AIBU to feel irritated by DH asking me to cover up when I don't want sex?

[RaspberryRippleDuvet]

There are times of the month when I really don't want sex but my DH will still be really horny.

At these times he will tell me not to sit in a certain way that shows my curves, or he'll cover my legs with a blanket if I'm showing any part of them. When I seem irritated by this he says he finds it too hard to see me in any way he deems sexy as he knows he won't be having sex with me.

To be clear, I'm not attempting to 'tease' him in any way; I'm just going about my life.

AIBU to find this behaviour of his annoying and controlling? Or should I be more sensitive?

This is the mentality of men who think women are just nicely shaped objects to penetrate. A walking knuckle-dragging penis with a pea sized reptilian brain.

Why are with him op?

Get yourself some baggy arsed tracky bottoms, a pink or lilac nylon house coat in a 1970s print, and a teacosy hat and wear them all the time.
Or
Leave him, he's a sex-pest.

God I'd be scuppered. My DH gives me the sexy eyes stare when I'm fully covered by pyjamas with unwashed hair and looking like I've been dragged through a bush backwards. Thankfully he's not a rapey bastard or a sex pest so I'm quite safe walking around in my sexy skank get up!

I have never heard anything like it! This would make me think very seriously about my future with him. It’s really quite disgusting.

Its simple. You wear what you like. He wears a blindfold. Job done

What a nasty man. 🤢

He’s doing it on purpose as he’s sulking and taking it out on you, and being horrible to you, because you’re not giving him sex he’s a wan*ker

Have my very first LTB.

JFC.

This word is overused here but that is so grim

He sounds repulsive.

Errr.

I bet he also says it’s the woman’s fault when she gets raped because her outfit was too revealing

And would make that sound like the vaults being closed in Harry Potter films. Or a dungeon door being closed and locked, plus a bit of an echo.

He sounds bonkers.

These posts make me despise men!

Yuck.
Hope he doesn’t run up the stairs after you when he knows you are getting ready for bed. Been there…
It is so disrespectful! Although these kind of men would maintain that it’s disrespectful for them to not be able to get what they want.

@RaspberryRippleDuvet aside from being absolutely vile…this is actually pretty worrying behaviour IMO.

out of interest…how long have your u been together?

This. Just get it over with and get rid of the creep. What tf went wrong with men?

This what is he implying that your legs mean he can’t control himself that you need a coat zipped up to the neck. Never heard of this and I would not tolerate it

I read this and actually vomited a bit in my own mouth.

He sounds gross.

🤮

A 'wonderful husband' does not pester his wife for sex whenever he is unable to control himself. You are being sexually abused. Women's Aid will be able to help you with your next steps. It is shocking when you realise this is your reality. I was shocked when I realised it. Hopefully you can do something about it before he escalates, as realising your husband is a rapist is hard to get your head around.

Do not have DC with this man. He will be off like a rabbit on heat looking elsewhere when you are busy with being heavily pregnant or with young DC.

Does he have no self control?

Very odd

how does he cope if he sees someone in revealing clothing out and about?

I’m amazed you want to have sex with him any of the rest of the time. This old school idea that men have these uncontrollable urges that women are responsible for. No basis in reality, entirely constructed by sex pests like him to coerce women into sex.