Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

[Moonfishstar]

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

when there's some posters who won't date someone shorter because of how it'll look when they wear high heels once in a blue moon 🙄

My experience in dating shorter men was that they were the ones telling me not to wear heels because they felt uncomfortable about it! I am not having someone dictate to me how I dress thanks.

I'm happy with any height, I wasn't aware it was an issue until speaking with other women I found that they often prefer tall men. I just want the right person. I am demisexual, so I don't get an immediate physical attraction but go by vibe, so I don't know if that makes a difference. I have noticed that a lot of handsome men on dating apps are shorter, I wonder if they have less connections meeting in real-life and fare better online as their height isn't obvious.

I'm 5'4" and I would've looked ridiculous with a six footer. However, there is no way I would have considered an oompa loompa either.

I don't like those labels but I'd say I'm very close to demisexual if I had to specify a labels, except when it comes to height. It's the one and only feature which provokes an instant visceral reaction in me and makes me feel sexually attracted to even a stranger.

Demisexual is just normal female sexuality and appropriate boundaries. It's not a special identity in my mind, and would apply to 90% of Mumsnet, even the boring older ones not the bright young things. I'm a bit sad for women today that they need a special label to hide behind so they can justify not having sex with strangers.

It's a very similar mentality to the op, trying to get us to overlook our prejudice and go against our own preferences.

No women shouldn't have to dish out sex to people they don't know, don't fancy, are the wrong sex etc. No lesbians aren't bigots for not saying no to penis and women aren't wrong for withholding sex from 'nice guys'.

Honestly world is going backwards.

Oh, be nice, I'd love a label. Can I have a label for never being up for it on a morning because coffee comes first? One that makes me sounds super interesting without having to invest any energy into actually doing anything?

I'm finding it hard to confirm, but I'm sure I've read somewhere that "demisexual" started as a term in some Reddit fiction almost 20 years ago to pisstake the trend for labelling everything. I might be wrong.

I think queer covers everything these days, obviously only if you are actually straight though, since homosexuality is wrongthink.

Queer it is. I shall reveal it to my family this evening. There will be a party. With coffee. I shall take my whole self to work on Monday.🎉

I on the other hand hate coffee so I will only be attention as a form of protest. Will bring a teapot to share once you have seen the light. Not decaf though, because it's shite.

Noted, bigot.

Attending not attention. It's ok though as I'm identifying as someone who can spell.

Now where is my tambourine...

😁😁😁

Ah here it is.
Ahem.
Repent Coffee Fecker.

🤣

DH is shorter than me and markedly shorter when I'm in heels. Doesn't bother us one bit but it is definitely a thing for other people. When we first started dating so many people would question how I could date someone shorter than me. Simple, he's funny, kind and generous in all senses of the word and that made him all the more physically attractive to me.

Height is a big thing with men. They are sensitive about it.

😂

I just have to note we always referred to desecrated coconut in our family.

True. In his younger days DH shared a house with a guy who was exactly the same height (v.tall) but had a longer body & shorter legs. I prefer DH's proportions.

I read somewhere (can't remember where, can't be arsed to Google just now...) that men and women of the same height, women would usually have longer legs/shorter body compared to the men.

@EBearhug, It is why men of the same height will look shorter.
As a man, I am closer to 5'11", but always put 5'10" for OLD to make up for the proportions.

That makes sense.

My dad and I had the same length of legs. (I know because I had to buy his clothes for him latterly.) However, I'm just short of 5ft 9 and Dad was 5ft11.

The same with my late husband. We reckoned that it was other people's problem, not ours.