AIBU to feel irritated by DH asking me to cover up when I don't want sex?

[RaspberryRippleDuvet]

There are times of the month when I really don't want sex but my DH will still be really horny.

At these times he will tell me not to sit in a certain way that shows my curves, or he'll cover my legs with a blanket if I'm showing any part of them. When I seem irritated by this he says he finds it too hard to see me in any way he deems sexy as he knows he won't be having sex with me.

To be clear, I'm not attempting to 'tease' him in any way; I'm just going about my life.

AIBU to find this behaviour of his annoying and controlling? Or should I be more sensitive?

Yeuch @RaspberryRippleDuvet he is disgusting. I stopped wearing my favourite clothes and having pedicures because my abusive ex pestered me for sex if I did…but your H asking you to cover yourself is a whole new level…so make it easy for him, ltb.

Actually very harrowing behaviour like the whole “she was asking for it” because she was in a short skirt mentality.

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OP that's not normal behaviour. You obviously know that or you wouldnt have posted.
Seriously, he sounds grim. You need to.sit.down and have a serious conversation wirh him. His behaviour is rapey and controlling. He needs therapy.

He needs to discover the Wonderful World of Wanking.

Many shitty, sexist religions are based on his premise. Control women because men are too stupid to control themselves. I don't buy into that.

Tell him to wear a fucking blindfold if he can't control himself 🙄

Tell him that you're not a sex object. He controls himself around other women that he passes in the street and finds attractive, surely, so why can't he do the same for you at home? He needs to learn to look away, if you're that irresistible.

That's just disgusting.

He needs to discover the Wonderful World of Wanking

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Who are you married to - Benny Hill?

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Was thinking this...

I’d help him by removing myself, on a permanent basis from the house (in whatever clothing I felt like wearing ) forever

Gross
Grim
Disgusting
Rapey
Sex Pest

Yep, all of the above.

He is FOUL. Weird controlling sexual freak.

How bloody DARE he?

Have my first ever LTB!!

Grab the blanket off your legs and put it over his head, he’s the one with the problem.
Do you have any children? I’d be seriously worried about what messages kids would pick up on.

Christ! Did he spend his teenage years reading FHM and Nuts magazines?

“Cover yourself up you selfish bitch, otherwise I might be forced to rape you..”

That is basically how I’m reading this. Absolutely fucking horrified.

Yes, exactly this came into my mind.

Now I've heard it all 😒What a childish pig

Some of you mumsnetters really married a prize!

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Very very strange behaviour.

This came to mind for me too 💯

He’s absolutely disgusting. My fanny would be firmly out of bounds to him indefinitely in your shoes

This is seriously disgusting behaviour, OP - he sounds pornsick. I wouldn’t let a man like this anywhere near me and I honestly don’t think that’s an overreaction. Have you spoken to him about it and told him it’s unacceptable?

I've never understood why it's always about the woman covering up, instead of the man wearing blinkers.

Say 'ok' then cover up. He'll then start complaining to high heaven.

Honestly, Ive heard it all now