Friend mad because I sat down to have coffee

[trekking1]

Please tell me if I am being BU or is she.

Made plans with two friends to go on a walk this morning. Me and one friend arrive on time, the other one is late. Neither of us had coffee this morning so we sat down in the nearest coffee shop and told our friend to meet us there. She arrives, orders coffee and food (this info will be important later) and after we go on the walk. Everything was completely fine during the walk, but when I got home I received a fuming message from her!

She said that we knew she was broke and that's why she wanted to go on a walk and it was really insensitive that we sat down to have coffee forcing her to spend money. I responded no one forced her to have anything as she could have just had water and that if I need coffee because I haven't had one this morning, it's unreasonable to expect I'm gonna give up having one because of her.

Her reply was that she felt forced to order something because the staff would judge her. I told her I used to work customer service so I can guarantee you they don't care if one person among a group of 3 does not order anything. Then I asked her if she is so broke, why on earth did she order coffee AND food?😂I got no reply.

Some people are fucking obsessed with walking it's so weird. YADNBU.

What a drama lama. She could have easily just sat with you guys until you finished

Reminds me of an ex friend, constantly blaming me for her not having any willpower to stay on a diet. Er no it’s not my responsibility to police your food 🤨

Astonishing that people think you should be buying her coffee when you have previously said she lives above her means spending too much on holidays.
And people calling OP not a real friend, when this other girl sat had coffee and food holding her anger in just to text it to her later... 😕

I wonder now if she is lying about being broke being as she ordered coffee and food and just said that as it was the first thing that popped in her head. I wonder if it's more a case of wanting to get going on the walk cos of time (but if she is that busy why bother going for a walk anyway?)

YANBU. Seems odd she's more bothered about being judged by a stranger (who probably couldn't give two hoots if she ordered or not) than how you'd feel over receiving her ranty message. And to top it all off, ordered cake on top it, anyway.

I'd offer to pay her back the money she spent on coffee and food and then block her. Life's too short.

Oh this is an easy one.

She's a twat.

I love that this is your reason for voting YANBU😆

She sounds a bit anxious. Is she usually easy to be pushed to do what she doesnt want to do?

YANBU. Your friend could have just bought a drink or ask for tap water. The staff wouldn’t have judged her for not buying food, unless it was a restaurant at lunchtime or evening.

This is exactly what I came on to say. Would she rather you both stood outside in the rain for her? She sounds like a self absorbed cf . The world does not revolve around her. Maybe there would not have been coffee if she had actually learnt to be on time. She is just pissed off because she wanted to be in control and wasn't. Fuck that!

😂It's not just that but it was probably 60% of the reason lol.

Tell her to be on time next time. She is unreasonable.

Op said further up if the friend had been on time they wouldn't have sat down, they would have got it to go so still would have went for coffee.

From what I have read, your friend is clearly in the wrong, all ye did was sit down to have a coffee while ye were waiting for her late arrival.
Once she arrived there was no need for her to order a coffee and food, she could have just sat down with ye, how dare she accuse you of being out of order

Does she have form for being unreasonable?…..she sounds like a pain in the backside

Has she replied @trekking1 ?

phoning her would sort it out quicker. It’s harder to stay annoyed about things like this if you have to say it out loud to a reasonable person.

Shocking.

Ha yes send this but add ‘but not the food that’s totally on you 😂😂’

Maybe she should try being on time.
What a drama queen she is.

WTF???? She is a grown woman and should be able to restrain herself and spend within her limits.

It’s very very stupid and immature to buy food and drinks you can’t afford because you feel pressure and OP didn’t even order food just drinks get she forms late and orders food and fiends then gets upset.

Op did she send the same txt to your other friend too?

This is like the time my friend got super mad at me for not telling her she had to order extras on her five guys burger (they tell you at the till) and she sat and ate a dry burger with not ketchup fuming at me.

Basically - she’s got flustered in the moment and blamed it on you.

probably being in a shop she’s unfamiliar with added to it