To be woken up to clean?

[tammym07]

I bring you this post after getting woken up at 1:15 am to go and clean up the dogs sick!

My OH is up, awake sitting in the living room, having a beer and watching TV. Just half an hour ago he comes upstairs and wakes me up to tell me the dog has been sick on the living room floor, it stinks and there is no way he will clean it up.

I gets out of bed, goes down, cleans up the sick. I don't speak, as the dogs already too excited to see me, I'm not impressed with getting woken up and I haven't got the energy for a conversation.

OH then proceeds to say 'I don't know how you can clean that up' I grunt something about having no choice, he then complains that there's no need for me to be an a*se about it. (I will note there wasn't much sick, the dog wasn't feeling ill in anyway and didn't need my attention.)

AIBU to feel it's rude to wake someone up just because you don't want to clean it up yourself? I don't enjoy cleaning it up any more than he would. He also knows I've not been well and really in need of some rest.

Now here I am unable to sleep cause I'm too annoyed. He Never hesitates to wake me up over absolutely anything. He however, goes in a bad mood if he gets woken up when having a nap in the middle of the day on the sofa and one of the children make a noise!

It sounds like typical king of the castle behaviour. Please see the using male privilege section.

The answer is so obvious that I presume you are only posting on here so that you can show him the responses 😂

He sounds useless.

Sorry I wouldn't live with that. He sounds like a pig.

😆

You're his slave. I know what I'd do in that situation and it wouldn't be going downstairs and cleaning it up. But then I wouldn't live with someone who acted in this way.

He’s a twat.

I'd keep the dog and get rid of the partner.

Fuck that

I would get rid of the dog

Keep the dog get rid of the man.

No more lie ins for him until 2034.

What he did was completely unacceptable, and you need to tell him that. I think my response would be karma. If you are awake and he is not, I suggest that you hide the remote, any remaining beer, and his car keys in the back of your car. Wake him up and give him a list of chores that you do not want to do. I would start with the tasks that he has been avoiding for at least 6 months - putting up that shelf? Jet washing the patio? The more disgusting the better though. If he complains, tell him that if he thought 1am to do cleaning was a reasonable request, 8am to do what you are asking straightaway shouldn't even be questioned. Don't give the stuff back until he's done them.

Send the children in to wake him up in the morning. Ans what is a fully grown man doing having naps in the middle of the day?

Seriously, when you've calmed down. I think you need a chat about reasonable behaviour.

I can’t begin to imagine how I would respond if my DH did this to me because it would never happen - it has never happened, not the exact scenario but also not anything similar. The fact he asked and the fact you did it suggests this isn’t a healthy, loving, or even a particularly safe relationship.

I’m only chiming in to add to the voices saying it’s not normal, most relationships aren’t like this and you shouldn’t have to put up with it. I can’t say what you should do about it because that depends on your circumstances. If you couldn’t say no to him (or in fact be very angry with him for having the audacity to wake you), what are you in a position to do?

Am I right to think that he also makes you make all the big decisions and organising of the kids and pet welfare...vaccinations, check ups etc? Does he also drink regularly?

Most men I knowndont staybup til gone 1 in the morning drinking alone. Will he also sleep in and leave the morning dog walk and childcare to you?

It happens to me to. If we have people coming I'm am frequently woken up at 6am even earlier to make sure the house is tidy enough.

Getting rid of the dog was my first thought. Can't believe he was annoyed at you for not being over joyed at being woken up to do something he wouldn't do himself. I'm guessing he sees himself as much more important than everyone else in the house

I really wish posters would stop giving the op ideas for taking revenge when they have no idea what his reaction would be.

You could be encouraging her to do something which could put her at risk.

Much better for the OP to contact Women's Aid for some sensible advice.

Is this the straw op?

As ever, first post nails it.

I'm sorry you like with such a horrible man, OP

That would be the end of the relationship for me. Why do you think you should put up with it? There are so many men out there getting away with so much! It is really very startling. There is no reason why you should clean up rather than your partner, he sounds worryingly entitled.

I'd have cleaned up the sick and dumped it in his lap ( well maybe not), but I sure as hell wouldn't have cleaned it up in the first place.

Have a long hard think about how little this man gives a shit about your well being! What a complete arse/

Failed? Do you mean fuck it up?

This man needs divorcing,

Keep the dog, bin the husband.