Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

[Moonfishstar]

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

Being short doesn’t seem to have stopped Bernie Ecclestone, Putin, Macron or Sunak from finding women, sometimes multiple women.

I'm 5 ft 2, I dated a lad who was 6 ft 4 when I was in sixth form. It did not work! I hurt my neck everytime we snogged and he almost broke his back!

Please dont make me deal with short man syndrome on top of every other dating pitfall please!!

Sorry, but for me the taller the better! I grew up where the men (father, grandfather, and cousins in the family were all 6' 2" or more). At 5'8" myself I didn't feel 'right' with men of my height or less - can't explain why though. It just felt awkward.
Incidentally my DH is 6'3", so I was clearly drawn to taller men. We've been married 52 years so something was right!

I had a brief foray into online dating a while back. The only profile I recall was a man who simply said 'I'm tall, very tall. That seems to be the only thing anyone is ever interested in about me, so I am skipping the rest'.

I don’t like overly tall men. I know other women who also don’t really go for tall guys.

I don't think there'd an epidemic of single short men or an epidemic of lonely women holding out for someone who's 6'2. The main issue with short men is if they have a complex about being short

Objectively some people are very attractive, and will have lots of people attracted to them. Others will have less. That's a fact of life. Short men probably have less people attracted to them than some tall men, but there are still plenty of women that are attracted to short men.

The majority of people who want a relationship find someone who is attracted to them. I don't know a single women who is single purely because they refuse to dat short men

Mmm - perhaps they may have had other 'qualities'....

what an odd thread......

Are you the same poster who was on here last year with this curious obsession concern, @Moonfishstar ?

I don't know any women in real-life who have ever stated they wouldn't date a bloke under 6 feet on principle.

Charm , wit, repertoire of good jokes, cooking skills, ability to coax birds from trees, lovely handwriting…………

or the boring ones, eye wateringly huge bank balance, the ability to kill with their bare hands, always able to get good tables in restaurants, fleets of cars at their disposal?

Is this a question to feed an article somewhere? Not sure I've ever heard this and I have friends whose partners are definite not 6' or even close and one whose partner is shorter than they are!

Basically, yes - would you think a man was shallow for liking only big breasted blondes? I think we put these parameters on early in life and often don't bother diverting from them.

This is ridiculous, it's like saying men will only date gorgeous slim models with big boobs. Would that tick a lot of men's boxes, yes of course it would. We are programmed to find certain things attractive. But the world is full of ordinary looking women and short men with partners so clearly most people don't really care that much at the end of the day.

That is not really nature though is it. We are biologically programmed to seek out the strongest partner so we look for intelligence, physical strength and stature etc. Shorter men do very well in Portugal where most of the population are of a small stature.

They've ranted and raved at you?

I am a smidge off 5'11" and dh is bang on 5'10", so I used to be taller than him in the days I did heels (many years ago!)

ds(20) is 6'3". His lovely best pal is probably around 5'4" - 5'5"ish and doesn't have much luck with the ladies, pretty sure it is largely due to his height. Probably doesn't help that it is accentuated standing next to ds!

Oh God yes. I've experienced this twice and it was awful. Never again.

She was!

Look around when you are out, and you'll see plenty of average shorter men who are coupled up.

Men who complain about not getting dates usually have poor hygiene or no personality.

This is one of those things I see online all the time, including on MN, but not in real life, where none of my female friends have been that bothered about a man's height and where all my short male friends have not found it especially hard to get dates/partners.

I don't think anyone should date anyone they're not attracted to for whatever reason, it's a hiding to nothing. Height is not something that bothers me (but I am very short) - other things are though, I would not date a man with a big beard. That's fine, I'm sure they'd much rather find a woman who was attracted to their big beard.

That said a lot of women online show themselves up regarding how they talk about short men. Fine to not date them but if you can't stop sneering about how they give you the ick (which I've seen plenty of times on MN) then that's what's shallow and unpleasant. I've also read men on forums being deeply unpleasant about overweight women and it's the exact same thing. If a man isn't attracted to an overweight woman, his prerogative! If he sneers about "whales" online, he's a cunt.

I also think that if the only reason a woman won't go out with a short man is because she feels big, that's a bit pathetic. Maybe this is the short-girl syndrome rearing its head but I would love to know what it feels like to be a proper Amazonian goddess towering over my boyfriend.

I'm 5'9 and am always shocked when a man under 5'10 likes me on an app. I think they're the strange ones for wanting to date someone taller than them.
Attraction is very important and I'm just not attracted to small men. I'm not stupid though I obviously know men of any height can be nice people, I personally just don't want to date them. I'm always dubious about any height that men put on dating sites anyway. Lots say they're tall when actually they're really small.

I’m 5ft and like tall men, my DH is over 6ft, he likes short women. It’s just what we find attractive.

My whole family are short and being on the shorter side certainly never stopped my brothers getting partners, they had loads of girlfriends when younger.

They never seem to get the real reason why women aren't interested in dating them, and it's always one of two things.

No matter how many times they are told exactly why, they just have this cognitive dissonance and refuse to be self reflective.

YABU. Height doesn't really come into it for me, although I don't think I'd date someone who was a lot shorter than I am.

My 1st dh was the same height as me (5'4"), my 2nd dh is 5'9".

Although it was never an issue with my 1st dh, I do prefer that my dh is taller than me even when I'm wearing heels, but there are more important things than height, so in that way YANBU.