To be woken up to clean?

[tammym07]

I bring you this post after getting woken up at 1:15 am to go and clean up the dogs sick!

My OH is up, awake sitting in the living room, having a beer and watching TV. Just half an hour ago he comes upstairs and wakes me up to tell me the dog has been sick on the living room floor, it stinks and there is no way he will clean it up.

I gets out of bed, goes down, cleans up the sick. I don't speak, as the dogs already too excited to see me, I'm not impressed with getting woken up and I haven't got the energy for a conversation.

OH then proceeds to say 'I don't know how you can clean that up' I grunt something about having no choice, he then complains that there's no need for me to be an a*se about it. (I will note there wasn't much sick, the dog wasn't feeling ill in anyway and didn't need my attention.)

AIBU to feel it's rude to wake someone up just because you don't want to clean it up yourself? I don't enjoy cleaning it up any more than he would. He also knows I've not been well and really in need of some rest.

Now here I am unable to sleep cause I'm too annoyed. He Never hesitates to wake me up over absolutely anything. He however, goes in a bad mood if he gets woken up when having a nap in the middle of the day on the sofa and one of the children make a noise!

Oh, wow. Just wow.

@tammym07 he clearly thinks that the ‘shit’ jobs are yours. Why is that? Because that’s how he sees your role/your position. I don’t usually come out with ‘LTB’ but you don’t need him as a lazy-arsed role model for your kids to copy. Take the kids and leave him the dog. No wonder you’re annoyed!

He is wrong and at that time of the night too. I say this as someone who was woken last night due to the dog having been sick in my son’s bedroom. 3 members of my family watched me clear it up. It wasn’t horrendous, but the smell lingered in my nostrils for ages and it took me a long time to get back to sleep!

Does your bedroom need vacuuming, OP? Bright and early every Sunday morning until he moves out?

I think it does.

I’m gobsmacked that he woke you to make you do it and even more so that you agreed. He’s ridiculous and I’d have a right go.

OP, why didn’t he let the dog out? dogs retch,
that is a warning, there is time, let the poor dog out!

The outrage here is well justified imo.
OP your ‘partner’ is sadistic.

My partner would never ever do this- wouldn’t cross his mind.

He wouldn’t interrupt my precious sleep for anything other than an absolute emergency.

Whose are the dogs?!

My DH has dogs. I tolerate them.
And yes, if one puked on the floor I would absolutely wake him and let him know!

One of them had pooped on the kitchen floor the other week so I woke DH at 6.30am to sort it.

DH goes to bed late and gets up late so I'm always first down. I don't mind opening the dog flap for them in the morning but I will absolutely not lick up dog poop or clean up dog sick.

What a prick. Wake him up from every nap. If he complains, say exactly what he said to you.

This sounds like a plot from an unfunny sitcom. I'd be asking his mother if he was raised to be so entitled.

Is it specifically your dog? That he didn't really want?

I would be having serious words about respect, and asking him what the teamwork of a marriage means to him.

What an absolute wanker. If this is what he is like with puke I bet he doesn’t clear up its shit either.

It sounds like you have emetophobia though, that’s different to just being a prick like Op’s husband

I would get rid of the dog

Which one, canine or human?

My abusive ex woke me up a couple of times in our relationship - not to clean up, but to make a point to me about something he disapproved of and something he wanted to challenge .

i didn’t stand up to him much, but the both times he did it I showed him ice cold fury. The 1st instance was right at the beginning of our relationship and the last was right at the end.

so I hope that you can wake up today and TELL him that if he EVER does that again, there will be repercussions.

oh and NEVER tip toe in your home again. Make sure that every sleep/nap is disturbed. Go totally PA on his arse.

I would only expect a child of mine to wake me up for this, even then only if they were under the age of about 12. If my husband did it I would simply refuse to get up. What a baby.

DH goes to bed late and gets up late so I'm always first down. I don't mind opening the dog flap for them in the morning but I will absolutely not lick up dog poop or clean up dog sick.

@Timeturnerplease That's understandable, I wouldn't lick it up either.

He's an abusive arse. He should have cleaned up.

if DH had done that to me, I would have told him to fuck off. No way would I have gotten up.

He's a sod.
The only excuse he could possibly have had is if it is your own personal dog, and that he agreed with you before getting the dog that you alone were responsible for clearing up of any messes.

An old neighbour had a greedy breed of dog {lived to late teens!} who used to shit indoors, eat it, and then vomit it up then eat it again. {Neighbour told me of this}

The most revolting habit that started because they didn't house train the dog initially so as a puppy the dog developed coprophagia when left alone with poo.

Another dog hater on MN

The dog is a completely innocent loving being, who loves their family. They don't deserve to be "got rid of".

People who think like this about pets are alien to me. Heartless and uncaring.

''I will absolutely not lick up dog poop or clean up dog sick.''

I hope that was a typo!

Sod that. What a prick. I would tell him exactly what I thought. I would also be up hoovering the bedroom and landing and clearing out my wardrobe at 7am if he was hoping for a lie in. My oh tried this if any of the kids were sick in the night. I promptly told him we are both parents and need to team up so one bathes and changes sick child and one strips and remakes bed and cleans the vomit . Set the ground rules and expectations early and do not be a door mat. He needs to man up. Nobody lines clearing up human or animal pule of poo but it has to be done!

You should also leave. Fuck that.

Your husband sounds like a complete arsehole.

Let me guess? He’s still fast asleep now knowing that his live in maid is there to do all the work.

LTB