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Whatismypasswordthen · 16/04/2024 12:23

I know what the Tories are and no, I don't like it. But I'm a woman, I have daughters and I come from generations of women who've been abused and dismissed because of their sex. I want better for my girls but I can't do it on my own. I need a government who will (at least give lip service to) supporting me. Am I a Tory? no. But the last thing women need is to be fighting their own government for basic recognition, so Tory it is.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/apr/16/uk-culture-secretary-urges-ban-on-transgender-athletes-competing-in-female-only-events

UK culture secretary urges ban on transgender athletes competing in female-only events

Lucy Frazer calls on sporting officials to draw up ‘unambiguous’ guidelines on gender identity

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/apr/16/uk-culture-secretary-urges-ban-on-transgender-athletes-competing-in-female-only-events

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Sharptonguedwoman · 16/04/2024 18:14

Whatismypasswordthen · 16/04/2024 17:31

The DfE is non partisan! That's the point of the civil service. But yes the minister for education has been Tory, what's your point?

And what's the relevance of the number of trans people I 'know'? Know in passing, intimately, know of? What does it matter?

So you teach trans pupils, what of it? What's your point?

I want at the very minimum for governments and public services to recognise women. Then, let's talk about what we need to improve public services, end violence, tackle discrimination etc etc.

Tans people need these things too. That's a separate battle. The problem is if we lump them in with women, the 0.1% absolutely do shout down the 51%. We know this.

I'm GC. I think the polarisation of the sexes has led to some very strange behaviour and I have every sympathy for autistic girls but people can't change sex. It's written in our chromosomes what we are. Mental health support for people is desperately needed. We need to get the men out of our spaces and our sports. Can you tell trans from transvestite from AGP?

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 16/04/2024 18:19

I'm disabled, the tories don't give a flying fuck about disabled people, to them we're just a burden that costs too much but I should go vote for them because I'm a woman? No thanks.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 16/04/2024 18:20

Ddimlacio · 16/04/2024 12:42

Ridiculous if you decide who to vote for based on culture war issues like this. Playing into their hands

So well said
Seriously being unreasonable for thinking the Tories are good for women.
Crackers

SerendipityJane · 16/04/2024 18:22

I'm disabled, the tories don't give a flying fuck about disabled people,

No votes in it. If it wasn't for the access it gives Tory donors to slurp the public funds for aids and adaptations, it would be an even lower priority.

LlynTegid · 16/04/2024 18:22

All the Tories are doing is saying they know what a woman is, not actually doing something.

Protecting women in sport for their safety and fair competition is something the government can easily do. Start by no funding from the lottery or the public purse for any sport which allows someone who has gone through male puberty to compete in women only events. Perhaps don't allow anyone to go in person and pay for any sporting event that does not meet this criteria.

Actions not words. Even before you get to now having a justice system that effectively almost decriminalised certain offences against women, no real sanctions about men who harass women over childcare arrangements, and no doubt many other examples. The Tories even chose a leader who wanted the courts to allow him to deny the existence of one of his children and silence that child's mother.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 16/04/2024 18:22

Bluepetergarden · 16/04/2024 12:48

What exactly have they done in 13 years ?

Made life feel a lot crappier for a lot of people.

HebburnPokemon · 16/04/2024 18:29

SerendipityJane · 16/04/2024 17:40

Second bookmark

What??

LilacFatball · 16/04/2024 18:37

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 16/04/2024 18:22

Made life feel a lot crappier for a lot of people.

Since 1990 the wealth of the UK's billionaires has increased by 1000%, and we've gone from having 15 to 177 billionaires. So it's not been bad news for everyone.

SerendipityJane · 16/04/2024 18:41

LilacFatball · 16/04/2024 18:37

Since 1990 the wealth of the UK's billionaires has increased by 1000%, and we've gone from having 15 to 177 billionaires. So it's not been bad news for everyone.

Finally ! Someone who "gets it".

We just need another 1000 years of Tory rule and we will all be billionaires !

Lion400 · 16/04/2024 18:43

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Lion400 · 16/04/2024 18:44

Nb. They might complain about my link, to get it removed, like last time. Odd really that, I thought.

Starsandflowers · 16/04/2024 18:45

No one should vote for anyone based on one issue alone.
Imo the tories don't give a shit about women really.. they just know this issue could win them votes. Bit lok at the voting record for other women's rights issues? Horrific. They just know the 'trans' stuff wins them votes from right across the political spectrum and it costs them nothing. They don't really give a shit.

Whatismypasswordthen · 16/04/2024 18:46

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 16/04/2024 18:19

I'm disabled, the tories don't give a flying fuck about disabled people, to them we're just a burden that costs too much but I should go vote for them because I'm a woman? No thanks.

I'm disabled too. I remember the disability demos against Labour. Not saying they're worse than Tories, again two and more things can be true. They can both be crap and as I've said, the bar is pretty low to get my vote. I wish that weren't true, but it is.

Right now, the Tories have noticed I'm a woman and held the door open. Literally that's all it takes. Yep, they're going to rifle through my pockets as I go through and probably give me a pat on the arse too. THAT'S how low the bar is.

