My ds dresses like he’s about to rob a shop on his escooter!

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He DOESN’T own a scooter… just looks like he should

I posted this in teens without much response, so apologies for duplicate post.

When will he grow out of this?! AIBU to be a bit disappointed?

He’s 14, all clothes are JD brands mercier, hoodeich, zavetti. His recent purchase is a hip pack 🙄

I’m really not trying to be judgemental, esp to his face!… DH on the other hand just takes the piss, which I wish he wouldn’t do! But I know he’s trying to be someone he’s not… listening to travis scott and drill type shite music. We don’t live in a city or even a large town. No gangs round these parts

I hope it doesn’t stick!

Take photos, they'll be funny in a few years.

^ This. Just cringe through it and it will be over soon.

Mine dress like they're rappers but they also have a more toned down look with cargos and T-shirts/sweatshirts. I'm so pleased when they're in those.

Yep, I’ve 3 cousins like that- 13-15, lovely middle class girls school etc. County level sports and all the trappings of middle class ‘naice’… but look like a tangerine with eyelashes rolled through JD 🤷‍♀️.

DS is only 11… he is obsessed with designer labels. We are not a designer label family.

He wanted a Chanel handbag for Christmas- I laughed for about 3 weeks and wandered around chuntering to myself about bloody kids, where do they get these ideas, til my mum reminded me I spent most of my teenage years in a transparent vest top with a German army shirt open over the top and so I have no room to talk!

Brilliant 🤣🤣

This is where ds is at thank goodness!

Also if ds is anything to go by you can steer them a bit by playing old school hip hop and collaborations between rappers and and seriously talented female vocalists and have some decent music playing in the house and it sends them off down musical rabbit holes with broadening taste.

I was surprised to hear one of my son’s favourite songs is dance me to the end of love by Leonard Cohen the other day and am often surprised to hear what’s playing in between all the gangster music.

I was surprised to hear one of my son’s favourite songs is dance me to the end of love by Leonard Cohen the other day and am often surprised to hear what’s playing in between all the gangster music.

90s tunes, ie the songs of our youth, are huge with teens now.

They think they've discovered them. It comes via TikTok, in a lot of cases.

My youngest plays Put Your Head On My Shoulder (Paul Anka, 1959!) endlessly. Refuses to believe it's not something he alone discovered, in amongst his rap music, a lot of that also being 90s!

I'm fascinated with the subtle differences of what's cool / definitely not. One of my DS wanted a (of course) grey & black North Face tracksuit at Christmas. I saw the same one but with a dark blue / black combo & thought it was nicer.

He looked horrified. Apparently it was absolutely uncool.

I've come around to the skin fade / length on top look, except for the cost - it really only looks good when properly done by a barber & those prices have shot up here.

South West London here. My 14 yo son is the same. It's like uniform for teen boys. I've asked why , he said to blend in.

@benjoin even if you don’t read the whole OP, at least read the first sentence!!

They all dress like that! Can't wait for DS to emerge from the fog of Lynx Africa and develop a style of his own, but in the meantime at least hoodies and joggers are warm and practical.

Loose leaf tea 🤣🤣🤣

When my dd was at a naice grammar school in the Home Counties her year talked like roadmen. They would have wet themselves if they’d ever encountered one in real life mind you.

You should count yourself lucky it's not still the era of Covid face masks. DS1 used to look like a mugger when he went out wearing black everything including the mask and his hood up. No "chicken shop bag" though (as sported by chicken shop drug dealers)

DS used to dress like that at a similar age. Now at 19 he dresses like he’s been sent by the Times to report from the Spanish Civil War, just needs a Box Brownie over his shoulder.

I wouldn’t worry.

I’d like to say yes, they grow out of it, but my idiot 17 year old also recently added a tattoo to his line up of “drug dealer/prison inmate chic” attire.

Without permission, obviously, because if he’d discussed his plans we’d have been able to point out why a gigantic black cross tattooed to the side of his skull may not have been the wisest life choice.

He’s just trying to be cool, it’s standard for a 14yr old boy. He’ll look back in a few years and think what a knob he looks 🤣 don’t worry about what people think, worry about him feeling happy and confident in his appearance, it’s hard enough for them at this age. But it would make me cringe too, I get it. My 21 year old from the ages of 12-16 looked like a shoplifting rampage in Sports Direct 😁

A colleague's son suddenly got into the nastier kind of rap.

The only thing he could think of was if you can't beat em, join em.

So he bought the whole outfit including the blingy pendant and went around in it, talking gangsta, doing weird gestures with his fingers, playing it loud and talking along with it.

Saying it was absolutely marvellous, and what a super time they were having together with their new daddy and son hobby.

Teen mortified and out of it very quickly. 😈

My boy is 13 and this sounds like you could be writing about him.
We live in a rural area too and all his friends dress like this.

This is the fashion for them but I do draw the line on some brands such as hoodrich and trapstar as I think they are "too much" and my son is fine with this, i think he agrees.
He also likes running type clothing such as montirex so one day he could look like a drug dealer and the next like he's doing a 10k run.
Just roll your eyes inside, this is the current fashion. He will change his style soon no doubt.
As for music my son has varied taste, sometimes he's blasting awful drill music and then he has Coldplay or Elton John on.

@LoopyLooooo

'a satsuma with eyelashes...'

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My 15 YO loves the Mercier stuff but I won’t buy it for him any more as their advertising is 100% aimed at car stealing scooter scrotes.

The drill music would piss me off more than anything

Pahaha!!

That's so funny! (Sorry) His hair will cover it in future ... until it falls out. He's going to get a double shock if/when he goes bald, as he'll have forgotten all about it by then 😆

In the early 80’s my db used to wear an Afghan coat and had long straggly hair.
He was really unkempt.
Bob Geldof looked cleaner!

The girls adored him.

I mean if you can't look like a twat between ages 13-18 then when can you? Its literally for discovering who you are, what you like and where you fit.

I bet if we revisited your teens you would have had some questionable clothing choices too.