AIBU to feel irritated by DH asking me to cover up when I don't want sex?

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There are times of the month when I really don't want sex but my DH will still be really horny.

At these times he will tell me not to sit in a certain way that shows my curves, or he'll cover my legs with a blanket if I'm showing any part of them. When I seem irritated by this he says he finds it too hard to see me in any way he deems sexy as he knows he won't be having sex with me.

To be clear, I'm not attempting to 'tease' him in any way; I'm just going about my life.

AIBU to find this behaviour of his annoying and controlling? Or should I be more sensitive?

Wtaf

Insanity

The behaviour of a sex pest, that would have my vagina clamping shut

Jeez, who are you married to - Benny Hill?

I genuinely have no words for this OP.

He sounds like a chimp who can't control himself so wants to control you instead.

Oh this gives me the ick. I couldn't tolerate that in a relationship

His sexual impulses are not your responsibility. He’s an adult who can control himself. You’re an adult who can sit however you like and wear whatever you like.

Ewww what a disgusting man

Fuck no.
That is really not ok.
At all.

He sounds revolting.

If I want to sit naked in my own home and not have sex I will and my DH wouldn’t dream of telling me to cover up. Your DH needs to grow up and stop treating his inability to control himself as anyone else’s problem but his own.

I feel quite revolted by this. He's weird, controlling and pretty repulsive. He finds it 'too hard to see you in a way he deems is sexy???' WTAF?

I wouldn't want sex with him the rest of the month if he carried on like this.

No you definitely do not need to be more sensitive.

He can't control himself when he sees a bit of flesh?. Wtf.

Ew, so he feels like you owe him sex if he can see your body?
Nah, I'd not be having that.

He literally PUTS A BLANKET OVER YOU because he can’t control himself???

Nothing to say except what the actual fuck????

Many Uber patriarchal cultures cover women with burqas for Exactly this reason, why don’t you buy one and wear it around your husband? And what happens when you’re in the mood and he’s not? Do you demand he covers himself and ask him not to sit in sexy positions?

It's like he becomes a different person when he's sexually frustrated. He's normally a wonderful husband but if he's horny and I'm not then he gets really strange. It's like a personality change.

How does he manage to walk down the high street on a hot summers day? How does he manage to go swimming or to the gym?

If he is so utterly unable to control his urges he

1. needs to see a therapist
2. can not be trusted to not cheat

have you discussed those two things with him?

???

That's a bit grim actually. You're not a sexual neon flashing light for having the audacity to bare your ankles.

I have no words for how absolutely disgusting I find this, no way would I want this person anywhere near me never mind have sex with it.

Sounds kinda rapey to me.

Op.....you have a seriously fucked up husband..... simples. As previous poster said consider a burka..... No way on this earth you should have to "cover up" because he can't control his urges. He's got two hands tell him to sort himself out. Mans an idiot

He’s a sex pest. This is abusive behaviour.

He's punishing you and belittling you when you don't do what he wants.

I'd ring Women's Aid and get their advice if you think we are over reacting.