My ds dresses like he’s about to rob a shop on his escooter!

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He DOESN’T own a scooter… just looks like he should

I posted this in teens without much response, so apologies for duplicate post.

When will he grow out of this?! AIBU to be a bit disappointed?

He’s 14, all clothes are JD brands mercier, hoodeich, zavetti. His recent purchase is a hip pack 🙄

I’m really not trying to be judgemental, esp to his face!… DH on the other hand just takes the piss, which I wish he wouldn’t do! But I know he’s trying to be someone he’s not… listening to travis scott and drill type shite music. We don’t live in a city or even a large town. No gangs round these parts

I hope it doesn’t stick!

The way he dresses is expressing and expiring his identity, we all did it and do it. Clothes alone aren’t a problem but others will judge.

the thing that stands out is that you have no gangs… please don’t let that fool you, county lines and the distribution of nasties is a thing all over. Not suggesting your son is involved, but I am pretty certain a few of my neighbours have had a similar thought about gangs to be shocked to find they youngsters getting involved 😢

I remember going out aged 15 in fucking beachwear (crop tops and sarongs were in), with silver jewellery in the shapes of various religious symbols I knew nothing about, even though I was very anti religion, and Sun In in my hair (sun-kissed streaks or blotches of shitty amateur bleach damage? It's a matter of opinion!).

I thank God there were no camera phones or social media.

As a female I hate seeing males dressed in any way that is intimidating and I would want a son of mine to add to that

My boys are the same and funnyli enough my dog when out for a walk thinks that every teenagers are my teenagers as they all look the same

its been edited to add he doesn't have a scooter meaning now everyone thinks it's ok to insult me like that and ruin my day. Thanks so much.

It is normal to hate the way your teen dresses, in the same way that it is normal to be irritated by their slang. It is a healthy part of them finding their own identity!

It's probably just what he feels comfortable in. Mine hate what they deem uncomfortable clothes or anything fitted. It's a battle to get them to wear jeans or chinos and a nice pair of shoes for parties and meals out etc.

They live in tracksuits, given they're sporty and when not at their sports clubs, they're out with their friends at the nearby sports complex, but even if they're off to watch the football, go into town, bowling, cinema literally anything they can get away with its tracksuits as the choice.

As long as they look clean and tidy and not like vagabonds I just let them get on with it, it's their choice at the end of the day.

It's been edited to add that bit since I posted meaning everyone now thinks it's a free for all to have a go at me. Nice. Enjoy your day thanks for ruining my Monday morning which was already shit.

What do you think a teenage boy would wear...chinos and a tucked in shirt with sensible loafers. Poor thing. Leave him be and stop stereotyping

My DS and all his pals are from naice middle-class families and dress like this. They look like they’re going out to mug someone one and JD Sports is their house of worship. But they all get good grades, visit grandma and do their chores so I think it will pass.

IT'S BEEN EDITED TO SAY HE DOESN’T HAVE A SCOOTER DON'T ALL COME AT ME READ THE EDIT HISTORY BEFORE YOU START CALLING ME NAMES

My 15 year old white Privately educated Yorkshire born and bred son and all his mates think they are Brixton Roadmen (Bruv).
If they actually met one they would either die of fright or hide behind their Mums

WHY HAVEN'T YOU READ THE EDIT HISTORY BEFORE CALLING ME NAMES

Edited 1 minute after posting.

Well done on winning your race to make the first sarky unhelpful comment in the thread.

BTW your caps lock is broken.

Are you letting him mix with people who dress like that? This isn’t a universal problem. He needs the kind of peers you want him to copy.

It didn't say it when I posted. It wasn't a sarky post. 14 year old shouldn't have escooters they are dangerous

🤣🤣🤣🤣I hope you have a good poker face, because my face/eyes would be doing all sorts 🤣🤣🤣

The level of snobbery on this thread is wild. Not all kids from rough estates are drug dealers or are going to rob your nan.

God,I used to wear skirts so short they could pass as a belt

Teamed with crop tops so short,they where held on with my nipples

On my feet where knee high boots

Then I had two daughters-thank god they just didn't bother with fashion (or wear what I did-it was all adidas jackets and tracksuit bottoms) but both discovered 'these cool bands,have you ever heard of them mum?'

Take that,blur,oasis and East 17...

And accusing OP's son of being a drug dealer wasn't sarky?

You're moaning about posters somehow ruining your Monday morning - by that logic were you trying to ruin OP's Sunday evening with your baseless accusations?

Op just make sure you get loads of photos and videos of him. One day he will deny ever dressing like that. Huge photo card on his 30th birthday will remind him though.

Ha! We've got one who still hasn't grown out of this at 22yrs old. We just take the piss and look forward to the day when he leaves it all behind him. Although, I'm wondering if that's ever going to happen.

He also has an 'accent'. He hasn't dropped this either. It's all about identity and belonging. A peer pressure type thing that is so much stronger in boys than girls.

Like yours, ours is a truly lovely human being though so we just see it as a quirk. And don't worry about what others think...he's our boy and we love him to bits.

Nope it wasn't. I was enquiring as to whether thought had been given to him being a drugs runner as that's what the kids round here do with them.

Just be glad you don't live in an area where gang life is a real possibility, I really worry for my neices and newphews, they will be in secondary soon and we are going to have to work hard to keep them out of that.