I cannot handle my boyfriend's dog anymore

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Hi everyone, I hope you are all fine!
I'm in urgent need of advice, first of all, I want to highlight that I love all kind of animals, and I don't have anything specific against any breed.

I'll tey to make it short and explain the situation, I meet my boyfriend a year ago and we had a long distance relationship, we'll visit each other each month and I must say I am happy with him, he's hard working, he's a great person, and the most important, we incredibly connect.

Two months ago we took the desicion to move together, since I discovered I got pregnant. Everything has been wonderful, he bought a house, were we are both living together, bit here is the issue;
I have two cats, who are we'll trained and have never bitten or misbehaved. My boyfriend has a 10 years old pitbull who's not trained and, unfortunately (I did not noticed this before) not very well maintained, worse part the dog is incredibly aggressive towards other animals. Until now we did try to introduce them, and my cat's are really into getting close to the dog, but everytime the dog sees the cats he just wants to run towards them and attack them.

I'm terrorised that the dog will hurt my cats, and we are into the limit were it's either the dog locked downstairs, or my cats locked in the room (which makes me terribly angry, my cats spend days and nights locked in the room with me, without access to their litter box, because the dog cannot behave).

Plus point; the dog pee and poop everywhere in the house, it doesn't matter if you just walked her for 30 minutes, she will come back, rest and pee. She did her necessities in the couch, in the bed from downstairs, and the other couch.

Maybe here I am a bit not tolerant, but I was always very high demanding with myself and how clean my house was, plus now I am pregnant and I smell things five times more, so for me is like living in a house were it constantly stinks of dog pee, poop or just dog smell (yes, my boyfriend doesn't bath the dog, so it smells terrible, I can't even eat while the dog is near me, it just makes me sick).

This whole situation is making my life miserable. I know I sound extreme with this situation, bit I just cannot continue living this situation, seeing my cat's locked In a room because the dog cannot behave, but first of all, I cannot think of my child playing on the same place were the dog did her things.

I have tried to help my boyfriend as much as I could, I understand that this whole situation is also stressful for the dog, and it's been a month we are here, but all I do is clean every day 2 or 3 times the dogs pee and the poop. (My boyfriend is working, so technically is me cleaning it or being miserable with the smell)

I get it maybe the dog is not walking enough, and I have considered walking the dog myself to fix the issue, but the problem is that the dog pulls so much when walking, that I cannot control it, this dog goes crazy when he sees an other animal, and its so strong I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to control it, and I don't want the dog killing an other animal, I am not even allowed to walk the dog (it's a dangerous breed, so it's supposed to be walked by my boyfriend only) and I'm pregnant, I don't want the dog to make me fall or have an accident.

It's just like, the dog doesn't want any solution but just to be an ass hole, she broke two dog muzzles, so the idea of introducing the dog to my cat's using a muzzle is non existent, and I won't take the risk of just letting them be and having one of my cats killed.

Now, I don't want to ask my boyfriend to get rid of the dog, it's been with him for 10 years, I deeply love my animals, and I couldn't imagine giving up one of my cats, but I am stuck.
I know it's completely impossible to train the dog, she's too old, I'm pregnant and cannot really help (I barely stand to survive my own sickness) Andy boyfriend doesn't have time to train the dog, he works all day and comes back home extremely tired.

Any ideas of how to survive this? I'm literally crying every night thinking I will lose my boyfriend and my baby will lose growing with he's dad. I don't want that, but I don't want to live a miserable life, or force my cat's to live locked in a tiny room.
I need help desperately.

For me in simple terms if the dog isn't good around cats i wouldn't be happy leaving it around a baby. Not forgetting the hygiene aspect of a baby around dog poop and urine !! So a very serious conversation will need to be had before the baby arrives. If he can't appreciate the impending concerns for your new baby I would be highly sceptical he is as good as you think he is.

This also begs the question what did he do with the dog when he wasn't with you? No wonder the dog uses the house as a toilet if he was working long hours and the poor animal never got out. If this was the case poor animal, no walks, no socialisation, no toilet training , this man needs to be banned from having a pet. Disgraceful.

When he lived on his own he cleaned the poo and pee so no need for you to do that

Not ideal to get pregnant when in such a vulnerable position if he doesn't care about the safety of this baby then social services will take baby away before it's killed

I got a job 5 months pregnant

Big blouse and they. Can't ask

If he won’t get rid of the dog you need to make sure he:

• gets a trainer in, one that specialises in the breed / the problems the dog has
• if you cannot walk the dog and he doesn’t have time you either need to get a dog walker or he needs to do what over people do and get up earlier! I bring my dogs to an enclosed field every morning so that they can run off lead without other dogs / people about (one or my dogs is highly anxious and gets overwhelmed easily)
• you also need to put effort into getting to know the dog and do some work with it too so it feels relaxed around you

it’s a shit situation but if the dog is staying then that’s what’s needed

Why are your cats locked in a room with no access to their litter tray? It's pretty easy to put the litter tray in the room they are in

This is just cruel - you need to move out again or re-home either the dog or the cats

In the unlikely event this is a true story -

If the dog isn’t walked where is it supposed to crap? No dog would be happy having cats move into its territory, regardless of breed. That has to be carefully managed. Move out and stop making babies with lazy, useless men. You are asking advice on something which is a no brainer - If this story is true 😏

Why are you posting OP?