And yet, look at the number of posters eager to have a go at me - tribalism is extraordinarily effective in stopping us holding politicians to account.

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BIossomtoes · 16/04/2024 18:46

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Thanks for spreading the love. We really like it when new posters join us. 🥰

Lion400 · 16/04/2024 18:47

Starsandflowers · 16/04/2024 18:45

No one should vote for anyone based on one issue alone.
Imo the tories don't give a shit about women really.. they just know this issue could win them votes. Bit lok at the voting record for other women's rights issues? Horrific. They just know the 'trans' stuff wins them votes from right across the political spectrum and it costs them nothing. They don't really give a shit.

One issue voters sway elections..

Lion400 · 16/04/2024 18:47

BIossomtoes · 16/04/2024 18:46

Thanks for spreading the love. We really like it when new posters join us. 🥰

❤️ I felt it..

Whatismypasswordthen · 16/04/2024 18:47

Starsandflowers · 16/04/2024 18:45

No one should vote for anyone based on one issue alone.
Imo the tories don't give a shit about women really.. they just know this issue could win them votes. Bit lok at the voting record for other women's rights issues? Horrific. They just know the 'trans' stuff wins them votes from right across the political spectrum and it costs them nothing. They don't really give a shit.

You 'should' vote however you see fit. There's no right or wrong way. That's how democracy works.

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SerendipityJane · 16/04/2024 18:48

Lion400 · 16/04/2024 18:47

One issue voters sway elections..

Possibly not this one though ...

pointythings · 16/04/2024 18:48

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The Venn diagram of the regular contributors on those thread (of whom I am one) and those who have voiced their disagreement with the OP is nowhere near a perfect circle. There's some overlap, but there are a lot more disagreeing voices than just the small subset of MN posters on the Sunak threads.

EasternStandard · 16/04/2024 18:49

Starsandflowers · 16/04/2024 18:45

No one should vote for anyone based on one issue alone.
Imo the tories don't give a shit about women really.. they just know this issue could win them votes. Bit lok at the voting record for other women's rights issues? Horrific. They just know the 'trans' stuff wins them votes from right across the political spectrum and it costs them nothing. They don't really give a shit.

No one should vote for anyone based on one issue alone

It’s not really something you can dictate

Whatismypasswordthen · 16/04/2024 18:50

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 16/04/2024 18:20

So well said
Seriously being unreasonable for thinking the Tories are good for women.
Crackers

Didn't say they were good for woman, only that they're willing to recognise women. I'll say it again - the bar is low here.

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BIossomtoes · 16/04/2024 18:53

pointythings · 16/04/2024 18:48

The Venn diagram of the regular contributors on those thread (of whom I am one) and those who have voiced their disagreement with the OP is nowhere near a perfect circle. There's some overlap, but there are a lot more disagreeing voices than just the small subset of MN posters on the Sunak threads.

I’d say the number of dissenting voices is growing as time goes on, proportionately to the increasing number of people who’d do anything to rid us of the Tory government.

CrappySack · 16/04/2024 18:55

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/04/2024 13:39

Seriously @Whatismypasswordthen?

You know that the Trans shitshow happened under and because of the Tories.

Tory PM May put Self ID on the table.
They wrote genderwoo into our legistlation. Including a Maternity Bill.🤯
Tory government minister Penny Mordaunt declared TWAW and TMAM at the Despatch Box.
Tory MP's reported members of the public to their employers and the police for retweeting JKR.
They promoted the "Stonewalling" of our institutions. The CEO was a Tory donor.🙄
They repeatedly appointed genderwoo believers to Secretary of State for Education with disastrous effects in schools.
The world's first trans MP is a Tory. Then appointed him/her/them to Women's and Equalities Commision.
Tory PM Johnson refused to say that only women have a cervix.
As Johnson's Chancellor, Tory PM Sunak said that a woman is whatever Boris Johnson says.

And that's on top of all the other shit they've done to women since coming to power in 2010.😡😡😡

Some Tories know what a woman is, some don't. None of them give a shit about us either way.

YABU.

Exactly.

They have got to be the worst, most self serving, corrupt, incompetent government we've had in living memory.

But because they're pretending to care about women just in time for an election we should forget the fact that they've been shitting on us repeatedly for several years.

They really do think women are stupid.

CrappySack · 16/04/2024 18:57

Whatismypasswordthen · 16/04/2024 18:50

Didn't say they were good for woman, only that they're willing to recognise women. I'll say it again - the bar is low here.

Why would I care that someone is pretending to recognise me whilst also shitting on me from a great height?!

Whatismypasswordthen · 16/04/2024 18:57

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 16/04/2024 17:45

The Tories are going to lose. Massively.
If you care this much about this single issue you'd be better off joining the Labour Party and campaignig for the change you want from within their ranks. You could even run for office yourself.
Expecting Sunak and his band of crooks and sex offenders to solve this for you is a fools errand.

I'd love to do that. I have the background for it too. What stops me is that offline I'm pretty sensitive. Kudos to JK Rowling and others but I couldn't deal with the rape threats and so on that are endemic in public life atm

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