One night stands/casual sex

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Both my husband and myself have only ever been with each other sexually. I have dated in the past and so has he but very short "relationships" I mean a date or two here and there, none of which lead to sex or anything close.

We met in our early 20's and have been together 15 years we have two young children.

Is it common for two people in their 30's to have never have had a sexual relationship with anyone else, we do not come from religious backgrounds or anything like that.

I see people out having casual sex and one night stands and just wonder why? What is the point? Surely you'd get as much sexual pleasure at home with a sex toy as you would from another person? We have an amazing sex life and relationship and and don't feel like we missed out on anything by not having other sexual relationships.

🤣🤣 great find fair play!

That's because you're with your husband. If you weren't who knows how you'd feel.

Or you've both just settled

Oh OP!!! Come on

Wow, this thread is grim. Of course you aren't the only people who have only been with each other but the smug judgemental tone you're giving can do one. I've slept with loads of people both before marriage, between marriages and after marriage (swingers!) and it's something I am very happy with. It doesn't devalue my sex life with my husband. I'd never judge you for only having one partner and you're very lucky to have a good sex life with him (many women in your position don't) so why judge me and how I get my kicks?

You're happy as you are. They're happy as they are. The world keeps turning. Although if you think masturbating eith a dildo is as good as having sex with another hot blooded person then I'm concerned about your amazing sex life.

😂😂😂😅😅😅😅😅😅 'putting your genetalia into another'
Oh, so very judgemental!
How very prudish!
How very dare anyone exchange body fluids and give another person pleasure unless they are bonded together in the house of a non-existant deity (or local council office)?
You made a decision to limit an aspect of your life that others do not necessarily want to limit. Do you get anniversary tokens like they do in AA?

😂😂😂

Hello 1950’s!

Stop judging something you haven’t got a clue about. Stop the sex-shaming. Sex is natural and it doesn’t change a person if they have had 1 or 501 partners as long as they are happy, safe and not hurting feelings.

You seem to sound very smug with your situation. Good for you. Personally, it sounds boring af but I wish you well.

I can see your point, OP.

But - I'm old, I'm single, my responsibilities are almost done. I think I'm entitled to any fun that comes my way. A night, a fortnight, a couple of years, whatever. Ten minutes, if the property is exceedingly hot.
As my grandma used to say 'a little of what you fancy does you good.'😂
[I don't know about other people but for me, sex toys are absolutely pointless and don't enhance the experience of having a wank, frankly.]

I was born in the 1950s. I can assure you (from the stories told by my parents) people were at it like rabbits. They knew very little about disease and whilst the contraceptive pill wasn't around, backstreet abortions were.

😂 this gave me a chuckle.

I'm the opposite in thought process, I have been with 2 people, long term relationships, now married to one of them that I've been with for 15 years. But I often wonder if I've missed out and do sometimes regret not doing a bit more before settling down, I'm not smug about having not experienced being with others, as there's nothing to be smug about.

Ffs 😂 it sounds just as amazing as you describe OP x

@ClawdeenWolf spectactularly perfect response! Thank you. 😃

Mmm... part of me wants to agree, but then again, there's been a dud or twio IRL!!

So thats what this thread is really about

Anyone who thinks playing with a toy is the same as sex with another person should not be judging other people's sexual choices.

I (being old and doddery) just googled a tracy's dog...
I have had to lie down with a cup of coffee
And my barclaycard...

In this thread she says she has been with him for 15 years.
I am confused; yes, it happens regularly, but which of OPs stories is the correct version?

For me, it’s the passion and that little flutter you get for the first time. I’m in my 40s and can’t imagine a situation where l had only had sex with one person.

Yikes, OP. At least the sex is amazing though...

'It's quite nice though isn't it? Sounds a tad smug but I also feel like our relationship is quite special when you look at how casual putting your genitalia into another person has become.'

Wow this is so judgmental! Really you've created this thread to say you're a better person for only ever having sex with one person. Very narrow minded and very smug not a tad. Why do you think only having sex with one person makes you special?

😂

Off to Google…

If you think sex with a person and sex with a toy is the same, I think perhaps the sex you're having isn't as good as it could be and you've actually missed out quite a lot by not having other people put their genitalia in yours.

Ha ha very smug, Op!
I was just like you……… until my delightful stbx decided after 25 years that he had missed out and wanted to see what he had missed. Needless to say, I have learned my lesson and am not so judgemental and now realise there are pros and cons to every different experience.
It’s lovely that your relationship is so ‘special’, doesn’t make you any better than someone who has multiple sexual partners.
I prefer to judge a person on their kindness of others now, not how many people have seen their genitals 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’m guessing they have been married for a shorter length of time than they have been together. So they’ve been together for 15, possibly married for three.