Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

[Moonfishstar]

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

As a female over 6 ft this has been an issue for me (as all the pretty shorter women bagging the taller men!). But nothing you can do about it. People fancy who they fancy, you can't make yourself fancy someone, or vice versa 🧘🧘🧘.

How does women benefit from agreeing to something they don't want? It sounds more like the men will benefit greatly. Women usually have the upper hand on the dating market anyway.

From reading on the relationships board on here it's clear women need to be more picky when it comes to men, not less.

This! I have definitely found men attractive that are under 6'.
Flat Race jockeys aren't normally short of glamorous girlfriends, and they are usually well under 6'

100%.

If you want to maximise the chance of having tall children and you are an average height woman then you need a tall man. Tall people have advantages much like pretty people have advantages. Good looking tall people have huge advantages over short,ugly people. Society is shallow. Sensible to give the next generation the best chance you can.

Same same

Definitely - but maybe they are overlooking decent, kind men who happen to be short!

People fancy who they fancy 🤷

The same could be said for any characteristic.

So you are saying some women overlook nice men who they don't fancy? Yup. That's how attraction works.

I will be very surprised if that happens in anywhere near the same numbers as it does in men who overlook decent, kind women who happen to be overweight.

This. Most guys don’t want to date someone taller than they are because it makes them feel less masculine, and the tall guys somehow always seem to end up with tiny women. I’m 6’0 but with quite a small frame (I have a bmi of 18), so I was actually scouted for modeling jobs a few times as a teenager, but men were absolutely brutal with unsolicited comments about my height even into my late twenties. People say horrible things when your body makes them feel insecure. I’m now 40 years old and happily married to an equally tall and skinny DH, but even now people make comments. Just a few months ago, I had an acquaintance at a dinner party say to me very randomly, “I always stayed away from dating women that were super tall because I was worried I’d have giraffe children, but actually your kids look pretty normal.” WTF?!

I don't find small men attractive. I can find them good looking and wonderful people, they just don't do it for me where it counts and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that! That said, I've been married to my 6'2 DH forever so it's a moot point anyway.

I've been in three serious relationships in my life and they've all been over six foot. And all similar types physically, actually. I don't do it on purpose but I do think I have a type. I have to have a strong physical connection with someone to bother.

I think whether or not this is true is academic cos young men & women absolutely believe it. From my pov, I'm 5'8' so quite tall for a woman (& even that can intimidate men) & I definitely prefer men taller than me which DH is but not say there aren't shorter man I find attractive, cos there are.

However! 2 of my 3 son's are over 6ft, one is under & he's very very aware of it. His younger brother is also hyper aware of being taller. I've tried my hardest to instill that it doesn't matter but it's already ingrained in their teens. That's more of a concern tbh & I'm sure it's cos of social media & dating apps which have turned attraction into a tick-box exercise. That wasn't really a thing beforehand & I think it's over-egged the importance of height. In the real world in real relationships, I doubt specific height means much at all.

Else everyone under 6ft would be single...and they aren't.

I agree with pp: This is not a widespread thing imo.

my SO is shorter than 6 ft.

As are many male friends and family members who are all happily “coupled”.

With all due respect... that is complete nonsense.

Does bumble have other surveys detailing potentially absurd requirements from men about the women they are looking for? If they do, then maybe in the interests of fairness you could share them too.

I tried once to be 'open-minded' about height because I really like the guy's personality - went on a few dates but gave up as I felt no physical attraction at all. Accepted it for what it is - I don't get physically attracted to men shorter than me and since I'm 6ft in heels - that doesn't leave me with much choice but to date men 6+ft or not date at all. I get the idea of examining criteria for a partner that are consciously chosen but you can't force physical attraction.

Only 15% Of Women Show Interest In 5'8" Men On Dating Apps, According To Survey

Well yes, because if they are 5'8 on the app, they are really 5'4 and while most women do not in fact think the taller the better, we also prefer not to tower over our partners.

Do women really do that? I'm 5ft 11 (as was my husband) and dated men from 5'7" to 6'2".

Only skimmed the first page...

There's an account called Ask Aubry on twitter & it posts loads of these moans from short men about how nobody wants to date them. Often they're physically unattractive low-earners too. Apparently it's women's fault that no drop-dead gorgeous, big-breasted, wealthy women want to go out with them.😂And the whole of womankind needs to change so that this one man can get laid.😂😂

My DH is 6'4". Cope.

Lol, no.
Men go on and on about how women will only date tall men, but in reality women date short men, fat men, ugly men, broke men, homeless men, jobless men, men drowning in debt, men who need intense care, etc, it's only online and in men's heads that women are as shallow as they are. Just because some women have a preference when dating doesn't mean all women do, just like when a man has a preference it doesn't mean all men do.
Women can't lower our standards any lower, the bar for dateable men is already on the floor

I've read some mad stuff on here but this is something else. I am 5'7 and have had relationships with men of my height, men slightly taller than me and one man who was almost 6ft. When I used to wear heels I was taller than the boyfriend who was my height but it never made me feel in any way self conscious, Of course we all have preferences but seriously!!!

I am 5 foot 1, DH 6 foot 5. I have had a LOT of women rant and rave at me for taking an inappropriately tall man out of the pool. But I am a farmer from a family of short arses and I knew I needed some tall breeding stock so acted accordingly 😂

No, you know they don't. Its a myth men tell themselves because its easier that taking responsibility for their awful personalities

I've dated men of all sizes and I wouldn't reject someone just for being short. However, at this stage of my life I would reject someone who has a chip on his shoulder about his height or any other thing related to his looks. In my experience, men who complain about feeling mistreated by women or society for their looks tend to be absolutely awful people.

I of course don't mean this to be about anyone who has a disability or disfigurement that they may be discriminated for. But perfectly average men who whine endlessly about how hard their lives are because they're a bit shorter than 6 foot or have a bit of a receding hairline are an instant yuck for me. Weirdly, I've noticed that usually it isn't even the very shortest guys who are the whiners. It's the guys who are about average or just somewhat under average who make it into their entire personality to be "short and suffering for it".

There was a meme that said "if you date an ugly man, he'll treat you like you're the ugly one" and as cruel as that sounds I've generally found it to be true, although I would amend it as: "If you date a man who feels he's ugly, he'll make you feel ugly too". Don't give chances to anyone you don't fancy out of pity, you'll regret it.