One night stands/casual sex

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Both my husband and myself have only ever been with each other sexually. I have dated in the past and so has he but very short "relationships" I mean a date or two here and there, none of which lead to sex or anything close.

We met in our early 20's and have been together 15 years we have two young children.

Is it common for two people in their 30's to have never have had a sexual relationship with anyone else, we do not come from religious backgrounds or anything like that.

I see people out having casual sex and one night stands and just wonder why? What is the point? Surely you'd get as much sexual pleasure at home with a sex toy as you would from another person? We have an amazing sex life and relationship and and don't feel like we missed out on anything by not having other sexual relationships.

Honestly, I enjoyed my 'escapades'... but if I had a do-over, I'd have just the one. Love and sex lose something when they're 'pluralised'. That one person, first love, 100% only for each other feeling is unrivalled. To know there are no competing feelings, experiences, sensations...
How many times do people look at their partner and wonder whether they've just settled, whether their ex was better, whether their heart is all in it... then you remember (more often than not) how intense that very first love was... imagine a whole lifetime of that, if it had worked out with that person.

Or a lifetime of wondering what it would be like with someone else so wondering if your partner ever thinks that….

What an utterly pointless post.

CBA to read the whole smug judgemental thread but will say this : if you think a sex toy is "the same" as having sex in terms of pleasure, your husband is shit in bed.
Hth.

Get off your phone and do your homework, OP. Only one day of school holidays left.

Everyone else, this is not a genuine poster so don’t share your wisdom/thoughts/experiences.

I wouldn't buy a household appliance without doing hours of research. I wouldn't want to choose a human I was going to spend the rest of my life with ,and trust and confide in beyond anyone else, without doing a little bit of research.

Op you do come across as very smug as though you think this makes you better somehow. It doesn't. I think you need to expand your thinking a bit.

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You sound like a right dick tbh.

You feel like this because you have never had a one night stand.
Yes there are some lovely benefits for being with the same person, i.e they know what you like, however, there are some benefits to multiple partners too.

I found that sex with different partners can bring lots of different sexual experiences, things that your partner does not do, can do things you wouldn't necessarily want to do with your partner. It can be quite liberating.

A lot of people don't just see sex as a 'love' act, it can be a form of experimentation and simply just 'fun' too.

I think it all depends on your individual wants and confidence.

It's lovely that you have only been with your partner, but personally I have had a great time 'experimenting' when I was younger which I will never regret.

I don't know a single person who got together in their 20s who have only slept with one person.

I know one couple who have been together since they were 14 and they have been together ever since, but they were young teenagers, not in their 20s.

I've had my share of having genitalia being dipped in me and while some were disappointing in the whole I've bloody enjoyed it.
I'd love to hear your feedback OP.
...OP?

There is nothing special about your relationship or about you judging people for their choices.

I've only had 3 partners and I've been with DH over 20 years. He's only ever been with me (we met as teenagers). Having had the limited experience that I he had I think it's best when you know each other well and what you both like. But I don't care what other people do, just don't feel I've missed much.

Edited to add that the replies here from more experienced people have made me look a this a bit differently and see the advantages of more varied experiences. Not going to open my relationship or spilt up to explore, but it's interesting.

After one person dipped their genitals into me and gave me an internal massage with them, l liked it so much, l asked a another boy (l was in my teens at the time, 40s now) to dip his in because l wanted to know what someone else felt like. So, I’d only known one oerson for less than a week.

Do l regret it? No! Would l do the same again. Too bloody right l would. It made me purr😀.

Bring on the name calling.

Oh. Wow. Super smug post thinly veiled as an attempt to understand something. Colour me shocked.

How would you know whether it's better or worse to have had ONS/casual sex or not when you've never done it?

There's nothing wrong with not doing it-but there's equally nothing wrong with doing it.

Do you really think a connection, even one just on purely physical level, with another person is the same as using a vibrator? What a peculiar mentality.

Not everyone meets the person they're going to spend the rest of their lives with young. Some people date for a while, think it's going well, have sex and then it doesn't go anywhere. So, they end up with multiple partners because of things just not working out.

Some people enjoy the thrill of being with other people. The experience they get. Some people just enjoy sex and don't want commitment but don't want to miss out on sexual experiences because of that.

You're not better than those people, OP. Really, you're not. Do your friends know that you think of them so poorly and yourself so highly by comparison? If they did-I wonder if they'd still be your friends.

I think you and your hubby are board shitless with your sex life if your honest

Then my work here is done!

I highly doubt the OP will be back. Should have name changed before you started this silly thread

Why on Earth would I be looking at my husband of almost 20 years wondering whether his ex was better?! I couldn't give a shit! I was married young, had lots of sex beforehand with other people which was fantastic and now I've settled down. I don't want to be someone's one and only and I don't want to be with someone with no sexual experience.

I don't find two people being each others only to be special at all!

You do sound quite judgmental. Just because your life worked out you can't seem to have a bit of consideration for people not in your position.

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