.

I know quite a few couples where the woman is taller than the man (generally the woman is 5'8+). It's never been an issue. I wouldn't likely be attracted to a man shorter than me, but at 5'2, that seems unlikely...my DH is 5'10, so under 6' still.

I wasn't aware women had this criteria - they'd be on a hiding to nothing in parts of Glasgow.

I would probably prefer 5ft 9 or over but if I was really into someone I wouldn't care.

It does remind me of being 15 though and having a 14 year old boyfriend who hadn't yet had his growth spurt and as we walked into the cinema I heard someone shouting "she's taller than him" and much laughter.

I found him unattractive long before I found out how tall he was. Doubt I would change my mind if he was a foot taller!

To be fair all this is definitely a thing on MN.

I would even say my own mother is somewhat proud of having a 6’2” son which is daft in my opinion.

My exh is 5’8” (not one of the reasons he’s an exh, although I do think it played into his ridiculous “equalism” where he refused to acknowledge male privilege). My son won’t be particularly tall - I’ve prepared him for that already, although the NHS “red book” thinks he’ll be about 5’10”, which is probably a good height to never have you height remarked on.

I don't care about a man's height. My very tall female friend at uni was quite nasty about it to men's faces. If they tried to talk to her she was horrid and said sorry you're too short go away. I am a bit taller than DH when I wear high heels. One of my sons is very small in height and worries about it. I'm not worried because I know not all women are like my uni friend and he's a great, caring lad with clear morals.

I get what you mean OP.

My partner is only a tad taller than me and i'm not close to 6ft, but I would never had considered him had we not instantly clicked. It really challenged my preconceived notion of "taller the better".

This...

Maybe occasionally, on online dating, years ago...for some women..

Whenever I hear one demographic complaining about "women" or "men" not wanting them, what they normally mean is "the kind of women and men I feel entitled to".

I've previously met shorter guys online dating knowing their heights.

Honestly the issues with things not continuing were normally more holistic/personality based...at no time did I think "if they were 6 foot this wouldn't have happened!". Height was irrelevant.

And I got the impression they had plenty of female attention, previous relationships as well.

Yes some short men are twats, and Rishi is one of them. Just as some tall men are twats! And some middling men.

My exh was very short and my DH is very tall so i obviously wasn't that choosy .

Shorter men are fine, until they pull the “please don’t wear heels card” or some such bollocks. Insecurity is such a turn off.

6'4" man here - I must be pretty offensive to look at because I have never noticed
Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed.

In fact, a few times I've been knocked back for allegedly being too tall.

Being tall certainly hasn't done me any favours.

I don't know any women who are that bothered about height 🤔 I've dated men of all different heights, but at only 5' 1" myself, I'd be hard pushed to find someone shorter than me 😂 DH is 6 ft but I didn't consciously choose him for his height!

Is it that they are proud of their boy's tallness or is it just weird having children towering above you in their mid-teens? All of a sudden I feel like one of those harassed parent birds with a trailing enormous baby bird following me around with perma-hunger.

It depends on the person and the context they are posting in.

A persons height isn’t important to me tbh previous partners were taller current partner is 5’6. It’s just a small part of him, he’s amazing so I am very lucky. Quite glad of all the women who dismissed him prior to me because of his height. Each to their own though.

Are you offensive to look at? Are you skinny as well as tall? Maybe the women that knocked you back just preferred shorter men. Maybe it’s your personality. 😬

Cuts both ways - I hit 5ft 11 aged 14 and got rejected by lads more than once for being too tall! I’ve also had random drunk men tell me tall women aren’t attractive cos they are more difficult to dominate 🤮and been told my height is emasculating by a stranger.
I do think the tall, masculine bloke and tiny petite woman narrative that runs through countless 20th century books and films probably has more influence than we realise

Some of them are definitely proud, it’s quite bizarre.

...don't forget, when they say WOMEN, what they normally mean are slim, young women with youthful features, a contemporary dress sense and pliable personalities of course.

In general I observe people from similar social/financial groups tend to end up with each other for long term relationships.

It's more likely two people on the same career path/educational background will pair up than a guy will be out there hunting for a perfect size 8 or a woman a 6'2 guy.

I am very open minded when it comes to men’s height.
I do not care. Never have.
As long as they don’t have a short man syndrome, it’s cool.

Now, if only men would also be open minded when it comes to women’s weight.
Are you, op?
Also, many men themselves want to be the taller one.
Have you noticed that?
Often times men are the one who want a short(er) woman.

I've dated 5ft5 to 6ft5. I'm 5ft7. Both extremes were... problematic in their own way.

The 6ft5 guy was constantly moaning that he was uncomfortable whenever we went to the cinema/theatre/restaurant with small tables shoved in a corner/he drove anywhere in his teeny tiny car.

The 5ft5 guy was very insecure about his height, which was daft, it wasn't something he could do anything about! A low point was when he insisted I wasn't 5ft7, and made me stand against a wall so he could measure me... He insisted I'm 5ft6 and 'only' one inch taller than him, but of course wouldn't let me see for myself...

IDGAF about their height, but sometimes they do.

Definitely proud and it's also quite normal to meet blokes who think that being tall is an achievement. Blokes are never shy with other men when it comes to let you know that you're really small.