Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

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… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

Now, I really like that we’re the same size, it’s like a visual representation of the equality in our relationship 🤣

I'm the same @Radicat !

My first serious boyfriend was 6'2", my second long term boyfriend was 5'11" and my husband is 5'8 (and a ½)", so they've got successively shorter by about 3 inches each time. I do feel like DH only being a little bit taller than me reflects how I feel about our partnership in general😁

And yet most men under 6ft end up in relationships.

Let's all pretend that tall dark and handsome isn't the literary ideal and that OP has just made this up😅

"Women" as far as a generalisation can be made like the above. "Men" as far as generalisations can be made have their own set of ideals. Both of them are pretty shallow positions that rarely, if ever, are genuinely reflected in real life as can be seen from any high street anywhere.

As a small pale and funny looking bloke, also poor, also bald, however I am extremely talented at one thing (a sport) and this plus my character somehow makes me desirable to someone that I also luckily find highly desirable, despite their obvious non Nordic super model appearance.

I don't have any expectation that someone should like me if pygmy little creatures aren't their thing, that would just be weird

Exactly. No one - not even the most gorgeous person on earth - gets their pick of absolutely everyone.

And then it’s a sliding scale.

I seem to have the pick of absolutely no one, for example, as I give extremely fuck off vibes. I think that’s why!

I've been with men taller and shorter. How big someone is on the vertical is the last thing on my mind.

One of my ex’s was 6ft3” and I am approx 1ft shorter. Sex really didn’t work out very well so on that basis extra height would put me off.

Sorry but this is nonsense. I have a massive crush on someone who is 5ft 7. He’s extremely handsome though! Facial handsomeness dictates my crushes, not height.

Tall dark & handsome for me.
( 5. 10 minimum )

I’m a man, and it’s definitely a thing - but in my experience the type who say ‘don’t bother talking to me unless…’ in any sense are twats anyway. 😅

People have preferences and that’s okay - I don’t usually find myself attracted to overweight women but one of my best previous relationships was with a larger woman.
She was one of the most caring and friendly people I’ve ever met, and really opened my eyes to looking beyond my usual preferences.

Just walked down my high street and checked. No correlation.

Many men on dating apps lie about their height and add inches. So maybe the women are saying they want someone over 6' to ensure they get an average height man of 5'10". Or maybe some people are on dating apps because they have unrealistic expectations for the people they date.

As far as so called short man syndrome goes there's little quality evidence to support it, it's just folk psychology. It's based on a myth about Napoleon anyway, he was above average height for the time and taller than Nelson whose height is never mentioned.

I am 5'2" and married a man taller than me but shorter than the average British man, he's 5'6" which is above average for the country he is from. My teenage daughters tell me I should have married someone taller so they could be taller😂they are shorter than me but taller than their grandmother.

Tom Cruise always get mentioned but the following celebrities were/are all the same height or shorter but don't get the same criticism: Dustin Hoffman, Prince, Tom Holland, Martin Freeman, Daniel Radcliffe, Robert Downey Jr., James McAvoy.

Specifically, just to check? That's dedication to the cause.

What a sweeping generalization.

MrGonners was a couple of inches taller than me when we got together but has shrunk more than I have (plus I make a point of standing up straight so as not to turn into a hunched old lady) and is now slightly shorter than me. I should probably trade him in. Is there a dating app for such things?

I am 5ft 9 as is husband. I am not attracted to taller men really. I think most women don't care tbh.

I’m 5’10” and prefer men taller than me. Preferably 6’ and over and will not change my preference.

I think your information is off. "Tall" is all relative, for example I would never want to date a man shorter than me, but at 5 foot I've never met any contender!
Husband is 5"8 and I suppose considered by some as short, but to me I can tuck in nicely under his chin 😀

Oh believe me, on this point this is massive. Because women get judged by (even random) men on their appearance every day of their ducking lives.

I have heard women talk about not wanting to go out with men shorter than them. It wouldn't bother me but I'm 5ft 1 so there aren't many men shorter than me. I did have one boyfriend who was 5ft but we were both 15 and he got taller in the end. This talk of only wanting to be with tall men makes me a bit sad for my ds3 who is on the short side. I hope he will find nice girls to go out with him who don't hold his height against him.

You're absolutely correct op - it's the patriarchy screwing us all over once again

It is a real thing coming from me a tall woman and lots of my not tall friends

Do you know any tall women who are actively dating?

It’s not about holding his height against him. It’s about what people find attractive.

My husband is 5ft 6in and fab looking,not just my opinion,lots of women comment on his looks,I am taller than him if I have heels on,but so what.

I know more men who wouldn't date women the same height or taller than them than I do women who wouldn't date anyone under 6 foot 🤷🏻‍♀️