To be woken up to clean?

[tammym07]

I bring you this post after getting woken up at 1:15 am to go and clean up the dogs sick!

My OH is up, awake sitting in the living room, having a beer and watching TV. Just half an hour ago he comes upstairs and wakes me up to tell me the dog has been sick on the living room floor, it stinks and there is no way he will clean it up.

I gets out of bed, goes down, cleans up the sick. I don't speak, as the dogs already too excited to see me, I'm not impressed with getting woken up and I haven't got the energy for a conversation.

OH then proceeds to say 'I don't know how you can clean that up' I grunt something about having no choice, he then complains that there's no need for me to be an a*se about it. (I will note there wasn't much sick, the dog wasn't feeling ill in anyway and didn't need my attention.)

AIBU to feel it's rude to wake someone up just because you don't want to clean it up yourself? I don't enjoy cleaning it up any more than he would. He also knows I've not been well and really in need of some rest.

Now here I am unable to sleep cause I'm too annoyed. He Never hesitates to wake me up over absolutely anything. He however, goes in a bad mood if he gets woken up when having a nap in the middle of the day on the sofa and one of the children make a noise!

What a lazy, entitled, controlling pig.

Is there anything positive about living with this man child? Any good reasons not to kick him out?

Why are you tbh married to him?

I would spitefully enjoy ruining every one of his naps I could.

Out of order. If there was lots of sick and he'd already attempted to clean it and failed and woke you to help him, I'd understand. But this is lazy. No way I'd have done it.

I would get rid of the dog

He has abdicated all responsibility for it to you and was happy to leave you to do something he wouldn't

Secondly, I would seriously consider separation/divorce

This selfish arse just woke you up in the middle of the night to do something

WTAF????

Start preparing to leave

This fucker's sitting up watching television and drinking at that time of night and wakes you up to clean up the dog's vomit? Then complains because you're not happy about him doing that?

Does he bring anything worthwhile to your life?

That's very inconsiderate of him OP. I hope you feel better soon.

YABU to get up and do it

Is there any missing info here like they're your dogs or you were the one who wanted to get them so do the daily care etc?

I am furious about it. I could understand if he was concerned that dog was ill or something, which was my thought as I was going downstairs that he must be worried about the dog. That was absolutely not the case, he just didn't want to clean it up.

I can't switch off from it now!

And no missing information, not just my dog. We all wanted a dog, in fact he chose the dog. I am happy to take care of the dog but in no way has it ever been a case of it's just my dog and my responsibility.

Why the fuck don't you rip the entitled wanker a new one. Explain in any way this hard of thinking boy child will understand if he ever wakes you up again, except to save your life, he will regret it in every imaginable way.

I would be waking him up with a klaxon at 5am this morning and from every nap he has from now until the time when your divorce is finalised.

what a twat

That's annoying then, I'm guessing he'll try sleeping late in the morning if he's still up watching TV.

Make sure you wake him up extra early just to let him know the dog hasn't been sick again and seems to be feeling better now 😌

This

Fuck. That.

I'm actually a bit worried you felt you had to get up and do it op. What would have happened if you didn't? I think it's actually quite abusive and suggests he doesn't really see you as a real person, you're just his servant aren't you?

Fucking , that is BEYOND selfish! How can he possibly justify it to himself! What. The. Actual. Fuck.

That’s just awful OP.
He sees you as staff!

That's completely unacceptable, even if the dog was yours!! It's only a bit of sick... why couldn't he clean it up himself????!!

Does he have an illness that makes him especially nauseous?

Please wake him up early and tell him since you're sleep deprived because he woke you up in the middle of the night, you don't feel well as a result and need a lie in. If he makes a fuss about it he's a selfish pig.

You're unreasonable to clean up, take his shit and not immediately initiate divorce proceedings.

Why didn't you just say no? What would have happened?

There's something very badly wrong in your relationship if your first instinct on being woken up for this ludicrous demand was to go along with it. What would have happened if you'd told him to fuck off and rolled over?

What an absolute bastard of a man. Is this the first time ge has shown you who he is and how much contempt he has for you?

Listen and act accordingly.

Every time I think I've read about the worst in men, MN proves me wrong.

I would honestly leave him and I don't say that lightly.

Even if I had a live in housekeeper I wouldn't wake them in the night to deal with a job I could do myself - that would be really disrespectful. This man sees you not just as his servant but as a servant who doesn't deserve respect.

Why didn't you say no when he woke you and tell him to do it himself? If one of my teenagers had woken me for that I'd have refused to get up, pointed out I wasn't their maid and told them to clean it themselves. If I could do that with a (teenage) child, I can only imagine that the reason you didn't with your DH is that there would be some level of repercussions if you did - which is controlling and abusive.

There are massive red flags all over this post. I seriously wouldn't be going back to sleep - I'd be packing his or my bags.