Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

[Moonfishstar]

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

I am 5ft 3, DH is around 5ft 6, its worked for us, I dated 2 tall men when younger, they were arseholes, DH is the best man I have ever met, if I had been looking for a taller man I would have missed out on him😄

What are you on about? Where's your evidence? Agree with the poster above who said it all sounds a bit incel-y.

OP, all the men in my family including my son, dad, husband, brother and brothers-in-law are under 6 foot. They all have partners, wives, girlfriends. No one I know gives two shits that they're not this weird mythical height you've invented as essential to attracting a woman. What a load of bollocks.

Er, I have lots of male friends and relatives under 6' and they're all married or in relationships. Some of them with women who are -gasp- taller than them.

Maybe women just don't like dating dickheads, and all the short dickheads think it's because they're short, not because they're a dickhead. And thus nonsense like this gets spread around.

This simply isn’t a thing in RL, is it? Ok, many women would prefer someone taller than them, ideally, but who is ruling out all men under 6ft?

I have a preference for tall men myself, but one of the sexiest men I ever met was much shorter than me. He had zero problem attracting women.

I wonder whether OLD is kind of forcing these mild preferences into becoming absolutes, at least on paper..

Yeah, textbook incel post without any context or examples. What say you, OP?

I'm 5ft. You can keep your 6ft+ men
anything over 5.9 would just look silly

I wish that tall men don't all go for women who look child height in comparison to them, but there we have it. 🤷‍♀️

I wouldn't have ruled someone out for height, but pushing 6ft myself, I wouldn't like a partner who was significantly shorter than me.

It definitely seems to be a thing on dating apps for example. Maybe it’s those who use dating apps, or an age thing?

https://medium.com/@whitep/women-have-hilarious-height-requirements-for-men-according-to-bumble-992862ba7772#:~:text=Even%20extremely%20tall%20men%20seem,feet%20guys%20in%20their%20search.

My DH is 6ft 6 and my children are all over 6ft (well, DD is 6ft, the boys are between 6ft 4 and 6ft 2). My DD is very conscious of her height and doesn't wear heels, but has found a boyfriend taller than her - not sure whether that was a conscious thing or not, but personally I do think it looks a bit odd when the woman is significantly taller.

I feel really short in my family and I'm 5ft 8!

( A friend at uni was adamant she was not going to marry someone shorter than her - he had to be over 6ft 2. She married someone about a foot shorter than her and considerably shorter than 6ft!)

I agree with @ComtesseDeSpair .
Everyone is attracted to particular physical things and find other things a total turn off. Luckily we all have different likes and dislikes.

Why does it bother you that women have particular tastes, OP? Are you in fact a short man who thinks your height is what is stopping you getting a partner?

My huge statistically significant sample of two says that DS1, 6ft, struggles much more to find partners than DS2, 5ft7 in thick soles.

Surely it's just a personal preference? Going against your preference may open up the market a bit, but what's the point if you aren't truly attracted to them?!

There's someone for everyone.

My biggest turn off in a man is long hair (which works well for my DP, as he's bald!)
If I was suddenly single and started dating male Rapunzels it would be more desperation than anything else?

This isn’t an incel thing, and I’m definitely not an incel by any measure 🤣. Here’s another article.

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/only-15-women-interest-58-men-dating-apps-according-survey

You may say it doesn’t apply to you (and even your friends) and that you don’t care, but to say it’s not “a thing” is to be blind to the evidence.

Hmn indeed dating apps could be an issue.

I think meeting someone the old fashioned way, i.e in person, you'd be able to have a chat first and see if you click, which in my experience is one of the most important things. I definitely can't see women saying "No, don't talk to me, you're too short!" in real life.

Tbh it's quite a big thing - I've seen if from friends / colleagues / family, even from people under 5"5!

I wouldn't date under 6", because they'd be shorter than me 😂 everyone has physical preferences, I wouldn't be looking for a short slim man because I'd look like a she hulk. Similarly my DH wanted a tall partner so he didn't feel like a he hulk!

I wouldn't date anybody shorter than me. They'd need to be at least 5 inches taller than me so that, if I was wearing heels, they'd still be a couple of inches taller than me so around 6 feet.

And as the female average is about 5ft 3 or 4, that's plenty of leeway.
DH is 5ft 8. I'm 5ft 1. Perfect.
OP, not recognising your sweeping statement in any way. Feels whiny and more than a touch sexist.

It’s personal preference, they can date who they like. If they’re dating tall men because they’re thinking of how others view them, more fool them, but it’s still their choice.

All the men I’ve dated have been between 5’8 and 5’11. I’m not into tall men at all.

There’s tons of evidence on this… masses of it. Here’s another one:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height?amp

Is it an American thing? Or a dating apps thing? Because it's not a real world thing over here in UK.

All that proves is that dating apps are crap and full of shallow people.

In my opinion women are most interested In dating good, healthy non toxic misogynistic abusive men regardless of height.

I don't know anyone that cares about height.

I feel better if a man is taller than me but they certainly don't need to be 6ft. My DH is 5ft 10 and that's fine.

I'm a 5"2 lesbian.
I need them 5 inches taller or I won't touch them-agree with a PP about feeling 'butch' otherwise. If that minimises my dating pool then fair enough.