Handhold please dd out and not in touch

[Wherecanshebe]

Please can I have a handhold.

DD is out in London. I last heard from her about two hours ago. She had been to a show with a friend and they went to meet a couple of other friends at a pub.

She's 25. I know it's daft but it's out of character and her phone is off. It's getting late and if she's out of battery she won't be able to get an uber and may be stuck.

She had a bad afternoon and was in tears but we saw each other for an hour and she headed off happily at 6ish.

I know you're worried, but it's not even midnight yet!

I know it sounds daft but it's out of character.

25? You need to let go a bit.

Deep breaths. She is more than likely completely fine and having a lovely time with her friends who are working hard to cheer her up - and if they’re good friends I’m sure they won’t abandon her! They’ll get her an Uber/lend her a phone charger/let her crash if need be, and all will be well.

I’ve caused (and been caused!) this level of anxiety, when you just can’t get the worst case scenarios out of your head! But it’s always been completely fine. So - deep breaths ❤️

If she's been to a show, maybe she forgot to turn her phone back on again?

She probably turned her phone off when the show started and forgot to turn it back on again.
If she’s run out of battery, her friends will all have phones, or the bar could dirt her out with a cab. Or she could get a bus or walk?
Its too early to worry.

Omg I know that fear op. My dd is 22 and I’m the same. Can’t sleep when she’s out. Just lie in bed thinking of all the worst case scenarios. Ive got her on find my friends but it doesn’t always update - that’s when you think the worst.

In reality they’re sensible young women, enjoying life, with friends, in busy, well policed areas with lots of cctv cover.

Do you know any of her friend’s numbers? Can you send them a quick text. I know it’s embarrassing but it’ll ease your mind.

She’s probably out of battery. This happens with DS (18) from time to time. Signal can go funny in central London too. Try not to worry she’s with a friend , and at 25 more than resourceful enough to work out what to do if ‘stuck’. Lots of people are parents themselves at her age - DSD is a mum at 26. I understand your worry but she’s probably fine and forgotten the time, time passes very quickly on a night out.

Firm hand hold from me. My son and daughter live in the city and I honestly have to try NOT to think about them when they're out for a night. All I can say is, no matter how much they love us, we're not their priority as they get older. Of course they don't want us to worry but they have so much going on. The odds are that she's having a great time and would hate for you to worry. I hope she reassures you very soon so you can sleep. We never stop worrying.

She was in touch after the show and that was two hours ago. She's a tube and an overground away.

Why were you ringing her 2 hours after you last spoke?

It might not be off anyway, it's blowing a hoolie out there so could be a signal issue.

@WhateverMate because we message regularly and she wasn't messaging back. We hadn't spoken, we had messaged.

Ok, sounds a bit full on. Maybe she turned it off so she could concentrate on enjoying herself?

Anyway, I hope you hear from her soon.

She might have gone into a bar where there's no mobile signal - some of the ones underground are terrible for that.

Thinking of you - I’m sure she will be fine

She'd have to be on her way home due to trains and would have messaged if there was plans had changed.

Does she have the train tickets to get back?

She will be fine. My mum wouldn’t have had a clue what I was up to at 25.

Well she's probably on the underground then - hence no signal.

Does she live with you ie are you expecting her to be back home?

By the time I was 25, I had lived nearly 2000 miles away from my parents for several years. They would have no idea I was or wasn’t going out for an evening. They certainly had no idea when I would get home.

it’s nice that you are close, but you are taking it too far.

I know it is easy to spiral here particularly if it is out of character but she is fine and having fun

If they are meeting up with friends she will probably be chatting with them. What time would you expect her home?

I’m sure she will be fine and in touch soon

Hope she is OK.

Yes she does live at home.

I appreciate that some people travel the world at 25. When she was at uni I didn't worry but she's a quiet soul, gets anxious and whilst high functioning is neuro diverse.