To be woken up to clean?

[tammym07]

I bring you this post after getting woken up at 1:15 am to go and clean up the dogs sick!

My OH is up, awake sitting in the living room, having a beer and watching TV. Just half an hour ago he comes upstairs and wakes me up to tell me the dog has been sick on the living room floor, it stinks and there is no way he will clean it up.

I gets out of bed, goes down, cleans up the sick. I don't speak, as the dogs already too excited to see me, I'm not impressed with getting woken up and I haven't got the energy for a conversation.

OH then proceeds to say 'I don't know how you can clean that up' I grunt something about having no choice, he then complains that there's no need for me to be an a*se about it. (I will note there wasn't much sick, the dog wasn't feeling ill in anyway and didn't need my attention.)

AIBU to feel it's rude to wake someone up just because you don't want to clean it up yourself? I don't enjoy cleaning it up any more than he would. He also knows I've not been well and really in need of some rest.

Now here I am unable to sleep cause I'm too annoyed. He Never hesitates to wake me up over absolutely anything. He however, goes in a bad mood if he gets woken up when having a nap in the middle of the day on the sofa and one of the children make a noise!

Read OP’s update, people, she is getting rid of the oxygen thief!

I'd have got the sick into a dustpan and dumped it on his head!

Not really, I wouldn't have gotten up. I'd have said 'good luck with that' and rolled over, along with some expletives. Had I been made to get up though I would have sincerely considered dumping the sick on him.

Why did you do it?

Are you serious!
what a c@nt you are married to!

I’d tell him that is the first and time he is wake me up for something like that. He probably gave the dog beer or something and caused it to get sick.

oh, he would not be sleeping. Nope. I would all of the sudden need to make sure every nail in my house and all furniture was hammered in while listening to Heavy metal and Opera.

Good luck OP. Hope you get away from the bastard.

Oh, it should be so easy...

Sounds like this is the straw. Glad to hear you are seeking help and making plans OP

I would hit the fucking roof if DH did this to me!

He woke me up in 1997 to tell me Princess Diana had died - he's never done it since 😐

My DP wakes me if he notices the cat has used the littler box during the night so that I can scoop it. He also gets me out of bed to get the cat off the big chest of drawers if he's up there (dunno why him being up there is a problem but hey).

Just today, I was out after school with DS and came home at 6 ish to the cat having not been fed. Apparently it's my cat so he will do nothing for it...even empty a pouch of wet food into a bowl so the cat doesn't have to wait an hour til we get home. The other half was watching youtube on his laptop so was extremely busy.

My only thought is he must be good in bed for you to put up with this sort of rubbish.

WTF?

I honestly wouldn't last 5 minutes with these 'men'. My friends DH opts out of anything slightly unsavoury because of his extra special weak stomach 🙄 Never changed a nappy (3 kids!) - never cleaned after the pets....the man doesn't even clean his own shit off the toilet and leaves it caked on!!

I'll never understand it.

When DS was a baby, I had to sleep on the sofa with the bassinet next to me because the other half said it disturbs his sleep and he has to cut grass the next day. When DS was a few months old and we were back in the bedroom, if DP heard the baby fuss, he would wake me to deal with him.

DP did no nighttime feeds, changes, nothing. This is why we only have one child. I am not doing it again with an unsupportive partner.

When I was pregnant, which was a surprise as I was on the pill, he increased his going out drinking to twice a week as well as his sports. He would wake me up coming in and try to get sex but I lost attraction to be honest.

When my brother was getting married, we were each invited to the stag/hen weekends. The stag went off without a hitch and then when it came time for the hen weekend, I wasn't out the house for 2 hours before my DP arrived at my parent's house with our 3 year old at 12pm. He actually turned up at my dad's expecting what, that he would take him for the weekend? I have no idea but my mum and I were astounded he couldn't last on his own for even half a day.

I feel like joining a woman's commune lol

Dogs get icky tummy's just as we do.
OH knows you've not been too well lately yet he was happy to wake you to deal with the dog sick while he lays on his fucking arse watching TV. He can't think that much of you to do that.
Lifes too short to waste time on arseholes like him. Tell him to sling his hook, pronto!

Ugh, what an idle fuckwit. Bin him off!

It's hardly the dog's fault that her DH is a selfish, lazy, entitled man-child.

Why did you get up to clean it & not tell him either do it himself or leave it until morning when you can clean it up then? the second isn't the best idea but if he's having to sit in the room where the sick was he might have cleaned it up himself rather than leave it. Next time he's napping wind the kids & dog up so they're noisy & wake him up see how he likes it. Lazy Sod needs reminding you're not at his beck & call to do all the shitty jobs.

my d bregrundingly let me get a cat years ago-would never do anyting but also wouldnt wake me up to clean sick

This is because the very first time he woke you up you got up. I’d have told him to feck off and he would never have asked again.

I honestly don't know why you're in this relationship.

Just where is your sense of self-worth?

What would happen if you didn't get up and clean up the dog sick?

The correct response to "I don't know how you can clean that up." is
"I think the words you are looking for are Thank You." and leaving the job unfinished.

The correct response to someone waking you up at 1am to clean up dog sick is "Well, go do your best. I'll take a look at it in the morning."

And the absolute correct response to realising you're living with an arsehole is to end the relationship.

Your children don't need a role model like that or to see mum walked on all over by a brat of a boyfriend. You must want them to aim higher when they have relationships??

Honestly, why women stay with men who are basically human garbage is something I'll never understand

This.

I don't understand why you didn't just tell him to clean it up himself, and go back to sleep.

Your passivity in this is worrying.

In the words of the Grange Hill cast 'Just say NO'.

Sorry, I've just read your updates.

Please push forwards with your plan to get away from this man as soon as you possibly can.

Smart girl! Good luck to ya!

"He Never hesitates to wake me up over absolutely anything."

Whoah! Sleep deprivation is a known method of torture. T O R T U R E.

So glad to read that you are making plans with professional help. May your plans come to fruition speedily and straightforwardly.