The only permanent solution to this is for you to move out, or your boyfriend to get rid of the dog. I wouldn't be having a fucking pitbull around any child, anyway.

You've said neither can be done, and instead are operating under the delusion that a 10 year old dog can be trained to be good around your cats.

No one on here can help you, especially if you are ignoring all the advice.

Firstly, pitbulls are a banned breed under the dangerous dogs act so your boyfriend shouldn't even have this animal in the 1st place. Secondly, with such a strong prey drive and being clearly out of control, there is a very high likelihood that this pitbull will attack and possibly kill your baby when baby arrives home.

The dog has to go: problem is, you cannot rehome a banned breed. If your boyfriend is not prepared to have the dog euthanized then you seriously need to move out for your sake, the cats' sake but more importantly for your baby! And don't even get me started on the dangerous germs and parasites in your furniture from dog excrement. My best friend was blinded in one eye as a child from parasites from dog poo when playing at the local park. I imagine it's also dangerous in pregnancy (dog poo can cause sheep to lose their lambs in utero).

Ye gods and baby goldfishes 🫣
For heaven’s sake beg, borrow or steal money to get yourself out of this unholy mess. How the heck you ever imagined this was a good idea I don’t know, but ffs think about your unborn baby (who can get infected by dog shit in utero) and get out.

The topic of the thread is a red herring. I suspect the OP has no idea what a dire legal situation she is actually in.

She has gone very quiet which makes me think it was either a fake thread or she’s suddenly reading up on her rights once the baby arrives.

Exactly. The thread has moved on and unbelievably awful as the dog situation is, it should actually be the least of the OP's concerns. Spain is party to the Hague Convention on Child Abduction, which means that if OP gives birth in Spain she will not be able to return to her home country with her child unless the father gives permission. Please OP, return home to have your baby. Then you can make any decisions about your relationship from there.

A Pitbull- Two cats and now you are pregnant ?
Please tell me you are not serious.

An untrained aggressive pitbull as you know is a serious risk to your cats and future baby.

You surely must know this.

Move out , for the safety of cats and future child.

Your boyfriend is an irresponsible dog owner who is not meeting his pet's needs. You are an irresponsible cat owner as you have put your cats in the position of having to live in a house with an aggressive dog. Keeping them shut in one room is cruel and unfair. And finally you CANNOT bring a new baby into this home. It is unsanitary and a dangerous environment. I'm sorry OP but you either rehome the dog or you leave. There are no other options.

Approach your local authority for housing. I assume you have made a claim for universal credit? Explain the circumstances that you cannot safely have baby in a house with a banned breed of dangerous dog that shits everywhere and are therefore homeless. This is a social services and child protection issue if you do not take steps now to secure safe accommodation ahead of the birth. You could end up having your baby removed for the safety of the child and if, god forbid, the child is harmed by the dog or found to be living in a house full of dog waste you could be criminally prosecuted for child neglect and endangerment. What on earth were you thinking moving in with this cretin and his out of control pitbull? What kind of moron owns a pitbull? And even worse, doesn't train it or have it under control!! This man is a walking red flag! He will be trouble as a father, I'd put money on it!

It sounds ultimately that the boyfriend is irresponsible, not only to own a breed like that but to also not train it. I'd be concerned to have that dog around my baby.

Sorry but re-reading the OP and there's no way this can be real. Absolutely nobody could be this stupid. Plus all just sounds like "pitbull" clickbait.

I didn't realise the legalities of having a child in Spain. Consider me educated!

Suspect you're right on either one of your counts.

And my worry is that with people just reading the OP and then just reiterating “get rid of the dog” or “it’s a banned breed” without seeing the updates useful posts are just getting buried. The dog is not the big issue here. I don’t think many women are aware of what dodgy ground they are on if they have a baby overseas and the relationship breaks down.

The OP needs to get legal advice, and move back home to have her baby. She can then go from there. But at the moment is is in such a vulnerable position.

Team Cats and Baby.

RTFT. The scenario is not the UK, it's Spain. Pitbulls are not banned there.

RTFT. The scenario is not the UK, it's Spain.

I can’t believe that anyone moves in with someone after seeing them a dozen times over a year and moves to another country lock, stock and barrel with no means of supporting themselves.
It’s ridiculous that you’re now bringing a baby into this OP.

The type of people who own dangerous dogs are not the type of people to have a child with

You don't bring a baby to that house. You move out! You find a way of moving out, You about to be a mum. You need to move out and look after yourself and baby.

He sounds utterly hopeless as a dog owner.
An untrained Pitbull at 10?
One that rarely gets walked as it's so strong?
Why does this not surprise me.

As usual ''Pissfingers'' {A meme name for Pitbulls} has a crappy owner and the messes fall on the now pregnant girlfriend.

There is a definite correlation as to how dogs and children are raised.

This man will be an equally shite 'father' looking at the signs.

Poor baby. Poor cats. Innocent victims of human's poor choices.