Friend mad because I sat down to have coffee

[trekking1]

Please tell me if I am being BU or is she.

Made plans with two friends to go on a walk this morning. Me and one friend arrive on time, the other one is late. Neither of us had coffee this morning so we sat down in the nearest coffee shop and told our friend to meet us there. She arrives, orders coffee and food (this info will be important later) and after we go on the walk. Everything was completely fine during the walk, but when I got home I received a fuming message from her!

She said that we knew she was broke and that's why she wanted to go on a walk and it was really insensitive that we sat down to have coffee forcing her to spend money. I responded no one forced her to have anything as she could have just had water and that if I need coffee because I haven't had one this morning, it's unreasonable to expect I'm gonna give up having one because of her.

Her reply was that she felt forced to order something because the staff would judge her. I told her I used to work customer service so I can guarantee you they don't care if one person among a group of 3 does not order anything. Then I asked her if she is so broke, why on earth did she order coffee AND food?😂I got no reply.

But then she adds food which adds more waiting time 🤣😂

If she was that much in a rush to walk, she wouldn't have been 20mins late 🤣

OP said she's offered many times and friend refuses every time so what is OP supposed to do?

Sit around like a thirsty gobshite for 20 mins waiting for her friend to grace her with her presence. Obviously!

Another one here who had a friend starting with A who was always late and always pleading poverty yet found the ££££££ for regular Botox, fillers and a boob job all the while poncing drinks and disappearing when it was her round

I have a similar friend - constantly pleads poverty but has a couple of holidays a year and buys expensive bags and accessories! I don't begrudge her anything, it's her money but don't then say you're skint! Also, my friend wouldn't have a go at me for her spending!

she felt forced to order something because the staff would judge her.

she felt forced to do something because XYZ - is she 4?
Did she never have the mantra from older relatives? Obviously not...
If he told you to jump in the fire - would ya?
If he told you to jump off a bridge - would ya?

@trekking1 did you point out that if she’d been on time things could have gone differently? I’d have to say ‘hang on, broke? Yesterday you asked me to go on holiday. Are you or aren’t you? Just don’t order then’. Sounds very wearing 😡