DH and his sandwiches - I'm gonna go postal

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mynamechange94 · 20/03/2024 20:31

Ever since lockdown started and DH has mostly been working from home, he has a sandwich for lunch with little cubes of cheese and cold meats etc. Every day, pretty much, he has the same sandwich.

And every single god damn fucking day he leaves the chopping board, bread knife and butter knife on the kitchen counter.

I've asked. I've pleaded. I've threatened a star chart. Nothing has worked.

AIBU to lose my shit soon if he can't just put the knives and chopping board in the washing up before he eats?

I'm obviously not perfect, and I'm well aware that I have wildly irritating habits too, but I just want him to put the stuff in the washing up pile. Is that really too much to ask? AIBU?

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ftp · 23/03/2024 00:33

AdultFemaleWoman · 20/03/2024 20:46

So just before the Prince come down for his bread and cheese and cured meats, make a sandwich of your own using all the clean utensils to do so. Buttery knife, crumbs, open meat, sweaty cheese. Make sure there are no clean plates or silverware he can use. See what he says then.
Your mission is set.
Report back tomorrow at 13:00 hours

Yep!

ProseccoOnSafari · 23/03/2024 05:15

TheChosenTwo · 20/03/2024 20:43

Do the cubes of cheese not fall out of the sandwich?

THIS! It’s been doing my head in!!

nationalsausagefund · 23/03/2024 07:22

OldPerson · 22/03/2024 20:37

It's never about the bread board. It's not like it's a tsumani of mess all of over the home. It's a bread board that takes 2min to clear away into the dishwasher.

Are you both home and annoying each other? Are you jealous he's home and you have to go out to work?

Get over the bread board.
But work out if you compromise over the bread board, what do you want in return to be happier?
He starts taking the kids out for an hour every week?
He puts the bins out every week?
He does bath times or reading a story?

What is the one simple thing he could take over every week that is not the bread board.

But you either have very serious problems in your relationship (control or lack of respect) or you don't have any real problems (boredom) if you're having a melt down over a bread board.

Why can’t he do one simple thing that is put the bread board away

NoIamcactusius · 23/03/2024 08:51

LilySLE · 22/03/2024 21:25

Before he eats? That’s unreasonable. Afterwards - that’s reasonable.

I don’t understand why before or after makes a difference here.

It’s literally just moving the board and knife to by the sink and wiping up any crumbs. It’s not even going to take 30 seconds. It’s probably more like 15 seconds, so makes no difference if it’s before or after.

She’s not asking him to wash and dry a whole load of stuff.

I don’t think it would be reasonable to dictate that he do it before he eat but I don’t think it would make a difference either way.

Middleagedspreadisreal · 23/03/2024 08:57

Life's too short.

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