Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

[Moonfishstar]

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

This completely.

As a tall woman I’m well aware that my preference for tall men was a reflection of my own insecurities about my size and wanting to feel smaller. Luckily old Mr Mitsky is 6’4 and turns out I also really like his personality.

I used to get annoyed when my mini friends dated men taller than me when they had a much bigger pool!

I have a friend of 5’2” who previously dated only men over 6’. I found this extraordinary in a practical sense - how did they kiss (unless lying down)? 😂
There was a guy of 5’8” for whom I had to vigorously advocate to be given a chance… somehow succeeded and they have now been together nearly 10 years 😊

Well this is an incelly post.

I have literally never known any woman give a fuck about height (we're not giraffes, height has no biological benefit to humans that would 'attract' us even on a subconscious level) and some of the most sort after of my male friends have been very short for men actually but with great personalities (because oddly thats what seems to matter, who would have thought it lol).

I have known men with 'short man syndrome' who critically struggle with women but its not their height that the problem (no matter how much they try to blame it) but I suppose its easier to blame that than face their lack of personality, victim complex and aggressive anger (which is what really puts people off).

My husband is the same height as me.

Also for the record my celeb crushes (sexiest men alive) are 5 foot 5, 5 foot 6 and 5 foot 8 so two are shorter than me and one the same size as me.

My DH and his two brothers are 6ft3, 6ft5 and 6ft7 respectively. My sisters in law and I are all between 5ft and 5ft3. Which I think is hilarious really.

I never dated anyone over 6ft before DH though, it wasn't ever a factor!

I've never considered height - I've only had one partner who was 6 ft or above, DH is 5'8 -on a good day- to my 5' 4. I went out with a man shorter than I was for a while in my 20s.

I'm 5.2 so being with a shorter man has never been an issue. I had a long term boyfriend who was around 5.8 but DH is 6.4, which if I'm honest is a bit tall for me, we look ridiculous together 😆

I agree. Incel post no doubt.
Again!
Its like making the statement why do all men like big tits. Its ridiculously goading.

As someone 5'4 I never viewed height as a criteria and my partners were always 5'4 and up my DH is in his eyes 5'6 personally I think 5'5 but either way it doesn't bother me and height never has

Precisely. It is the sort of thing that loser men whine about, because they can say that women are 'superficial'. See also men who call women 'goldiggers' because they expect a man to be solvent. I personally am not attracted to men under six foot, I am between five eight and five nine, so taller than average for a woman. However, I don't go around with a klaxon screaming that short men are ugly, I just don't go out of my way to date them (or didn't, in my dating days. I've been married for a while now) I don't see an issue with people having preferences.

No. I think short men would benefit from being more open minded about their choice of a partner. Because while their height is a barrier to some woman, its clearly not to all, so they need to concentrate on women who don't mind. All this short man business means is that men who are under a certain height won't necessarily get their pick of any woman they fancy. And that's too bad, isn't it?

A bit taller is the best. I'm 1.58 m about 5 feet 2". There are nearly a foot between my high and 6 feet. I got many men to choose, unfortunately it happens that I don't like the vast majority of them regardless their height.

I’m not into short-short men but I would much rather have a solidly built 5’9 or 5’10 guy than a 6ft5 beanpole

All this short man business means is that men who are under a certain height won't necessarily get their pick of any woman they fancy. And that's too bad, isn't it?

And nor will any of us. 😀That's life all over, isn't it? It's SO unfair!

I definitely only looked at men over 6' when OLD. There's a few reasons:

• I'm more attracted to taller men
• I wasn't looking to marry and settle down with the men I met OLD
• men can lie...I regularly met men around my height, despite their profile being 6' (I am an average height woman)
• short man syndrome

In real life the 6' limit doesn't really matter, as long as they're taller than me by a couple of inches and I don't feel like I'm dating a child

I think it's probably evolutionary...taller = healthier/wealthier/stronger = better chance of gene survival

Anyway...makes no difference to me now as I'm married and I wouldn't have found my husband on OLD as I would have dismissed him for other reasons 😂

Exactly! The fragile male ego when he doesn't get the supermodel, when hes not that great himself

OP I really don't understand the point of this post. Physical attraction isn't a conscious choice.

Plenty of men are attracted to beautiful women with incredible bodies- but they don't all end up with supermodels because ultimately it's about more than looks.

For what it's worth, women having a tendency towards taller men is not 'socialised' physical attraction- it makes perfect biological sense. Standing next to a tall man (even not great-looking ones!) makes many women feel dainty and feminine, and protected. They seem more strong and virile.

I reckon an example of socialised physical attraction would surely be- men liking the big fake Jordan boobs look that adorned every lad's mag 20 years ago. Or the big trout pouts of today. Both not natural and are very new phenomenons that have gained exposure due to fashion.

I wouldn’t date anyone shorter than me but I’m 5ft 3 so unlikely to be much of an issue..DH is 5 11. Dated men taller and shorter than that . Not an issue

Precisely. It is the sort of thing that loser men whine about, because they can say that women are 'superficial'. See also men who call women 'goldiggers' because they expect a man to be solvent.
Agree with this.

A man who is secure in himself doesn't go around moaning that he isn't getting the women he's entitled too or making him the main character (victim) in life. He's also unlikely to be moaning about how awful women are with incel-style generalisations. He's rational and capable of understanding everyone is attracted to different things and different looks and will make difference compromises when deciding on a whole package.

The ‘evidence’ posted by the OP is laughable.

I’m female and 5’8 and my male partner is 5’9. As long as they are the same or taller than me 😂 I don’t think I could go extremely tall though!

No bloody way. I'm 5'10" and have tried dating men shorter than me and guess who had the problem with it?- hint- it wasn't me, THEY DID. I got constant comments about not wearing heels, how awkward it was I was taller, why am I so tall? blah blah blah. I never even mentioned height- it was they who had the issue with it.

So no, I will stick to tall men thanks. Besides, men have plenty of appearance requirements and throughout history, its women who have been judged most on how they look, so I dont even feel a teensy bit bad about this.

My dh is 5’6”, I’m 5’5”.
We’re both slim. Dh however is stronger than most men I know, I put that down to stocky peasant ancestry 😂
He’s also very into sport and healthy eating.
I’d sooner be married to a shorter man who is muscly than a tall weakling!

And maybe men would benefit if they were more open minded about weight in a potential partner?

So you are saying some women overlook nice men who they don't fancy? Yup. That's how attraction works

Exactly. Just like how men dont date women just because they find them nice/decent. You put a smoking hot woman on Tinder who seems a bit arrogant and a really nice down to earth woman who is very average looking, a bit older and overweight. They'll both get interest but I guarantee the hot young woman will get far, far more responses.

I have to say, where other women often seem to prefer height, I've always preferred strength. I don't feel particularly small or feminine just when he's taller, but when he can pick me up and carry me into the bedroom...

They're both appealing but if I had to choose, it's strength all day long.