AIBU to feel irritated by DH asking me to cover up when I don't want sex?

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There are times of the month when I really don't want sex but my DH will still be really horny.

At these times he will tell me not to sit in a certain way that shows my curves, or he'll cover my legs with a blanket if I'm showing any part of them. When I seem irritated by this he says he finds it too hard to see me in any way he deems sexy as he knows he won't be having sex with me.

To be clear, I'm not attempting to 'tease' him in any way; I'm just going about my life.

AIBU to find this behaviour of his annoying and controlling? Or should I be more sensitive?

This. Maybe suggest he wears a burqa with no eye mesh if he really can’t handle the sight of your body going about it’s normal business..

What the fuck?! Maybe print a sign and hang it round your neck, OP. Yes on one side, no on the other like in those Brazilian meat restaurants. 🤣

He’s not a wonderful husband. He’s a man who wants to live in America and wants you to sign up to the transformed wife on Facebook and see him as male leading the house and you say yes to sex whenever he’s wants it as he’s a man isn’t it.
But serisouly, he’s not a good husband if he acts like this, like he’ll attack you for normal behaviour.

That makes me feel physically sick. I would struggle so much with this.

He isn't a dog, so I just can't believe any man can't control their sexual urges no matter how ' horny' he is.

You are right to feel uncomfortable about this. It feels manipulative. He has control.

Don’t tar us all with the same brush - that’s like me despising all women because my ex cheated on me (which I don’t).

There’s some seriously creepy guys out there, but the majority of us are perfectly normal and can deal with our ‘urges’ without this nonsense.

No no noooooo
I'm a female that served 13 years military and now have a successful career in a male dominated world and got a rosette as a chef......this to me seems like a religion ! Are you Muslim? If not get the fuck out!!!

Absolute creep behaviour.

Have dc with this rapey misogynist creep at your peril. Him and his uncontrollable dick will be off like a shot

Read the room. You have no idea what being on the receiving end of this type of masculine energy is like and we do. Your experience of a woman cheating on you has absolutely no bearing here.

Kick him the f out that's terrifying behaviour

Well said. For a man to come in and say ‘this is not a majority of men’ - perhaps try asking women how often they have been affected by this shit? You have literally no way to know how many men make women feel like this.

@Deathbyfluffy there are plenty of places where All Women Are Bitches. I don't frequent them. The 90% of the rest of the internet for example.

Most women have been harassed, sexually assaulted, treated like meat or been on the end of male shit multiple times. If some of them are done with men as a whole, they can be. NAMALTing here is a bit shit TBH.

Typically, decent men just assume we're not talking about them and walk by.

Jeez, even if you are, get out!

Yes he would do well to read the unanimous (rare on MN) shock and fear shown in our comments.

He’s an abusive twat and that would give me the massive ick so we’d never have sex again.

The way he is objectifying you is absolutely appalling. You’re not a piece of meat for his enjoyment. You’re a human and his partner. I would be furious at the lack of respect he’s showing you here. Why is he not taking responsibility for his unhealthy attitude towards sex. Why does he think the solution to his problem is yours to find?

I'd tell him if he carries on like that you won't be having sex with him ever again! What a turn off 🤢

What a creep I am surprised you have sex with him at all

Horrible.

This is genuinely fucking horrifying.

I am aghast that you have stayed with this man.

☝🏻 what she said. If I want to walk round my house naked I damn well will. And I do (unless my DS is here or visitors). I don't expect to be told to cover up and neither should you. The man's a pig.

It’s not all men, but it is all women. All of them.

Don’t have children with this man, and think very hard about your marriage.

Exactly!

I can't believe at least one person has voted that you're being unreasonable! Gently, OP, this is extremely concerning behaviour. Please consider where this might escalate to, if his 'urges' get the better of him.