Am I being unreasonable - I don’t actually like people

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I’ve been feeling this way for a while, a kind of permanent low anxiety, and I think I’ve figured out what it is - I don’t think I actually like being around people.

I mean, I like some people more than others, I’m not socially inept, I get on with people and I have friends and family. I don’t live alone. I enjoy company sometimes. But I like being on my own a lot more than I like being with other people. I get irritated by little things that people do or say that are probably quite innocuous. I never say anything, but I get this rising feeling of disdain bubbling away inside me.

I crave being on my own it, and sometimes I will carve out time for it. It’s not always easy. I never feel lonely on my own. I’m even considering going on holiday on my own, even though Ive never done it before, and some people may find that a bit weird.

Im nearly 40 so I’ve pretty much become the person I am and I’ve come to terms with that. But I’m not sure if there is something “wrong” with me or not.

There's nothing wrong with you. People are shit.

I think there’s a lot of us like that. I’m not fussed with other people to be honest. I prefer spending time with my dog.

It’s Millenial Syndrome. The generation of Emo kids who never truly grew out of our apathetic ways, and the closer we get to middle age, the more we revert to our anti social teenage selves.

I was never a emo but yes maybe it’s a middle age thing too. I think I read somewhere that people stop collecting new friends after about early 30s, and that’s certainly true of me.

I'm fond of a good few individuals, but no, I'm not mad about people at a population level.

I’m 44 and love being on my own too. I breathe a sigh of relief when they are gone here in the mornings. Everyone is so irritating.

People are crap, surround yourself with dogs.

Give me a house miles and miles from anyone, a security guard who will remain silent, and a fortnightly delivery of whatever I order and everyone else can FUCK RIGHT OFF.

I'm exactly the same, I'm 33. I grow tired of people really quickly and I also don't have any close friends. Social situations are quite exhausting for me.
There is one girl I meet up with every few weeks who I know from school and we take our babies out together, we get on really well but the thought of maintaining a friendship where I have to meet them every week is a no from me.
I've always enjoyed my own company and my partner is the only person I've found I enjoy being with every day and I don't ever feel like I want time away from him. We are due to get married in November and it's literally just the two of us getting married, no guests or family will be there and we can't wait!

I am exactly the same, have been for a good few years! I now only have 2 close friends in this country and one in NZ and that will do me fine!
I find the general population uncaring, rude, self-centred, irritating and thoughtless.
I've had a couple of friends in my life that have kind of blinkered me? I enjoyed their company so much at the time, I overlooked their true personalities. Greedy, all taking no giving, high expectations (that I'd be ok treating them and paying all the time, even though all 3 of them worked, as did I!) no give and take in making arrangements to do things, as in it was always on their terms.
It's only looking back in the last few years, that I realise they weren't the true friendships I thought they were. So gradually I phased those out and backed off from being sociable.
My husband does have a moan every now and again that I don't want to go if there's an event on, where our long term friends will be, but I tell him I'm quite happy to drop him off and he can taxi or bus home! I am completely happy with that.
My idea of hell is making small talk with people I have very little in common with now.
I'm planning on a holiday on my own in the next couple of years too! Can't wait!
You do what makes you happy. I have no problem at all with my own company, I cherish it and can honestly say I am never lonely!

I'm Gen X and find being around people exhausting. Much happier avoiding most other people as much as possible.

Wouldn’t that be bliss. I love my family but I’m not much interested in the company of others. It took me until I was over 40 to realise this and I think it must be why I detested school from being a small child. I just didn’t want to be around people. A perfect evening for me is everyone has gone out and I can just sit in the lovely peace and think x

Could have written this myself. Alone is best 👌

I actually get stressed when I am around people for too long.

I don’t think it’s a millennial thing, I’m in my 60s and love spending time alone. Have the best singles holidays, go into town, get lunch, see a movie, go to the theatre. All happily by myself.

People are bloody exhausting. I'd quite like to live on an island with just my dog. I've definitely got worse as I've got older! I think I'm just less inclined to put up with things that make me uncomfortable and more likely to please myself.

It is the illusion people create that is seen through...........

I’m a bit like this. I love being alone. However I would not want to live somewhere isolated or remote. I like knowing other people are there even if I don’t particularly want to engage with them!

I think you would be surprised at how many people feel exactly the same way as you. Embrace it, that's who you are.

I love being alone . I recuperate by spending time alone. I crave it. Sadly I don't get it often .

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being like that.

Sounds perfect. Perhaps we could have a sort of mini village of like-minded souls so we're far enough away to never be a nuisance but still in the approximate vicinity in the event of a crisis. Or actually sod that, how about an island with a few of us on (and a great delivery service and helicopters for emergencies) so that technically we're not completely cut off but we can't have visitors dropping by.
OP - just wait till you hit perimenopause, then you'll hate all people with a passion!

A mini village of like minded souls.... that would be an ashram

I was about to say- it's only gets much much worse at menopause!

Yes this is me,I’ve always liked my own company so it was bliss when I retired from work.3 years ago I moved to a tiny hamlet in the countryside,surrounded by fields.I have a few distant neighbours who are like minded,if I need help they are there but otherwise I never see them.It is paradise…

I think I was a lot more sociable in my 20s and even 30s, then I had kids and now Im early 50s I've had quite enough of people thank you. I would love to have a little bolthole that I could go to for hours at a time and have no one speak to me or breathe near me. Bliss.